Why is it such a big deal?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:First of all, your english writing skills need to be better if you want to be taken seriously.

Secondly, if you are knowingly, intentionally, violating the terms of your contract then you are putting your job at risk.

I'm an MB. I fully expect and encourage our nanny to relax in whatever way she wishes (tv, phone, books, naps) whenever she is able to get some down time. But our nanny is also incredibly honest and I trust her without reservation.

Your employers certainly can't feel that way about you.

I'm sure you could have responded without insulting the OP. English is not the first language of many posters on here.

Yes, I could have. These forums bring out a mean streak in my sometimes that I don't like. And I had just read a bunch of threads w/ a lot of nastiness (on both sides), and much of which have the feel of coming from just a couple of posters.

I feel like that line from Brokeback Mountain "I wish I knew how to quit you" about DCUM. I sometimes get good advice here, and sometimes I offer good advice. And sometimes I'm triggered by tone, attitude, and bad writing, and I react in ways of which I'm not proud.

I didn't like the OP's attitude, and reacted as though she was talking about me. Which is in no way the case.

So, I'm human and I take your point.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:First of all, your english writing skills need to be better if you want to be taken seriously.

Secondly, if you are knowingly, intentionally, violating the terms of your contract then you are putting your job at risk.

I'm an MB. I fully expect and encourage our nanny to relax in whatever way she wishes (tv, phone, books, naps) whenever she is able to get some down time. But our nanny is also incredibly honest and I trust her without reservation.

Your employers certainly can't feel that way about you.

I'm sure you could have responded without insulting the OP. English is not the first language of many posters on here.

She didnt. I speak 4 languages and im more than proud of it. My grammar maybe is not the best but hey - how many languages do you know pp?


And ... What trust? If you trusted your nanny why would you sing a contract? Dont you trust her she will be at work every day? Dont you trust her she will give you notice? Dont you trust her she wont yell/spank your kids etc? Dont you trust her she will clean up after kids/herself?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:First of all, your english writing skills need to be better if you want to be taken seriously.

Secondly, if you are knowingly, intentionally, violating the terms of your contract then you are putting your job at risk.

I'm an MB. I fully expect and encourage our nanny to relax in whatever way she wishes (tv, phone, books, naps) whenever she is able to get some down time. But our nanny is also incredibly honest and I trust her without reservation.

Your employers certainly can't feel that way about you.

I'm sure you could have responded without insulting the OP. English is not the first language of many posters on here.

She didnt. I speak 4 languages and im more than proud of it. My grammar maybe is not the best but hey - how many languages do you know pp?


And ... What trust? If you trusted your nanny why would you sing a contract? Dont you trust her she will be at work every day? Dont you trust her she will give you notice? Dont you trust her she wont yell/spank your kids etc? Dont you trust her she will clean up after kids/herself?

OMG. OK, I hereby rescind my apology. You're exactly what brings out the worst in me but I don't feel badly about it anymore, now I'm just laughing at you.

Instead I'll go home and, once again, thank my fabulous nanny for being who she is. (And I'll try to stick to the high round more often 14:29.)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:First of all, your english writing skills need to be better if you want to be taken seriously.

Secondly, if you are knowingly, intentionally, violating the terms of your contract then you are putting your job at risk.

I'm an MB. I fully expect and encourage our nanny to relax in whatever way she wishes (tv, phone, books, naps) whenever she is able to get some down time. But our nanny is also incredibly honest and I trust her without reservation.

Your employers certainly can't feel that way about you.

First of all, stop being such a douche. Het English is fine.

Secondly, stop being a douche.

Thirdly, stop being a douche.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:First of all, your english writing skills need to be better if you want to be taken seriously.

Secondly, if you are knowingly, intentionally, violating the terms of your contract then you are putting your job at risk.

I'm an MB. I fully expect and encourage our nanny to relax in whatever way she wishes (tv, phone, books, naps) whenever she is able to get some down time. But our nanny is also incredibly honest and I trust her without reservation.

Your employers certainly can't feel that way about you.

First of all, stop being such a douche. Het English is fine.

Secondly, stop being a douche.

Thirdly, stop being a douche.

Sockpuppet.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:First of all, your english writing skills need to be better if you want to be taken seriously.

Secondly, if you are knowingly, intentionally, violating the terms of your contract then you are putting your job at risk.

I'm an MB. I fully expect and encourage our nanny to relax in whatever way she wishes (tv, phone, books, naps) whenever she is able to get some down time. But our nanny is also incredibly honest and I trust her without reservation.

Your employers certainly can't feel that way about you.

I'm sure you could have responded without insulting the OP. English is not the first language of many posters on here.

She didnt. I speak 4 languages and im more than proud of it. My grammar maybe is not the best but hey - how many languages do you know pp?


And ... What trust? If you trusted your nanny why would you sing a contract? Dont you trust her she will be at work every day? Dont you trust her she will give you notice? Dont you trust her she wont yell/spank your kids etc? Dont you trust her she will clean up after kids/herself?

OMG. OK, I hereby rescind my apology. You're exactly what brings out the worst in me but I don't feel badly about it anymore, now I'm just laughing at you.

Instead I'll go home and, once again, thank my fabulous nanny for being who she is. (And I'll try to stick to the high round more often 14:29.)

You should't laugh. You should be ashamed of who you are.

[Anonymous]

Some of you moms have a stick so far up your arse! Get over it! We aren't going to sit on the floor and play with your kids 24/7. I don't know why most of you moms are so worried, you stay home with your kids then!

[Anonymous]

No tv on in our house.
You really think I'm paying $18/hr so you can watch tv and surf the Internet while my child naps 2-4 hours each day?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Some of you moms have a stick so far up your arse! Get over it! We aren't going to sit on the floor and play with your kids 24/7. I don't know why most of you moms are so worried, you stay home with your kids then!

Speak for yourself.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No tv on in our house.
You really think I'm paying $18/hr so you can watch tv and surf the Internet while my child naps 2-4 hours each day?

You should be paying twice that to put up with your kid.

[Anonymous]

I'm a nanny and I have never once watched TV or gone on the internet when I was working. Not once. When my charge is asleep for his nap, I do his laundry, make his meals (everything from scratch) and clean his room and toys. By the time I am done, I'm lucky if I get 20 minutes to eat my lunch.

Of course, then again, I am a grown up and not a teenage babysitter.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Some of you moms have a stick so far up your arse! Get over it! We aren't going to sit on the floor and play with your kids 24/7. I don't know why most of you moms are so worried, you stay home with your kids then!

You don't work 24/7, Dear. 24/7 means 24 hours a day, seven days a week.

[Anonymous]

Please quit your nanny job, OP, and find another line of work. Better yet - GO BACK TO SCHOOL.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yes, OP, we are crazy because we expect an employee to work on the clock and not watch TV. Sometimes, yes, a nanny looks at the monitor the whole time and there is no supervisor to report this to us. The issue is trust. Until a NF trusts their nanny, they should invest in nanny cams to ensure nannies are only taking a "little break".

What a stupid question. Seriously.

Wow...just wow... Maybe your boss should secretly install a camera in your private office... you know, just until he can trust you.
What do you think he would catch? Probably nothing more than a lot of embarrassing stuff that every person does without thinking when they think no one is watching. Is that an environment you'd want to work in, having someone watch your every private move?! Ridiculous... you need to install a nanny cam to trust your nanny... I can't get over it




To the OP, most people don't understand the nature of our work and figure "Well I don't get to watch TV when I'm working, so she shouldn't either." Unfortunately it isn't the same thing. We need down time from the stress of working with kids nonstop. Anyone who doesn't understand this may not be someone you want to work for.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Some of you moms have a stick so far up your arse! Get over it! We aren't going to sit on the floor and play with your kids 24/7. I don't know why most of you moms are so worried, you stay home with your kids then!

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