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[Anonymous]

I don't know what's right here but I'm a part-time SAHM with a part time nanny. When baby #2 arrives we will hire our nanny full time and I'll be home a lot too. I'm still giving her a raise of $2/hour. She is very amenable and helps with meals and grocery shopping as well as anything else she notices I need help with if I'm with our child.

I think a raise after 2 years is reasonable even without a new baby.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don't know what's right here but I'm a part-time SAHM with a part time nanny. When baby #2 arrives we will hire our nanny full time and I'll be home a lot too. I'm still giving her a raise of $2/hour. She is very amenable and helps with meals and grocery shopping as well as anything else she notices I need help with if I'm with our child.

I think a raise after 2 years is reasonable even without a new baby.

I think a raise after the first year is even more reasonable and sensible. It rewards the first year of work. Had I waited two years without giving any raise, I think I would have lost my excellent nanny.

[Anonymous]

I think you are 100% justified in asking for a raise. Honestly, I would have expected a raise when Child #2 came along. However, I think the news that she's taking 6 more months to "think about what she wants to do" is code for she's trying to decide whether she wants to be a SAHM and doesn't want to let you go until she's sure she does. Unfortunately, I think your request for a raise is likely to add weight to the SAHM side of the scales.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think you are 100% justified in asking for a raise. Honestly, I would have expected a raise when Child #2 came along. However, I think the news that she's taking 6 more months to "think about what she wants to do" is code for she's trying to decide whether she wants to be a SAHM and doesn't want to let you go until she's sure she does. Unfortunately, I think your request for a raise is likely to add weight to the SAHM side of the scales.

Good reason to stay home - you cannot afford a nanny. Find a new job with good people who can afford you, OP.

[Anonymous]

OP here, I know the mom is 100% going back to work and they have been very upfront and honest with me. I actually asked for a raise and got $2 more and said they were so sorry they were not the ones to bring it up! Appreciated me being proactive. Very happy!

[Anonymous]

Op here-got a $2 raise and she said how sorry/embarrassed she had not mentioning it first! The DB thanked me for being proactive!?

[Anonymous]

I make $25 an hour for two kids who are gone most of the day. You should just find a new family.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:$15 an hour really is the max for nannies. I wouldn't ask for anything beyond that because there are 1000's of nannies available at that rate and if you demand more they will just replace you.

Wow, then let them replace you and find a family who isn't cheap. That's ridiculous...$15 is not the max for nannies. With the reimbursement I am given for gas, I make $19.50.

And op - YES you are definitely due a raise, every good employee is entitled to a yearly raise no matter how small. You also should have expected an addition raise when they had another child. That is just common sense and they should know better than treat you like that.

I worked for a family full time who did not offer me a raise after 1 year. She herself said she thought I was "very responsible and incredibly reliable" and all this other seemingly great stuff, and yet no raise ever came. The worst part about it? She was in HR, a WAHM, and so all id hear her talking about on the phone all day was others' salaries and how much their annual raises would be!! It made me feel so unappreciated, undervalued, and kind of offended. Needless to say I left them. Moral of the story...show your nannies yearly appreciation the same as any other career is entitled to.