Discouraged host mom in rematch

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yep, totally the same girl. That's so funny. I really liked her a lot!! I skyped with her one night for over an hour (for me, that's a long time haha).

This is so stupid. I asked her about the rematch situation with her first host family and she said that things came to a head when they went to Disney World and left her alone in the hotel, instead of inviting her to go into the parks with them. I totally get where she is coming from there. My DH thought she sounded entitled and that she didn't realize how much they had already paid for her to fly down there with them and have her own hotel room at the resort, and that it could cost them an additional $500 or whatever to pay for her park tickets. I think he took it more as her not appreciating that she was free to enjoy a nice Disney resort all day at the pool (not working) and she was focusing on the negative instead of the positive. I think they should have paid for her park tickets for at least a day or two, personally! I can understand where she was coming from.

NP here - ha. I can totally get both sides of this. I agree with you - the HF was in the wrong. People forget how isolating it is to be an AP at first. To sit by yourself in a hotel day after day with no one to talk to would be awful.

[Anonymous]

OMG same girl. I thought that Disney host family sounded HORRIBLE. BTW, she was their first and last AP. I don't think they were cut out for being a host family.

My placement director said the notes in the file made it seem like they were pretty shitty.

Sorry to tell your husband, but she is a sweetheart. My kids are crazy about her!

[Anonymous]

I don't think the family was obligated to take her to Disney, but once they did (maybe to use her as a babysitter?), then should have paid for tickets.

But it is not appropriate to send the message to Au Pairs that they are entitled to all this. Some families cann't afford it or want some family alone time.

I personally think this AP does sound entitled, though perhaps there were other reasons. Good luck OP.

[Anonymous]

Ha, this reminds me of an AP we had. We went to Disney together and bought her a ticket. Those tickets are good 24 hours so we went to the park with the kids and her during the day and she helped me and it was work for her. But we encouraged her to go back to the park on her own in the evening (after 5pm). The hotel had a shuttle and she had been here 8 months but she stuck to us like glue, wouldn't even leave the hotel suite to go to the pool or something. Drove me nuts and reiterated that I don't really want to bring AP on vacation.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don't think the family was obligated to take her to Disney, but once they did (maybe to use her as a babysitter?), then should have paid for tickets.

But it is not appropriate to send the message to Au Pairs that they are entitled to all this. Some families cann't afford it or want some family alone time.

I personally think this AP does sound entitled, though perhaps there were other reasons. Good luck OP.

AuPairs are not for the poors.