Mb do you mind if nanny texts when baby is sick?

[Anonymous]

I would not mind if you did, and think it was sweet, but I also wouldn't think anything of it if you didn't.

We had one nanny who would text all.the.time. Weekends, overnight, days off ... That drove me crazy! She has her own baby now, so I think she finally gets why not everyone wants to spend all day chit-chatting even to be friendly.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:MB here. Well, if it's an obvious garden variety headcold then I won't mind you checking in but it's probably unnecessary.

If it's anything more significant (gastrointestinal mess, significant pain, injury, spiking fevers, etc...) then I'd be touched that you checked in. And if it's serious I'd play to update you so that you knew whether you were coming back to an ongoing situation, a significantly improved child, or shouldn't come in for another day or two. I expect and hope that you will care enough about my kid(s) to wonder if they're ok for heaven's sake!

I guess this is definitely the kind of thing that varies from individual to individual but unless you're someone who is constantly in touch w/ your employers about inconsequential things I can imagine a parent being bothered.

I guess I just don't understand why a parent would be bothered. If your children are sick you want to know when they are better, right? How they are feeling? It is the same with nannies. Not strange at all..

I would be bothered because I'm trying to work from home while also taking care of a sick child (and keeping the other child away from the sick one). I'm already busy enough. If MY child is sick of course I want to know when they're better, but no, it is NOT the same with nannies - nannies are not mothers to the children they care for.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:MB here. Well, if it's an obvious garden variety headcold then I won't mind you checking in but it's probably unnecessary.

If it's anything more significant (gastrointestinal mess, significant pain, injury, spiking fevers, etc...) then I'd be touched that you checked in. And if it's serious I'd play to update you so that you knew whether you were coming back to an ongoing situation, a significantly improved child, or shouldn't come in for another day or two. I expect and hope that you will care enough about my kid(s) to wonder if they're ok for heaven's sake!

I guess this is definitely the kind of thing that varies from individual to individual but unless you're someone who is constantly in touch w/ your employers about inconsequential things I can imagine a parent being bothered.

I guess I just don't understand why a parent would be bothered. If your children are sick you want to know when they are better, right? How they are feeling? It is the same with nannies. Not strange at all..

I would be bothered because I'm trying to work from home while also taking care of a sick child (and keeping the other child away from the sick one). I'm already busy enough. If MY child is sick of course I want to know when they're better, but no, it is NOT the same with nannies - nannies are not mothers to the children they care for.

Yes, I completely understand. A text does take up so much time. You have to look at your phone, read a few words, and reply. I understand how burdensome that must be. And of course it is not the same with nannies. Nannies only spend 50 or so hours with children a week. They should not form an attachment, especially not one akin to parent and child. The horror...

[Anonymous]

I would love it. Super sweet.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I rather you don't. Maybe if the baby were having surgery, but otherwise, no. You'll never know that of course, but I rather you leave us alone when you're not working. You'll just get a quick text in response from me that shuts down the conversation. "Doing ok thanks, see you on Thursday."

My aren't you a nice person.

[Anonymous]

Our nanny usually doesn't text on her days off or weekends unless my DD is sick or if it's a special occasion. Our nanny calls DD on her birthday, no matter what the day.

If my girl is sick, she texts and sends cute photos for DD. I think it is utterly charming and shows how thoughtful she is regarding my DD.

Our nanny is an important part of my DD's life and I can't imagine judging her negatively, whether she texted or not.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I rather you don't. Maybe if the baby were having surgery, but otherwise, no. You'll never know that of course, but I rather you leave us alone when you're not working. You'll just get a quick text in response from me that shuts down the conversation. "Doing ok thanks, see you on Thursday."

My aren't you a nice person.

I actually am a nice person. But I'm not a huge fan of talking with my employees outside of work. Let's all just show up on time, leave each other a clean house and kids, fulfill our obligations to each other and that's plenty.

[Anonymous]

My bosses would be appreciative. Once, last fall, the mom even made a video with my charge singing to me to feel better, when I missed a day sick. They understand that her and I have a special bond.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:MB here. Well, if it's an obvious garden variety headcold then I won't mind you checking in but it's probably unnecessary.

If it's anything more significant (gastrointestinal mess, significant pain, injury, spiking fevers, etc...) then I'd be touched that you checked in. And if it's serious I'd play to update you so that you knew whether you were coming back to an ongoing situation, a significantly improved child, or shouldn't come in for another day or two. I expect and hope that you will care enough about my kid(s) to wonder if they're ok for heaven's sake!

I guess this is definitely the kind of thing that varies from individual to individual but unless you're someone who is constantly in touch w/ your employers about inconsequential things I can imagine a parent being bothered.

I guess I just don't understand why a parent would be bothered. If your children are sick you want to know when they are better, right? How they are feeling? It is the same with nannies. Not strange at all..

I would be bothered because I'm trying to work from home while also taking care of a sick child (and keeping the other child away from the sick one). I'm already busy enough. If MY child is sick of course I want to know when they're better, but no, it is NOT the same with nannies - nannies are not mothers to the children they care for.

Yes, I completely understand. A text does take up so much time. You have to look at your phone, read a few words, and reply. I understand how burdensome that must be. And of course it is not the same with nannies. Nannies only spend 50 or so hours with children a week. They should not form an attachment, especially not one akin to parent and child. The horror...

When I'm at home I'm almost always either giving attention to my kids, my husband or my job. None of which I really want to be interrupted from with a text. When I'm doing anything with the kids, as long as my husband is home, I won't look at my phone for an incoming text. If I'm paying attention to you, you get my full attention. And a nanny is there to fill in for a parent when the parent can't be there. When I'm home, let ME be attached to my child. I don't need the distraction of my nanny texting me. What i need is to spend time with my family.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:MB here. Well, if it's an obvious garden variety headcold then I won't mind you checking in but it's probably unnecessary.

If it's anything more significant (gastrointestinal mess, significant pain, injury, spiking fevers, etc...) then I'd be touched that you checked in. And if it's serious I'd play to update you so that you knew whether you were coming back to an ongoing situation, a significantly improved child, or shouldn't come in for another day or two. I expect and hope that you will care enough about my kid(s) to wonder if they're ok for heaven's sake!

I guess this is definitely the kind of thing that varies from individual to individual but unless you're someone who is constantly in touch w/ your employers about inconsequential things I can imagine a parent being bothered.

I guess I just don't understand why a parent would be bothered. If your children are sick you want to know when they are better, right? How they are feeling? It is the same with nannies. Not strange at all..

I would be bothered because I'm trying to work from home while also taking care of a sick child (and keeping the other child away from the sick one). I'm already busy enough. If MY child is sick of course I want to know when they're better, but no, it is NOT the same with nannies - nannies are not mothers to the children they care for.

Yes, I completely understand. A text does take up so much time. You have to look at your phone, read a few words, and reply. I understand how burdensome that must be. And of course it is not the same with nannies. Nannies only spend 50 or so hours with children a week. They should not form an attachment, especially not one akin to parent and child. The horror...

When I'm at home I'm almost always either giving attention to my kids, my husband or my job. None of which I really want to be interrupted from with a text. When I'm doing anything with the kids, as long as my husband is home, I won't look at my phone for an incoming text. If I'm paying attention to you, you get my full attention. And a nanny is there to fill in for a parent when the parent can't be there. When I'm home, let ME be attached to my child. I don't need the distraction of my nanny texting me. What i need is to spend time with my family.

LOL I almost always agree with the MBs on here because these nannies are insane but you just sound like a fruit loop.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:MB here. Well, if it's an obvious garden variety headcold then I won't mind you checking in but it's probably unnecessary.

If it's anything more significant (gastrointestinal mess, significant pain, injury, spiking fevers, etc...) then I'd be touched that you checked in. And if it's serious I'd play to update you so that you knew whether you were coming back to an ongoing situation, a significantly improved child, or shouldn't come in for another day or two. I expect and hope that you will care enough about my kid(s) to wonder if they're ok for heaven's sake!

I guess this is definitely the kind of thing that varies from individual to individual but unless you're someone who is constantly in touch w/ your employers about inconsequential things I can imagine a parent being bothered.

I guess I just don't understand why a parent would be bothered. If your children are sick you want to know when they are better, right? How they are feeling? It is the same with nannies. Not strange at all..

I would be bothered because I'm trying to work from home while also taking care of a sick child (and keeping the other child away from the sick one). I'm already busy enough. If MY child is sick of course I want to know when they're better, but no, it is NOT the same with nannies - nannies are not mothers to the children they care for.

Yes, I completely understand. A text does take up so much time. You have to look at your phone, read a few words, and reply. I understand how burdensome that must be. And of course it is not the same with nannies. Nannies only spend 50 or so hours with children a week. They should not form an attachment, especially not one akin to parent and child. The horror...

When I'm at home I'm almost always either giving attention to my kids, my husband or my job. None of which I really want to be interrupted from with a text. When I'm doing anything with the kids, as long as my husband is home, I won't look at my phone for an incoming text. If I'm paying attention to you, you get my full attention. And a nanny is there to fill in for a parent when the parent can't be there. When I'm home, let ME be attached to my child. I don't need the distraction of my nanny texting me. What i need is to spend time with my family.

LOL I almost always agree with the MBs on here because these nannies are insane but you just sound like a fruit loop.

+1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I rather you don't. Maybe if the baby were having surgery, but otherwise, no. You'll never know that of course, but I rather you leave us alone when you're not working. You'll just get a quick text in response from me that shuts down the conversation. "Doing ok thanks, see you on Thursday."

My aren't you a nice person.

I actually am a nice person. But I'm not a huge fan of talking with my employees outside of work. Let's all just show up on time, leave each other a clean house and kids, fulfill our obligations to each other and that's plenty.

Mariah?

[Anonymous]

To the PP, if you sent your nanny a text
over the weekend, asking her a question
would it be alright if she ignored it? Perhaps
if she adopted the same attitude as you. Maybe
she doesn't want to be bothered by your
annoying texts to start early.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:To the PP, if you sent your nanny a text
over the weekend, asking her a question
would it be alright if she ignored it? Perhaps
if she adopted the same attitude as you. Maybe
she doesn't want to be bothered by your
annoying texts to start early.

I would never text my nanny outside of her working hours. My time is valuable and I spend it only with family and people I care about. If there was anything at all I needed to know from nanny it could wait until she was on duty.

[Anonymous]

So if you notice a bump or bruise on
your child that the nanny didn't mention,
you would wait until Monday to find
out about it?