reasonable for nanny to do grocery shopping?

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Anonymous wrote:I always do the grocery shopping for my charge but never the whole family. I don't think I would be comfortable doing it -- for one thing even with just one charge he has limited patience for the grocery store. And for another thing, it would feel like a housekeeping job duty.

I would much prefer to do all four kids' laundry. Maybe that is just me...

+1 No, our nanny is the same as yours. I don't want our nanny doing any household chores beyond the immediate care of my kids either.

I never understood this. I don't ask our nanny to do any household chores, even if they are kid related. Sure she does the dishes she and he use, but why would you part out all this extra stuff just to make two people do it? If I am going grocery shopping I buy stuff for my son too. If I am doing laundry I can do my sons. When I load the dishwasher I will include all my sons things too.

It always shocks me to see people saying they leave all these jobs for the nanny, I guess to make it feel like they are getting their monies worth or something. I want nanny focusing on DS 100%.

First, PP here and the nanny. I prefer to do my charges laundry and grocery shopping. For grocery shopping, I like to balance his meals and make sure he is getting adequate nutrition. I shop with him with him and make a learning experience out of it for him.

The laundry is just a personal preference. My employers have no clue how to get stains out of his clothes and I refuse to take a child in public looking unkempt. Cooking for my change and doing his laundry are what I do when he is napping -- otherwise I would just be sitting there.

So that is what people mean when they say nanny as mom? I never noticed this before. That is really depressing for that family. Thank you PP for the information and viewpoint.

Not PP but I am definitely more concerned about what my charges eat than their parents. And how clean they look when they are outside is a reflection on me.

Put whatever label you want on it, PP. I care about my charges and I am proud of how I take care of them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We put it in our contract that our manny will do several errands for us during the week that may not necessarily relate directly to the kids. We send him to Costco about once a month, and grocery shopping once a week (or arrange for him to be at the house when we're having groceries delivered). We do not pay him extra for that. He uses our car when he goes to Costco or the regular supermarket, or he uses his monthly bus pass which we pay for anyway.

Going to COSTCO should include hazardous duty pay because shopping thete is like a descent into Hell. I would refuse.

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Anonymous wrote:I always do the grocery shopping for my charge but never the whole family. I don't think I would be comfortable doing it -- for one thing even with just one charge he has limited patience for the grocery store. And for another thing, it would feel like a housekeeping job duty.

I would much prefer to do all four kids' laundry. Maybe that is just me...

+1 No, our nanny is the same as yours. I don't want our nanny doing any household chores beyond the immediate care of my kids either.

I never understood this. I don't ask our nanny to do any household chores, even if they are kid related. Sure she does the dishes she and he use, but why would you part out all this extra stuff just to make two people do it? If I am going grocery shopping I buy stuff for my son too. If I am doing laundry I can do my sons. When I load the dishwasher I will include all my sons things too.

It always shocks me to see people saying they leave all these jobs for the nanny, I guess to make it feel like they are getting their monies worth or something. I want nanny focusing on DS 100%.

First, PP here and the nanny. I prefer to do my charges laundry and grocery shopping. For grocery shopping, I like to balance his meals and make sure he is getting adequate nutrition. I shop with him with him and make a learning experience out of it for him.

The laundry is just a personal preference. My employers have no clue how to get stains out of his clothes and I refuse to take a child in public looking unkempt. Cooking for my change and doing his laundry are what I do when he is napping -- otherwise I would just be sitting there.

So that is what people mean when they say nanny as mom? I never noticed this before. That is really depressing for that family. Thank you PP for the information and viewpoint.

Not PP but I am definitely more concerned about what my charges eat than their parents. And how clean they look when they are outside is a reflection on me.

Put whatever label you want on it, PP. I care about my charges and I am proud of how I take care of them.

+1 Nannies cannot do anything right according to this f ed up forum. Either they are lazy or they are trying to be parents.

[Anonymous]

Parenting is an actual activity,
not just a biological relationship or feeling.

Someone needs to do the parenting work,
before the child is ready for school.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am moving and looking into hiring a nanny and a housekeeper, and I am trying to consider duties for both. I haven't hired anyone yet, and I want to make sure that everyone is going into this with clear expectations.

I have four children, ages 5, 6, 3, and 1. In the past, my housekeeper has done the grocery shopping, but starting this fall the older two will be in kindergarten and first grade, and my three year old will be in preschool 10 hours/wk. I was thinking of asking our nanny to do the grocery shopping once a week during preschool hours. Obviously, I would provide a list, but I would expect that she could get what she wants to eat and make for the kids lunches.

Also, I would likely have the housekeeper, not the nanny, do all of the laundry. Laundry for four kids seems like a lot to ask of someone who will also be looking after a 1 y/o and 3 y/o most of the day.

So glad that you pointed this out OP!

So many people on here, both nannies and families seem to think that doing laundry, even if it is only for the children, should be expected. I have always + still do disagree.

Washing, drying, folding and putting away clothes for one person is a separate duty, not inclusive of actual childcare. People seem to not understand this.

Anyway, I do not see why it would be a problem asking your future nanny to do the grocery shopping.

However, even though the older three will not be there, keep in mind please that shopping w/a one year old is still a challenge in itself so I wouldn't ask her to do any "heavy duty" grocery shopping runs. Meaning going to Costco or purchasing a huge amount of things.

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One of our nanny's favorites things to do is take the kids to Costco. I don't get it - I think the place is a zoo, but she loves it and will go just to get something for lunch to bring home sometimes.

To each their own...

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Anonymous wrote:One of our nanny's favorites things to do is take the kids to Costco. I don't get it - I think the place is a zoo, but she loves it and will go just to get something for lunch to bring home sometimes.

To each their own...

How old are the kids?

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Anonymous wrote:One of our nanny's favorites things to do is take the kids to Costco. I don't get it - I think the place is a zoo, but she loves it and will go just to get something for lunch to bring home sometimes.

To each their own...

How old are the kids?

Twins. She started taking them around 2 yrs old maybe? It's been years now.

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Anonymous wrote:One of our nanny's favorites things to do is take the kids to Costco. I don't get it - I think the place is a zoo, but she loves it and will go just to get something for lunch to bring home sometimes.

To each their own...

How old are the kids?

Twins. She started taking them around 2 yrs old maybe? It's been years now.

I can't say Costco is a good place for toddlers, but that stage is over and it's hard to guess how old they are now.

[Anonymous]

I have done grocery shopping for the family in the past it's not something I offer to do. The positions where I did this My hourly starting rate was higher.
The same for laundry positions.

As for which I'd rather do grocery shopping.

[Anonymous]

Pay for grocery delivery service. Peapod is great!
Pay for a laundry service.

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Anonymous wrote:I always do the grocery shopping for my charge but never the whole family. I don't think I would be comfortable doing it -- for one thing even with just one charge he has limited patience for the grocery store. And for another thing, it would feel like a housekeeping job duty.

I would much prefer to do all four kids' laundry. Maybe that is just me...

+1 No, our nanny is the same as yours. I don't want our nanny doing any household chores beyond the immediate care of my kids either.

I never understood this. I don't ask our nanny to do any household chores, even if they are kid related. Sure she does the dishes she and he use, but why would you part out all this extra stuff just to make two people do it? If I am going grocery shopping I buy stuff for my son too. If I am doing laundry I can do my sons. When I load the dishwasher I will include all my sons things too.

It always shocks me to see people saying they leave all these jobs for the nanny, I guess to make it feel like they are getting their monies worth or something. I want nanny focusing on DS 100%.

First, PP here and the nanny. I prefer to do my charges laundry and grocery shopping. For grocery shopping, I like to balance his meals and make sure he is getting adequate nutrition. I shop with him with him and make a learning experience out of it for him.

The laundry is just a personal preference. My employers have no clue how to get stains out of his clothes and I refuse to take a child in public looking unkempt. Cooking for my change and doing his laundry are what I do when he is napping -- otherwise I would just be sitting there.

So that is what people mean when they say nanny as mom? I never noticed this before. That is really depressing for that family. Thank you PP for the information and viewpoint.

Not PP but I am definitely more concerned about what my charges eat than their parents. And how clean they look when they are outside is a reflection on me.

Put whatever label you want on it, PP. I care about my charges and I am proud of how I take care of them.

It;s great you are proud of how you take care of them. But it is ad that you think you care more about what the eat and what they look like than their parents. I say think because I doubt that is actually true in reality and if it is it's still sad for the parents and the kids.

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Anonymous wrote:I always do the grocery shopping for my charge but never the whole family. I don't think I would be comfortable doing it -- for one thing even with just one charge he has limited patience for the grocery store. And for another thing, it would feel like a housekeeping job duty.

I would much prefer to do all four kids' laundry. Maybe that is just me...

+1 No, our nanny is the same as yours. I don't want our nanny doing any household chores beyond the immediate care of my kids either.

I never understood this. I don't ask our nanny to do any household chores, even if they are kid related. Sure she does the dishes she and he use, but why would you part out all this extra stuff just to make two people do it? If I am going grocery shopping I buy stuff for my son too. If I am doing laundry I can do my sons. When I load the dishwasher I will include all my sons things too.

It always shocks me to see people saying they leave all these jobs for the nanny, I guess to make it feel like they are getting their monies worth or something. I want nanny focusing on DS 100%.

Indeed. It IS in fact very often a sad situation.

First, PP here and the nanny. I prefer to do my charges laundry and grocery shopping. For grocery shopping, I like to balance his meals and make sure he is getting adequate nutrition. I shop with him with him and make a learning experience out of it for him.

The laundry is just a personal preference. My employers have no clue how to get stains out of his clothes and I refuse to take a child in public looking unkempt. Cooking for my change and doing his laundry are what I do when he is napping -- otherwise I would just be sitting there.

So that is what people mean when they say nanny as mom? I never noticed this before. That is really depressing for that family. Thank you PP for the information and viewpoint.

Not PP but I am definitely more concerned about what my charges eat than their parents. And how clean they look when they are outside is a reflection on me.

Put whatever label you want on it, PP. I care about my charges and I am proud of how I take care of them.

It;s great you are proud of how you take care of them. But it is ad that you think you care more about what the eat and what they look like than their parents. I say think because I doubt that is actually true in reality and if it is it's still sad for the parents and the kids.

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I always do grocery shopping for the family on Mondays. it is not a big deal. I do it while the older child is in school and the 2yr old comes along. It works well because I do my personal shopping at the same time and keep my groceries in the garage fridge until I go home.

I also don't mind doing Costco or Target runs. Again, it pick up stuff for myself.

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Anonymous wrote:I always do grocery shopping for the family on Mondays. it is not a big deal. I do it while the older child is in school and the 2yr old comes along. It works well because I do my personal shopping at the same time and keep my groceries in the garage fridge until I go home.

I also don't mind doing Costco or Target runs. Again, it pick up stuff for myself.

Oh and I might add that I do not do laundry for the kids. MB asked me not to, even through I offer. They don't even use a laundry basket, the washer lid is kept open and all dirty clothes get thrown in there and MB does a load every night and puts it away every morning. Her and DB exercise every day so they always have clothes they have to clean and she said it does not make sense to wash the kids clothes separate. She seems to have a system down that works.