Nannies, try not to be so hard on parents.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Here's the thing: employers think that nannies accomplish more during the day and get better behavior from the kids because we don't have the added stress that they do of trying to run a household, and because the children love them more and therefore save their bad behavior for their parents. Those things are true, but in my experience they only account for maybe 25% of the difference. The bigger component of the difference between what I accomplish and how your kids behave for me is simply that I have a skill set that I have mastered. I have gone out of my way to gain information and experience about child development and discipline and I apply those things in every encounter with your kids. I know more about it than you do and I don't sometimes decide that I'm too tired to actually deal with the discipline problem and just given I give them the best possible discipline every time. That means that over time they get out of the habit of even trying to push the boundaries with me. I also have the necessary skill set to run a house. I have been in nanny positions where I did all the grocery shopping, all the cooking, and kept the kids laundry done and the kids play spaces in order during the day. I did all this by myself. You have two adults on the weekends with the same number of children and while you may have more tasks, there are two of you to tackle everything. Juggling a household and general household management is a skill set. It is not something that just anyone can do.

The reason that nannies can be so critical of parents is that so often parents seem to think that they could in fact do our jobs just as well as we do, but they simply choose to work out of the home instead. The reality is that you could not do my job. You would suck at it and fail every day. Please acknowledge my skill set, instead of saying that you could do my job perfectly...if you weren't just "too busy on the weekends."

Hate to break it to you hun, but nothing you do is hard or tricky, a parent who wasn't out earning a real living could EASILY do your job. The sooner you learn that the sooner you will be happy.

[Anonymous]

I understand where you are coming from OP.

I don't see many posts on here regarding unclean homes.

If I do see one, the nannies usually describe filthy pig-styes where they feel very uncomfortable working in.

Animal feces laying around, stale food sitting around spoiled, etc.

In these circumstances it is totally normal for a nanny to complain about the house, there is simply no excuse for anyone's home to be that bad.

But for the most part, us nannies DO understand that working full-time while raising young children is tough + we don't judge your home at all.

[Anonymous]

20:23, parenting is the one job that people have zero training but think they are experts. I think parenting classes should be mandatory.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Here's the thing: employers think that nannies accomplish more during the day and get better behavior from the kids because we don't have the added stress that they do of trying to run a household, and because the children love them more and therefore save their bad behavior for their parents. Those things are true, but in my experience they only account for maybe 25% of the difference. The bigger component of the difference between what I accomplish and how your kids behave for me is simply that I have a skill set that I have mastered. I have gone out of my way to gain information and experience about child development and discipline and I apply those things in every encounter with your kids. I know more about it than you do and I don't sometimes decide that I'm too tired to actually deal with the discipline problem and just given I give them the best possible discipline every time. That means that over time they get out of the habit of even trying to push the boundaries with me. I also have the necessary skill set to run a house. I have been in nanny positions where I did all the grocery shopping, all the cooking, and kept the kids laundry done and the kids play spaces in order during the day. I did all this by myself. You have two adults on the weekends with the same number of children and while you may have more tasks, there are two of you to tackle everything. Juggling a household and general household management is a skill set. It is not something that just anyone can do.

The reason that nannies can be so critical of parents is that so often parents seem to think that they could in fact do our jobs just as well as we do, but they simply choose to work out of the home instead. The reality is that you could not do my job. You would suck at it and fail every day. Please acknowledge my skill set, instead of saying that you could do my job perfectly...if you weren't just "too busy on the weekends."

Hate to break it to you hun, but nothing you do is hard or tricky, a parent who wasn't out earning a real living could EASILY do your job. The sooner you learn that the sooner you will be happy.

So stay home, Hun, and raise your own children.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Here's the thing: employers think that nannies accomplish more during the day and get better behavior from the kids because we don't have the added stress that they do of trying to run a household, and because the children love them more and therefore save their bad behavior for their parents. Those things are true, but in my experience they only account for maybe 25% of the difference. The bigger component of the difference between what I accomplish and how your kids behave for me is simply that I have a skill set that I have mastered. I have gone out of my way to gain information and experience about child development and discipline and I apply those things in every encounter with your kids. I know more about it than you do and I don't sometimes decide that I'm too tired to actually deal with the discipline problem and just given I give them the best possible discipline every time. That means that over time they get out of the habit of even trying to push the boundaries with me. I also have the necessary skill set to run a house. I have been in nanny positions where I did all the grocery shopping, all the cooking, and kept the kids laundry done and the kids play spaces in order during the day. I did all this by myself. You have two adults on the weekends with the same number of children and while you may have more tasks, there are two of you to tackle everything. Juggling a household and general household management is a skill set. It is not something that just anyone can do.

The reason that nannies can be so critical of parents is that so often parents seem to think that they could in fact do our jobs just as well as we do, but they simply choose to work out of the home instead. The reality is that you could not do my job. You would suck at it and fail every day. Please acknowledge my skill set, instead of saying that you could do my job perfectly...if you weren't just "too busy on the weekends."

Best nanny post of the month. Thank you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Here's the thing: employers think that nannies accomplish more during the day and get better behavior from the kids because we don't have the added stress that they do of trying to run a household, and because the children love them more and therefore save their bad behavior for their parents. Those things are true, but in my experience they only account for maybe 25% of the difference. The bigger component of the difference between what I accomplish and how your kids behave for me is simply that I have a skill set that I have mastered. I have gone out of my way to gain information and experience about child development and discipline and I apply those things in every encounter with your kids. I know more about it than you do and I don't sometimes decide that I'm too tired to actually deal with the discipline problem and just given I give them the best possible discipline every time. That means that over time they get out of the habit of even trying to push the boundaries with me. I also have the necessary skill set to run a house. I have been in nanny positions where I did all the grocery shopping, all the cooking, and kept the kids laundry done and the kids play spaces in order during the day. I did all this by myself. You have two adults on the weekends with the same number of children and while you may have more tasks, there are two of you to tackle everything. Juggling a household and general household management is a skill set. It is not something that just anyone can do.

The reason that nannies can be so critical of parents is that so often parents seem to think that they could in fact do our jobs just as well as we do, but they simply choose to work out of the home instead. The reality is that you could not do my job. You would suck at it and fail every day. Please acknowledge my skill set, instead of saying that you could do my job perfectly...if you weren't just "too busy on the weekends."

Hate to break it to you hun, but nothing you do is hard or tricky, a parent who wasn't out earning a real living could EASILY do your job. The sooner you learn that the sooner you will be happy.

So stay home, Hun, and raise your own children.

I don't need to sit home with my kids every day. I can afford to pay someone to do that and change their diapers and fold their clothes. I work so I can give them more than that, so we can all travel around the world, have experiences others can't, live a certain lifestyle, etc.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Here's the thing: employers think that nannies accomplish more during the day and get better behavior from the kids because we don't have the added stress that they do of trying to run a household, and because the children love them more and therefore save their bad behavior for their parents. Those things are true, but in my experience they only account for maybe 25% of the difference. The bigger component of the difference between what I accomplish and how your kids behave for me is simply that I have a skill set that I have mastered. I have gone out of my way to gain information and experience about child development and discipline and I apply those things in every encounter with your kids. I know more about it than you do and I don't sometimes decide that I'm too tired to actually deal with the discipline problem and just given I give them the best possible discipline every time. That means that over time they get out of the habit of even trying to push the boundaries with me. I also have the necessary skill set to run a house. I have been in nanny positions where I did all the grocery shopping, all the cooking, and kept the kids laundry done and the kids play spaces in order during the day. I did all this by myself. You have two adults on the weekends with the same number of children and while you may have more tasks, there are two of you to tackle everything. Juggling a household and general household management is a skill set. It is not something that just anyone can do.

The reason that nannies can be so critical of parents is that so often parents seem to think that they could in fact do our jobs just as well as we do, but they simply choose to work out of the home instead. The reality is that you could not do my job. You would suck at it and fail every day. Please acknowledge my skill set, instead of saying that you could do my job perfectly...if you weren't just "too busy on the weekends."

Hate to break it to you hun, but nothing you do is hard or tricky, a parent who wasn't out earning a real living could EASILY do your job. The sooner you learn that the sooner you will be happy.

So stay home, Hun, and raise your own children.

I don't need to sit home with my kids every day. I can afford to pay someone to do that and change their diapers and fold their clothes. I work so I can give them more than that, so we can all travel around the world, have experiences others can't, live a certain lifestyle, etc.

BTDT. My, you're foolish.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Here's the thing: employers think that nannies accomplish more during the day and get better behavior from the kids because we don't have the added stress that they do of trying to run a household, and because the children love them more and therefore save their bad behavior for their parents. Those things are true, but in my experience they only account for maybe 25% of the difference. The bigger component of the difference between what I accomplish and how your kids behave for me is simply that I have a skill set that I have mastered. I have gone out of my way to gain information and experience about child development and discipline and I apply those things in every encounter with your kids. I know more about it than you do and I don't sometimes decide that I'm too tired to actually deal with the discipline problem and just given I give them the best possible discipline every time. That means that over time they get out of the habit of even trying to push the boundaries with me. I also have the necessary skill set to run a house. I have been in nanny positions where I did all the grocery shopping, all the cooking, and kept the kids laundry done and the kids play spaces in order during the day. I did all this by myself. You have two adults on the weekends with the same number of children and while you may have more tasks, there are two of you to tackle everything. Juggling a household and general household management is a skill set. It is not something that just anyone can do.

The reason that nannies can be so critical of parents is that so often parents seem to think that they could in fact do our jobs just as well as we do, but they simply choose to work out of the home instead. The reality is that you could not do my job. You would suck at it and fail every day. Please acknowledge my skill set, instead of saying that you could do my job perfectly...if you weren't just "too busy on the weekends."

Hate to break it to you hun, but nothing you do is hard or tricky, a parent who wasn't out earning a real living could EASILY do your job. The sooner you learn that the sooner you will be happy.

So stay home, Hun, and raise your own children.

I don't need to sit home with my kids every day. I can afford to pay someone to do that and change their diapers and fold their clothes. I work so I can give them more than that, so we can all travel around the world, have experiences others can't, live a certain lifestyle, etc.

You're a silly little troll. Go away and pretend someplace else.

[Anonymous]

20:50, you are either deluded, or you have a piss-poor nanny and you really could do the same job. Those of us who are amazing at what we do spent a lot of time and energy getting that way, and we know that we have expertise, but sadly work in an unregulated industry that is also "pink-collar"--the kind of work that has been traditionally done by women and is therefore viewed as less-than.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Here's the thing: employers think that nannies accomplish more during the day and get better behavior from the kids because we don't have the added stress that they do of trying to run a household, and because the children love them more and therefore save their bad behavior for their parents. Those things are true, but in my experience they only account for maybe 25% of the difference. The bigger component of the difference between what I accomplish and how your kids behave for me is simply that I have a skill set that I have mastered. I have gone out of my way to gain information and experience about child development and discipline and I apply those things in every encounter with your kids. I know more about it than you do and I don't sometimes decide that I'm too tired to actually deal with the discipline problem and just given I give them the best possible discipline every time. That means that over time they get out of the habit of even trying to push the boundaries with me. I also have the necessary skill set to run a house. I have been in nanny positions where I did all the grocery shopping, all the cooking, and kept the kids laundry done and the kids play spaces in order during the day. I did all this by myself. You have two adults on the weekends with the same number of children and while you may have more tasks, there are two of you to tackle everything. Juggling a household and general household management is a skill set. It is not something that just anyone can do.

The reason that nannies can be so critical of parents is that so often parents seem to think that they could in fact do our jobs just as well as we do, but they simply choose to work out of the home instead. The reality is that you could not do my job. You would suck at it and fail every day. Please acknowledge my skill set, instead of saying that you could do my job perfectly...if you weren't just "too busy on the weekends."

Hate to break it to you hun, but nothing you do is hard or tricky, a parent who wasn't out earning a real living could EASILY do your job. The sooner you learn that the sooner you will be happy.

So stay home, Hun, and raise your own children.

That PP doesn't have children.

She definitely doesn't have a nanny.

Why would someone who isn't a nanny nor employs a nanny post here?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Here's the thing: employers think that nannies accomplish more during the day and get better behavior from the kids because we don't have the added stress that they do of trying to run a household, and because the children love them more and therefore save their bad behavior for their parents. Those things are true, but in my experience they only account for maybe 25% of the difference. The bigger component of the difference between what I accomplish and how your kids behave for me is simply that I have a skill set that I have mastered. I have gone out of my way to gain information and experience about child development and discipline and I apply those things in every encounter with your kids. I know more about it than you do and I don't sometimes decide that I'm too tired to actually deal with the discipline problem and just given I give them the best possible discipline every time. That means that over time they get out of the habit of even trying to push the boundaries with me. I also have the necessary skill set to run a house. I have been in nanny positions where I did all the grocery shopping, all the cooking, and kept the kids laundry done and the kids play spaces in order during the day. I did all this by myself. You have two adults on the weekends with the same number of children and while you may have more tasks, there are two of you to tackle everything. Juggling a household and general household management is a skill set. It is not something that just anyone can do.

The reason that nannies can be so critical of parents is that so often parents seem to think that they could in fact do our jobs just as well as we do, but they simply choose to work out of the home instead. The reality is that you could not do my job. You would suck at it and fail every day. Please acknowledge my skill set, instead of saying that you could do my job perfectly...if you weren't just "too busy on the weekends."

Hate to break it to you hun, but nothing you do is hard or tricky, a parent who wasn't out earning a real living could EASILY do your job. The sooner you learn that the sooner you will be happy.

Some of us worked "real jobs" and switched to being a nanny. The real job line is mean and uncalled for. I've worked as chef and pulled a 26 hr shift once. I regularly worked 70-80 hrs a week. My husband yelled at me to get a "real job", even tho I was doing work he couldn't handle if he tried. Being a nanny is a real job, a great one, except for people like you that choose to demean anyone that doesn't fit their "real work" , elitist ideals.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Here's the thing: employers think that nannies accomplish more during the day and get better behavior from the kids because we don't have the added stress that they do of trying to run a household, and because the children love them more and therefore save their bad behavior for their parents. Those things are true, but in my experience they only account for maybe 25% of the difference. The bigger component of the difference between what I accomplish and how your kids behave for me is simply that I have a skill set that I have mastered. I have gone out of my way to gain information and experience about child development and discipline and I apply those things in every encounter with your kids. I know more about it than you do and I don't sometimes decide that I'm too tired to actually deal with the discipline problem and just given I give them the best possible discipline every time. That means that over time they get out of the habit of even trying to push the boundaries with me. I also have the necessary skill set to run a house. I have been in nanny positions where I did all the grocery shopping, all the cooking, and kept the kids laundry done and the kids play spaces in order during the day. I did all this by myself. You have two adults on the weekends with the same number of children and while you may have more tasks, there are two of you to tackle everything. Juggling a household and general household management is a skill set. It is not something that just anyone can do.

The reason that nannies can be so critical of parents is that so often parents seem to think that they could in fact do our jobs just as well as we do, but they simply choose to work out of the home instead. The reality is that you could not do my job. You would suck at it and fail every day. Please acknowledge my skill set, instead of saying that you could do my job perfectly...if you weren't just "too busy on the weekends."

Hate to break it to you hun, but nothing you do is hard or tricky, a parent who wasn't out earning a real living could EASILY do your job. The sooner you learn that the sooner you will be happy.

Some of us worked "real jobs" and switched to being a nanny. The real job line is mean and uncalled for. I've worked as chef and pulled a 26 hr shift once. I regularly worked 70-80 hrs a week. My husband yelled at me to get a "real job", even tho I was doing work he couldn't handle if he tried. Being a nanny is a real job, a great one, except for people like you that choose to demean anyone that doesn't fit their "real work" , elitist ideals.

Sheesh lady, relax. You are freaking out just because you got run out of the restaurant world? Take a chill pill.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Here's the thing: employers think that nannies accomplish more during the day and get better behavior from the kids because we don't have the added stress that they do of trying to run a household, and because the children love them more and therefore save their bad behavior for their parents. Those things are true, but in my experience they only account for maybe 25% of the difference. The bigger component of the difference between what I accomplish and how your kids behave for me is simply that I have a skill set that I have mastered. I have gone out of my way to gain information and experience about child development and discipline and I apply those things in every encounter with your kids. I know more about it than you do and I don't sometimes decide that I'm too tired to actually deal with the discipline problem and just given I give them the best possible discipline every time. That means that over time they get out of the habit of even trying to push the boundaries with me. I also have the necessary skill set to run a house. I have been in nanny positions where I did all the grocery shopping, all the cooking, and kept the kids laundry done and the kids play spaces in order during the day. I did all this by myself. You have two adults on the weekends with the same number of children and while you may have more tasks, there are two of you to tackle everything. Juggling a household and general household management is a skill set. It is not something that just anyone can do.

The reason that nannies can be so critical of parents is that so often parents seem to think that they could in fact do our jobs just as well as we do, but they simply choose to work out of the home instead. The reality is that you could not do my job. You would suck at it and fail every day. Please acknowledge my skill set, instead of saying that you could do my job perfectly...if you weren't just "too busy on the weekends."

Hate to break it to you hun, but nothing you do is hard or tricky, a parent who wasn't out earning a real living could EASILY do your job. The sooner you learn that the sooner you will be happy.

Some of us worked "real jobs" and switched to being a nanny. The real job line is mean and uncalled for. I've worked as chef and pulled a 26 hr shift once. I regularly worked 70-80 hrs a week. My husband yelled at me to get a "real job", even tho I was doing work he couldn't handle if he tried. Being a nanny is a real job, a great one, except for people like you that choose to demean anyone that doesn't fit their "real work" , elitist ideals.

Sheesh lady, relax. You are freaking out just because you got run out of the restaurant world? Take a chill pill.[/quote

Lol. Not at all. I choose to change paths. Working as a chef/pastry chef is pretty hard on your body. My point is about the real job crack. All hard work is valid, especially tangible work, with one's mind and hands. I'm still in the service industry and still get paiid to cook occasionally, but mostly I reserve it for those I love. How would one "get run out"? If you can work hard, you'll have work. I'm pretty sure you're not my age, experience level, or have ever worked a fraction as hard as I have.

[Anonymous]

Thank you, OP, for your post. I wonder if nannies realize that lots of parents are not working only 40 hrs per week. I come home, cook dinner, put kids to bed, and then turn computer and work. Yes, work... Two nights ago I went to bed at 3:30 am only to see DH still working on his work in the office... He went to bed at 4 am... And no, dishes were not done on that night... I do get kitchen cleaned up 90% of time... So please, perfect nannies, hold your judgement... You have no idea what goes on after you leave. And guess what happens if after my hard work I get a nice bonus? I give bonus/raise to the nanny

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Thank you, OP, for your post. I wonder if nannies realize that lots of parents are not working only 40 hrs per week. I come home, cook dinner, put kids to bed, and then turn computer and work. Yes, work... Two nights ago I went to bed at 3:30 am only to see DH still working on his work in the office... He went to bed at 4 am... And no, dishes were not done on that night... I do get kitchen cleaned up 90% of time... So please, perfect nannies, hold your judgement... You have no idea what goes on after you leave. And guess what happens if after my hard work I get a nice bonus? I give bonus/raise to the nanny

Ok, nanny employer, what percentage of your bonus
did you last give the nanny for HER sacrifices?