MB commenting on the things I buy

[Anonymous]

How rude!

Sounds to me like she is resentful of the amount she is paying you which is due to no fault of your own OP.

Some parents just do not see the justification of paying good money for childcare. They prefer to cut corners where their children are concerned.

Just remember that the problem is HER, not YOU.

And then ignore her.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I've been here 5 months and she comments constantly on what I buy/wear/drive.

"Oh, those shoes are really nice. I know they cost a pretty penny. Glad we keep you looking good."
"We wanted to vacation in Aspen too. It's pricey, I guess I know my money will be going there regardless."


She comments on my clothes and jelewery mostly, but often what I eat or where I go to get my hair done. It's not HER money once I cash the checks. Where does she think her money comes from? Does her boss always question what she buys?

Plus, most of what I have that is higher end was given as a gift. I rarely buy expensive things for myself.

You wear designer shoes to your nanny job?
You tell her you're going on a ski trip to Aspen?
You have sugar daddies gifting you these costly things?

I'd be more concerned about what values you are teaching my kids! Tone it down at work, you sounds like you're ready to fly the coup.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I've been here 5 months and she comments constantly on what I buy/wear/drive.

"Oh, those shoes are really nice. I know they cost a pretty penny. Glad we keep you looking good."
"We wanted to vacation in Aspen too. It's pricey, I guess I know my money will be going there regardless."


She comments on my clothes and jelewery mostly, but often what I eat or where I go to get my hair done. It's not HER money once I cash the checks. Where does she think her money comes from? Does her boss always question what she buys?

Plus, most of what I have that is higher end was given as a gift. I rarely buy expensive things for myself.

You wear designer shoes to your nanny job?
You tell her you're going on a ski trip to Aspen?
You have sugar daddies gifting you these costly things?

I'd be more concerned about what values you are teaching my kids! Tone it down at work, you sounds like you're ready to fly the coup.

LOL, just because he bought her a nice purse doesn't mean he's a sugar daddy. Couples usually buy each other presents. So she's spoiled? Who cares?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I've been here 5 months and she comments constantly on what I buy/wear/drive.

"Oh, those shoes are really nice. I know they cost a pretty penny. Glad we keep you looking good."
"We wanted to vacation in Aspen too. It's pricey, I guess I know my money will be going there regardless."


She comments on my clothes and jelewery mostly, but often what I eat or where I go to get my hair done. It's not HER money once I cash the checks. Where does she think her money comes from? Does her boss always question what she buys?

Plus, most of what I have that is higher end was given as a gift. I rarely buy expensive things for myself.

You wear designer shoes to your nanny job?
You tell her you're going on a ski trip to Aspen?
You have sugar daddies gifting you these costly things?

I'd be more concerned about what values you are teaching my kids! Tone it down at work, you sounds like you're ready to fly the coup.

I have designer boots, purse and few nice pieces of jewelry. I'm also going on a 10 day vacation to Europe. While I don't brag (I'm not rich or better than anyone else) I would never tone down my lifestyle to make someone else feel better about their own. I work hard for my money and save it. here is why I have some many nice things...I DONT HAVE CHILDREN! I make half of what my MB makes and less than a quarter of what her and husband make combined, the difference I don't have a family support so I'm able to live a similar lifestyle to them on my lower income.

[Anonymous]

Why are you wearing jewelry to work with children? Why does she know where you go on vacation? Why does she know where you get your hair done?

Perhaps make sure that you are not showing off and bragging? Wear no jewelry (simple studs and a simple watch would make sense), switch between two different pairs of shoes and get some simple Old Navy crap to work in. After you do all that and stop talking about fancy places you go, THEN say to her "It creates a really awkward moment when you comment about how the salary I earn by working for you allows me to spend on things. Could we please stick to just talking about the job and kids?"

+1.

Actually, I find OP's post very hard to believe. The quotes are ridiculous. Who says "pretty penny"? They are also so over the top obnoxious as to be unbelievable.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I've been here 5 months and she comments constantly on what I buy/wear/drive.

"Oh, those shoes are really nice. I know they cost a pretty penny. Glad we keep you looking good."
"We wanted to vacation in Aspen too. It's pricey, I guess I know my money will be going there regardless."


She comments on my clothes and jelewery mostly, but often what I eat or where I go to get my hair done. It's not HER money once I cash the checks. Where does she think her money comes from? Does her boss always question what she buys?

Plus, most of what I have that is higher end was given as a gift. I rarely buy expensive things for myself.

You wear designer shoes to your nanny job?
You tell her you're going on a ski trip to Aspen?
You have sugar daddies gifting you these costly things?


I'd be more concerned about what values you are teaching my kids! Tone it down at work, you sounds like you're ready to fly the coup.

Ok, he is not a "Sugar Daddy" he is my boyfriend of five years. I supported him through graduate school, so it's not like his is a one way relationship.

Do I wear designer shoes everyday? No. However I've taken my charges to recitals and concerts and I have worn my nicer outfits and shoes per request by NF. She easily has a much more expensive wardrobe, why should I feel ashamed for a handful of nice pieces of jewelry and outfits?

[Anonymous]

What kind of designer shoes do you have ? How much are they worth? How much is this jewlry you wear ?

[Anonymous]

OP don't bother with these snide responses, especially the PP. some of these people are just as bad as your MB!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I've been here 5 months and she comments constantly on what I buy/wear/drive.

"Oh, those shoes are really nice. I know they cost a pretty penny. Glad we keep you looking good."
"We wanted to vacation in Aspen too. It's pricey, I guess I know my money will be going there regardless."


She comments on my clothes and jelewery mostly, but often what I eat or where I go to get my hair done. It's not HER money once I cash the checks. Where does she think her money comes from? Does her boss always question what she buys?

Plus, most of what I have that is higher end was given as a gift. I rarely buy expensive things for myself.

You wear designer shoes to your nanny job?
You tell her you're going on a ski trip to Aspen?
You have sugar daddies gifting you these costly things?

I'd be more concerned about what values you are teaching my kids! Tone it down at work, you sounds like you're ready to fly the coup.

You have jealousy issue. Why don't you tell your husband you want some designers stuff if he can't afford you can find a sugar daddies. How about that?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I've been here 5 months and she comments constantly on what I buy/wear/drive.

"Oh, those shoes are really nice. I know they cost a pretty penny. Glad we keep you looking good."
"We wanted to vacation in Aspen too. It's pricey, I guess I know my money will be going there regardless."


She comments on my clothes and jelewery mostly, but often what I eat or where I go to get my hair done. It's not HER money once I cash the checks. Where does she think her money comes from? Does her boss always question what she buys?

Plus, most of what I have that is higher end was given as a gift. I rarely buy expensive things for myself.

I think it's pretty clear it is just because you are too, too awesome!
Thank god you have DCUM to share your awesomeness with! Thank you thank you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Why are you wearing jewelry to work with children? Why does she know where you go on vacation? Why does she know where you get your hair done?

Perhaps make sure that you are not showing off and bragging? Wear no jewelry (simple studs and a simple watch would make sense), switch between two different pairs of shoes and get some simple Old Navy crap to work in. After you do all that and stop talking about fancy places you go, THEN say to her "It creates a really awkward moment when you comment about how the salary I earn by working for you allows me to spend on things. Could we please stick to just talking about the job and kids?"

+1.

Actually, I find OP's post very hard to believe. The quotes are ridiculous. Who says "pretty penny"? They are also so over the top obnoxious as to be unbelievable.

I hear the term "pretty penny" used. I would gauge OP is a reader or watches a lot of movies like me. My nanny likes to shop and dresses better than I do. She is younger and more attractive, but I am not the jealous type. We let her shower and change at our house so that she can make her evening social events. I will often tell her she looks pretty and "nice dress", etc. It is unfortunate that her MB feels competitive with her.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:How rude!

Sounds to me like she is resentful of the amount she is paying you which is due to no fault of your own OP.

Some parents just do not see the justification of paying good money for childcare. They prefer to cut corners where their children are concerned.

Just remember that the problem is HER, not YOU.

And then ignore her.

And look for a new job working for someone with a developed sense of decorum. She is devoid of good manners. Find someome worthy of you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Why are you wearing jewelry to work with children? Why does she know where you go on vacation? Why does she know where you get your hair done?

Perhaps make sure that you are not showing off and bragging? Wear no jewelry (simple studs and a simple watch would make sense), switch between two different pairs of shoes and get some simple Old Navy crap to work in. After you do all that and stop talking about fancy places you go, THEN say to her "It creates a really awkward moment when you comment about how the salary I earn by working for you allows me to spend on things. Could we please stick to just talking about the job and kids?"

+1.

Actually, I find OP's post very hard to believe. The quotes are ridiculous. Who says "pretty penny"? They are also so over the top obnoxious as to be unbelievable.

This is a very insular way of thinking. I wasn't raised in America, and using the terms "pretty penny", to describe costly items isn't over the top. At least not in my culture. To his/her own.

OP, your MB is truly inappropriate and passive-aggressive. I would let her know, in a nice way that her comments were making me uncomfortable.