Families with trust issues

[Anonymous]

Yep, NFs have huge issues with emotional security.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yep, NFs have huge issues with emotional security.

I meant to say *most* of them, certainly not all.

[Anonymous]

OP, if it were your child/ren, what would you do? Just trust a stranger whom you met 1-2 times prior without checking and making sure your kids are ok. You may be a great nanny, but many others aren't and there is a reason for concern.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, if it were your child/ren, what would you do? Just trust a stranger whom you met 1-2 times prior without checking and making sure your kids are ok. You may be a great nanny, but many others aren't and there is a reason for concern.

Not OP here, but you have no business leaving your child with someone you don't trust. I mean zero. That's the height of irresponsibly.

Oh yes, I'm a nanny AND a mother.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, if it were your child/ren, what would you do? Just trust a stranger whom you met 1-2 times prior without checking and making sure your kids are ok. You may be a great nanny, but many others aren't and there is a reason for concern.

Not OP here, but you have no business leaving your child with someone you don't trust. I mean zero. That's the height of irresponsibly.

Oh yes, I'm a nanny AND a mother.

It is very hard to trust someone you don't know. What do you expect if a parent has to work? Regardless of it if is a nanny, babysitter, family or day care, a parent has a right to check up on their kids and know they are safe and ok. So, you don't check up on your kids and make sure they are ok? Building trust takes time.

[Anonymous]

The money thing is weird. I'll give you that.

I don't see anything wrong with a parent coming home unannounced. I view it as it's their home and their kids they can show up anytime they want . They won't catch me doing anything wrong.

[Anonymous]

What to do when they refuse to properly child-proof their house, so I need to use the bathroom with the door open so I can see the child? Yep, MB likes to creep up on me. Sick.

[Anonymous]

Considering how many nannies here have admitted to snooping on their employers, maybe the NFs have a good reason to check up on their nannies.

I'm not sure trapping the petty cash is a good way to do that, though.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, if it were your child/ren, what would you do? Just trust a stranger whom you met 1-2 times prior without checking and making sure your kids are ok. You may be a great nanny, but many others aren't and there is a reason for concern.

Then put your kids in daycare problem solved.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Considering how many nannies here have admitted to snooping on their employers, maybe the NFs have a good reason to check up on their nannies.

I'm not sure trapping the petty cash is a good way to do that, though.

Huh? I've never seen a thread with nannies admitting that they snoop on their employers?
I certainly don't and haven't seen evidence suggesting that it's a widespread habit.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Considering how many nannies here have admitted to snooping on their employers, maybe the NFs have a good reason to check up on their nannies.

I'm not sure trapping the petty cash is a good way to do that, though.

Huh? I've never seen a thread with nannies admitting that they snoop on their employers?
I certainly don't and haven't seen evidence suggesting that it's a widespread habit.

I have never "snooped" on my employers. They are an average couple and I just never had any burning interest to know more about them.

[Anonymous]

I'm an MB and I assume our nanny "snoops". She's in our house every day, has run of the house, has - on occasion - asked if she can have some advil so I've sent her into my bathroom closet, has had to chase the kids out of our bedroom, etc...

I don't even consider it snooping really. I don't think she's going through my drawers, but I also think she is pretty intimately acquainted w/ my life simply by virtue of doing her job and having been with us for more than 3 years.

I also happen to trust her totally and fully. She has keys to everything, knows where cash is kept if she needs it, knows our passwords for things that are security protected for which she might need access, etc... We have given her one of our cars to use at times when hers is in the shop, we've had her stay with us or at our home when we're away, we've helped each other out during illness or emergency situations, etc...

I trusted her from the start and she has never given me the slightest reason to question that. But I also assume she is human, and curious, and probably (especially in the beginning) snooped some to figure out who we are. Now she just knows we're boring.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm an MB and I assume our nanny "snoops". She's in our house every day, has run of the house, has - on occasion - asked if she can have some advil so I've sent her into my bathroom closet, has had to chase the kids out of our bedroom, etc...

I don't even consider it snooping really. I don't think she's going through my drawers, but I also think she is pretty intimately acquainted w/ my life simply by virtue of doing her job and having been with us for more than 3 years.

I also happen to trust her totally and fully. She has keys to everything, knows where cash is kept if she needs it, knows our passwords for things that are security protected for which she might need access, etc... We have given her one of our cars to use at times when hers is in the shop, we've had her stay with us or at our home when we're away, we've helped each other out during illness or emergency situations, etc...

I trusted her from the start and she has never given me the slightest reason to question that. But I also assume she is human, and curious, and probably (especially in the beginning) snooped some to figure out who we are. Now she just knows we're boring.

This is OP. Yeah, that definitely isn't even snooping. I have never heard a nanny admit to actually snooping through things. I can't imagine that happens a lot, idk about anyone else but in my job I sure as heck am have zero time to snoop...plus zero desire! Your life is really not THAT interesting.

[Anonymous]

^ *have. Sorry, on an iPhone

[Anonymous]

Considering how many nannies here have admitted to snooping on their employers, maybe the NFs have a good reason to check up on their nannies.

I'm not sure trapping the petty cash is a good way to do that, though.


Huh? I've never seen a thread with nannies admitting that they snoop on their employers?
I certainly don't and haven't seen evidence suggesting that it's a widespread habit.

Guess you missed this thread...

http://www.dcurbanmom.com/nanny-forum/posts/list/273664.page#2961276