New temp nanny is 4 months pregnant

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My only concern is her NOT telling you; that's deceptive!

It's entirely possible the nanny did not know.

I'm floored by the number of women here who think it's peachy-keen to fire a nanny who's pregnant. How would you feel if your employer canned you for pregnancy? How long before you called a lawyer?

I've had a pregnant nanny, and it was fine. Better than fine. She was wonderful, in part because I didn't treat her as less than human.

All workers, but women especially, need to be aware that laws against discrimination in hiring, and accommodation for disabilities, including pregnancy symptoms, do not apply to small employers. You have no legal protection as a nanny.

I also had a pregnant nanny. She was young, and it was her first pregnancy. She missed 1-2 days a week nearly every week until the middle of her pregnancy when she went to part time. So, no, not every pregnancy works out for working just because the employer was fine with it.

In this case, though, it sounds like she hasn't had any unusual issues so far, so there's no reason to think she won't be able to manage.

I'm aware it's legal to discriminate against pregnant women if you're a small employer. That doesn't make it ethical or fair.

[Anonymous]

I think you should keep her on, but you will most likely have to make some accommodations to her job.

Like you stated, you cannot let her carry heavy items up the stairs anymore.

But if she is young and healthy, I am sure she will be able to keep up with your kids fine.

Lots of pregnant mothers chase their other kids around and are fine.

Good exercise and training, I say.

[Anonymous]

Pregnancy isn't an illness. In the absence of complications, just let her work. If she can't do her work, then you will have to let her go. But if she can do the job, and I never met a woman in her 7th month who couldn't carry a laundry basket, leave her be.

[Anonymous]

You are discriminating against her by even asking. If your boss had done tjis to you, you would have been screaming about discrimination and threatening to sue. Of course, you are only thinking of her. How touching.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My only concern is her NOT telling you; that's deceptive!

Dies this also apply to all women not telling prospective employer they are pregnant? No. She doesn't have to tell OP she is pregnant.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My only concern is her NOT telling you; that's deceptive!

Dies this also apply to all women not telling prospective employer they are pregnant? No. She doesn't have to tell OP she is pregnant.

Exactly. Just look at the jobs and careers forum to see some REAL advice about this. HA.

[Anonymous]

I didn't intend my comment to come off the way it did. I think once she got to 12 weeks she should have disclosed. How awkward for an employer to have to notice your bulging stomach. She had no reason to disclose at interview just like any other job. I disclosed pretty early on for two reasons: MB1 noticed I was tired and barely functional and suggested I take a pregnancy test so I pretty much had to tell her. I told MB2 a couple weeks later because I had to start going to the Doctor once a month. I never missed work before that so it was better I disclose than constantly missing work.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My only concern is her NOT telling you; that's deceptive!

Dies this also apply to all women not telling prospective employer they are pregnant? No. She doesn't have to tell OP she is pregnant.

Exactly. Just look at the jobs and careers forum to see some REAL advice about this. HA.

Women are just really different, it's so personal.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I didn't intend my comment to come off the way it did. I think once she got to 12 weeks she should have disclosed. How awkward for an employer to have to notice your bulging stomach. She had no reason to disclose at interview just like any other job. I disclosed pretty early on for two reasons: MB1 noticed I was tired and barely functional and suggested I take a pregnancy test so I pretty much had to tell her. I told MB2 a couple weeks later because I had to start going to the Doctor once a month. I never missed work before that so it was better I disclose than constantly missing work.

Does this apply to all women in every workplace? If not . then it doesn't apply to any woman in any job.

[Anonymous]

My nanny was pregnant and worked up until her due date. We didn't let her lift heavy things, and we also had slightly older kids (preschoolers). It was just fine.

[Anonymous]

As a MB I don't see what the problem is. What heavy things will she be lifting? I am an older mom who had two normal healthy pregnancies and was able to work the entire time.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote: As a MB I don't see what the problem is. What heavy things will she be lifting? I am an older mom who had two normal healthy pregnancies and was able to work the entire time.

I had to hire a nanny for more hours when I was pregnant with my second (first was a toddler). When I could no longer run after him at the park, I no longer felt safe taking him places like that which were open to the road. It's not just heavy lifting.

I am very short, however, so the baby gets in the way of everyday movement earlier than it does with taller people. Also, with my first, I think it would have been easier. Every pregnancy and every woman is different, but if this nanny doesn't have any complications, I think she's got as good a chance as any to be able to do the job just fine until it ends. The timing sounds exactly right to me.

[Anonymous]

I worked at a restaurant in downtown DC where several waitresses worked until their due date. They carried heavy trays up and down the stairs for 10 hour shifts. I would reserve judgement and defer to her own assessment of her abilities.

[Anonymous]

I think your problem is you think a nanny is a housekeeper and a maid. If you have "two very rambunctious kids" her energy should be spent on those kids.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I worked at a restaurant in downtown DC where several waitresses worked until their due date. They carried heavy trays up and down the stairs for 10 hour shifts. I would reserve judgement and defer to her own assessment of her abilities.

Perhaps they were desperate for that paycheck.