ran into our nightmare ex-nanny

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We have someone absolutely wonderful now, but earlier today we ran into the ex- the one who demanded everything and more each month, wouldn't lift a finger outside of the kids, treated me ,( the first time mom) like an inconvenient novice, and made our lives way more complicated than they needed to be. Now we have someone wonderful. She has made our lives happier. Our house is more happy with her presence. And yes, she does help with cleaning and laundry. We love her and will be very generous with her. I am so grateful right now thinking back to those early days, that did not need to be that hard.... To anyone in an uncomfortable situation with your employee, it is worth finding the right one!!! She loves us and we love her. Here's to a good fit both ways!

I do not want my children;s nanny to "life a finger outside of the kids". I want her 100% attention on my children. However, the rest of the things that you listed are awful and I'm glad you found a better fit for your family.

I've put my NF's clean dishes away on occasion (maybe once a month when I see they forgot or didn't have time to get to them), that's called going above and beyond. It's not job creep, being taken advantage of, or anything else. It's me doing something nice and helpful for my employers, especially considering all the times they go above and beyond for me.

I wish more nannies were good human beings.

[Anonymous]

This is nice to read.
We have very recently gotten to the last straw with our complaining nanny who is trying to always get out of basic things. Doesn't like any of the strollers, doesn't like any of the car seats, doesn't like going to child's class in the rain or cold, doesn't know how to properly use the car seat, wants to leave early on Thursdays to take a school pick up job for $40, and so on and so on.
She is nice and loving with the children but a PITA for the parents many mornings.
I think it's time for a change.

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Anonymous wrote:I bet seeing the old one made you appreciate the new one so much more!

Not a PP here...but my first nanny (who I found here!) neglected my child - she was only employed for 5 weeks and was a nightmare. It took months for me to emotionally recover from the guilt I felt hiring her. Her references checked out, which is why I personally put very little stock in references now! She emailed me asking for her W2 (which she could have gotten online from her payroll, but she's a lazy idiot). And it made all the emotions of how awful she was come flooding back and that night, sent an email to our current nanny - who I LOVE - telling her how much I appreciate how hard she works and how much of a positive influence she is on our son (and us).

She's worth every penny and more.

[Anonymous]

This reminds of the time I ran into (well saw in a supermarket) the crazy MB I once worked for. I am so grateful to work for a normal nice family now. Don't know how I lasted three years with that nut although I think previous MB suffered from depression. When I worked for her, everyone else in the house suffered as well.

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My employers have the opposite. They were so spoiled by having an excellent nanny who went above and beyond that when I quit and they had to find someone else they were always disappointed. They have been through 3 nannies in the last 2 years. I was with them for 3 years. We parted was because they moved further than I was willing to travel.

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I ran into my nightmare ex-MB twice. She probably went home and told her husband she ran into their nightmare ex-nanny. It's all relative.

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Not cleaning is different than neglect. Neglect isn't negotiable (mine wasn't feeding or changing my child...taking him at 4 months outside in the polar vortex for hours. If she didn't put away dishes or do laundry, I wouldn't even notice

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She probably told her friends that she ran into her former nightmare boss.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We have someone absolutely wonderful now, but earlier today we ran into the ex- the one who demanded everything and more each month, wouldn't lift a finger outside of the kids, treated me ,( the first time mom) like an inconvenient novice, and made our lives way more complicated than they needed to be. Now we have someone wonderful. She has made our lives happier. Our house is more happy with her presence. And yes, she does help with cleaning and laundry. We love her and will be very generous with her. I am so grateful right now thinking back to those early days, that did not need to be that hard.... To anyone in an uncomfortable situation with your employee, it is worth finding the right one!!! She loves us and we love her. Here's to a good fit both ways!

Thanks!
We are going through that right now. Our current nanny drops a bomb on us each and every month (more gas money, can I take side jobs while watching charge, days off, $2 raise not $1 raise, play date with sick kid bc "they" haven't seen each other in weeks, loose car seatstraps bc toddler wearing a coat is OK, etc) and it's getting too disruptive to our mornings and our jobs. We also really question her judgment.

Where did you find her and what are you paying her per hour?

Why? Do you want to hire her?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We have someone absolutely wonderful now, but earlier today we ran into the ex- the one who demanded everything and more each month, wouldn't lift a finger outside of the kids, treated me ,( the first time mom) like an inconvenient novice, and made our lives way more complicated than they needed to be. Now we have someone wonderful. She has made our lives happier. Our house is more happy with her presence. And yes, she does help with cleaning and laundry. We love her and will be very generous with her. I am so grateful right now thinking back to those early days, that did not need to be that hard.... To anyone in an uncomfortable situation with your employee, it is worth finding the right one!!! She loves us and we love her. Here's to a good fit both ways!

I do not want my children;s nanny to "life a finger outside of the kids". I want her 100% attention on my children. However, the rest of the things that you listed are awful and I'm glad you found a better fit for your family.

Neither did I, till our children were both in part time school 3-4 hours a day. She needs work to fill that time, and luckily our new nanny was open to a housekeeper / nanny position.