Nanny Desperately Seeking Advice

[Anonymous]

You are getting paid to work those kind of hours and be flexible. If you don't like it find another job. Reality is it will be hard to find another job paying close to that where the parents don't expect that kind of help.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You are getting paid to work those kind of hours and be flexible. If you don't like it find another job. Reality is it will be hard to find another job paying close to that where the parents don't expect that kind of help.

Op here: The issue is not the kind of help that is required of me. The issue is being treated like a human being and respecting me as a professional
Nanny providing a service in their home. It wouldn't take much for them to shop some small amount of human decency by allowing me to spend SOME holidays with my family, AND not texting me when I am off duty.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You are getting paid to work those kind of hours and be flexible. If you don't like it find another job. Reality is it will be hard to find another job paying close to that where the parents don't expect that kind of help.

Op here: The issue is not the kind of help that is required of me. The issue is being treated like a human being and respecting me as a professional
Nanny providing a service in their home. It wouldn't take much for them to shop some small amount of human decency by allowing me to spend SOME holidays with my family, AND not texting me when I am off duty.

"Show" not "stop"

[Anonymous]

If they are both working and traveling so much how do they have time to make you so upset?

You signed up for a stressful, high maintenance, high pay job so take it or leave it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Your health insurance is insane. Do you have health issues? I pay less than $200 a month.

Not an expert in health insurance, but I am single and my employer pays over $500 a month for my full coverage insurance. Just throwing that out there.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You are getting paid to work those kind of hours and be flexible. If you don't like it find another job. Reality is it will be hard to find another job paying close to that where the parents don't expect that kind of help.

Op here: The issue is not the kind of help that is required of me. The issue is being treated like a human being and respecting me as a professional
Nanny providing a service in their home. It wouldn't take much for them to shop some small amount of human decency by allowing me to spend SOME holidays with my family, AND not texting me when I am off duty.

You cannot change people OP. Your choice is in deciding whether the money is worth it or not - and only you can make that call.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Your health insurance is insane. Do you have health issues? I pay less than $200 a month.

Not an expert in health insurance, but I am single and my employer pays over $500 a month for my full coverage insurance. Just throwing that out there.

Yes, that's a pretty normal insurance premium for a family.

[Anonymous]

Your MB is ridiculous but for that pay she will always find someone who does what she wants. So you can either take it at that pay, or find something that pays less an is less stressful and she will find someone else.

I can not imagine why anyone would have 6 kids if the intend to source them out to multiple nannies for 50-100 hours a week.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, I'm sorry. You still should be treated with respect and decency despite being paid well. You don't pay someone more money to be treated badly and "owned".

I'm a career nanny and have been for a very long time. I have interviewed with wealthy families such as yours a few times, and been offered the positions. I turned them down. In every case, I decided to earn less money and take positions with upper-middle class families I really liked. They really respected and valued me and my work. Now when I look back over the years in those positions, I'm so glad I chose them.

Your MB will not change. You have to ask yourself if it's important enough for you to work for different people and make less money, or if the money is the priority. If so, figure out how to manage the situation the best you can (though the MB flat out told you she won't change anything). It's a tough decision. Do what's best for you. Good luck.

OP here: Thank you so much for this....you have no idea how much just your words have helped me this morning. I completely agree with everything you said. I have been looking for something else for quite some time, and have had interviews with other high net worth families that have offered me the position, but have turned them down because they all have the same mentality that my current boss has. I am definitely willing to lower my rate to 30 an hour and if need be work with multiples (twins, triplets) for that rate. Sometimes, I find that things come along when you aren't looking...so maybe I will just wait until one of my agencies contacts me with a great new opportunity. Again, thank you for your advice. I really do appreciate it.

You are most welcome, OP! I've done this for 20+ years, so I figured my perspective may help. I'm so happy I chose as I did. Ultimately for me, the money was less important, though I respect everyone makes their own decisions there. Sounds like you have solidified your priorities and your plan. Good luck!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Your health insurance is insane. Do you have health issues? I pay less than $200 a month.

Not an expert in health insurance, but I am single and my employer pays over $500 a month for my full coverage insurance. Just throwing that out there.

My insurance is 100 per month I'm 31

[Anonymous]

I didn't read all of the replies, so I apologize if I'm repeating what others have said.

Here's my honest opinion from someone who has worked for high net worth and high profile families. I also have a similar background and experience level to you. Most of the jobs at that salary level have some sort of crazy you have to put up with. Only you can decide if the level of crazy and drawbacks are worth it to you in exchange for the high salary.

After my last job with a high net worth family that was a living hell I decided I didn't want to deal with that kind of crap on a daily basis anymore. I'm took about a 20% paycut to start, but I'm so much happier in my position that is was 100% worth it to me.

Best of luck OP, I know how difficult it can be.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Your health insurance is insane. Do you have health issues? I pay less than $200 a month.

Not an expert in health insurance, but I am single and my employer pays over $500 a month for my full coverage insurance. Just throwing that out there.

My insurance is 100 per month I'm 31

Health insurance in New York is crazy expensive, even with the affordable health care act. My policy was almost $800 a month when I was living there a few years ago. Coverage was good, but not great and I am 33 now. Prior to the affordable health care act they had a "Healthy New York" program for small businesses and indviduals that was supposed to provide affordable coverage to people who made under a certain amount of money per year. The cheapest plan through that program was about $400 a month the last time I checked into it.

I'm in California now and my plan is $400 a month for pretty good coverage. Prices really depend on what state you live in.