Pay question for nanny share

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Her bringing her child to work does not mean you pay her nanny share rates. If you do, she gets an equal say in all childcare related matters.

If you are bringing your kid I'm not paying you full pay.... it's basically a share.

Like PP said, if it is a share, it is a share. Pay like one, and split ALL childcare decisions. If you want to play boss, you're going to have to pay more for the convenience. Not necessarily full pay, but more than half. OP, I would suggest paying minimum wage, or slightly more, and having a very specific contract detailing everyone's expectations. If you're both going to think of it as a share, she may (rightfully) expect herself and her child to be an equal in this relationship. That means all of the compromises that come with a share. No one kid/family gets to dictate how care will be provided.

If only one person is putting money into the "share" then they are in charge. Remember that the nanny has benefits in this relationship too in not having childcare.

That's not how this works. That's not how any of this works.

The above poster is exactly right. Thank you, 12:44.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Her bringing her child to work does not mean you pay her nanny share rates. If you do, she gets an equal say in all childcare related matters.

If you are bringing your kid I'm not paying you full pay.... it's basically a share.

Like PP said, if it is a share, it is a share. Pay like one, and split ALL childcare decisions. If you want to play boss, you're going to have to pay more for the convenience. Not necessarily full pay, but more than half. OP, I would suggest paying minimum wage, or slightly more, and having a very specific contract detailing everyone's expectations. If you're both going to think of it as a share, she may (rightfully) expect herself and her child to be an equal in this relationship. That means all of the compromises that come with a share. No one kid/family gets to dictate how care will be provided.

If only one person is putting money into the "share" then they are in charge. Remember that the nanny has benefits in this relationship too in not having childcare.

That's not how this works. That's not how any of this works.

She is more than welcome to use my pay to her to pay for her own childcare.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am tossing around the idea of hiring a nanny who would bring her own child. I know, I know. I am desperate. I would like to style it as a nanny share but I'm having trouble deciding on a salary. We do not live in DC and full time sitters are paid between $5-12 an hour here. Yes, I know that's below minimum wage but that is how it is here. What would a salary for a nanny bringing her own child be considering the average pay is so low. I need to pay at least minimum wage.

Stop trying to get over on her and simply ask her.

[Anonymous]

She said $6-8 an hour. That seems low (and not legal).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:She said $6-8 an hour. That seems low (and not legal).

Apparently, we don't know the full story here. Maybe you don't either, but maybe you know more than you're telling us. Do what you want.

[Anonymous]

That's the full story. As I said, I do not live in DC. People are desperate for jobs here.

[Anonymous]

Do what you want.

[Anonymous]

Thanks for the help.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Her bringing her child to work does not mean you pay her nanny share rates. If you do, she gets an equal say in all childcare related matters.

If you are bringing your kid I'm not paying you full pay.... it's basically a share.

Like PP said, if it is a share, it is a share. Pay like one, and split ALL childcare decisions. If you want to play boss, you're going to have to pay more for the convenience. Not necessarily full pay, but more than half. OP, I would suggest paying minimum wage, or slightly more, and having a very specific contract detailing everyone's expectations. If you're both going to think of it as a share, she may (rightfully) expect herself and her child to be an equal in this relationship. That means all of the compromises that come with a share. No one kid/family gets to dictate how care will be provided.

If only one person is putting money into the "share" then they are in charge. Remember that the nanny has benefits in this relationship too in not having childcare.

Her labor is paying for her half. That is why you'd be paying about half of what her wages would otherwise be. That is how shares work. If you want to be "in charge" you should expect to pony up the majority of her wages. However, if your desire is to be "in charge" a share/nanny with a child is not the care choice for you. You cannot realistically expect a mother to put your selfish desires above what is best for her kid. In this situation, OP would need to realize that decisions must be made that are best for BOTH children and families, hence the steep discount.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Her bringing her child to work does not mean you pay her nanny share rates. If you do, she gets an equal say in all childcare related matters.

If you are bringing your kid I'm not paying you full pay.... it's basically a share.

Like PP said, if it is a share, it is a share. Pay like one, and split ALL childcare decisions. If you want to play boss, you're going to have to pay more for the convenience. Not necessarily full pay, but more than half. OP, I would suggest paying minimum wage, or slightly more, and having a very specific contract detailing everyone's expectations. If you're both going to think of it as a share, she may (rightfully) expect herself and her child to be an equal in this relationship. That means all of the compromises that come with a share. No one kid/family gets to dictate how care will be provided.

If only one person is putting money into the "share" then they are in charge. Remember that the nanny has benefits in this relationship too in not having childcare.

Her labor is paying for her half. That is why you'd be paying about half of what her wages would otherwise be. That is how shares work. If you want to be "in charge" you should expect to pony up the majority of her wages. However, if your desire is to be "in charge" a share/nanny with a child is not the care choice for you. You cannot realistically expect a mother to put your selfish desires above what is best for her kid. In this situation, OP would need to realize that decisions must be made that are best for BOTH children and families, hence the steep discount.

Agree

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Her bringing her child to work does not mean you pay her nanny share rates. If you do, she gets an equal say in all childcare related matters.

If you are bringing your kid I'm not paying you full pay.... it's basically a share.

Like PP said, if it is a share, it is a share. Pay like one, and split ALL childcare decisions. If you want to play boss, you're going to have to pay more for the convenience. Not necessarily full pay, but more than half. OP, I would suggest paying minimum wage, or slightly more, and having a very specific contract detailing everyone's expectations. If you're both going to think of it as a share, she may (rightfully) expect herself and her child to be an equal in this relationship. That means all of the compromises that come with a share. No one kid/family gets to dictate how care will be provided.

If only one person is putting money into the "share" then they are in charge. Remember that the nanny has benefits in this relationship too in not having childcare.

Her labor is paying for her half. That is why you'd be paying about half of what her wages would otherwise be. That is how shares work. If you want to be "in charge" you should expect to pony up the majority of her wages. However, if your desire is to be "in charge" a share/nanny with a child is not the care choice for you. You cannot realistically expect a mother to put your selfish desires above what is best for her kid. In this situation, OP would need to realize that decisions must be made that are best for BOTH children and families, hence the steep discount.

Agree

Based on your valid point, that as a mom the nanny bringing her own child will always be putting her childs needs above mine then I feel even more comfortable in ~$6 an hour.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Her bringing her child to work does not mean you pay her nanny share rates. If you do, she gets an equal say in all childcare related matters.

If you are bringing your kid I'm not paying you full pay.... it's basically a share.

Like PP said, if it is a share, it is a share. Pay like one, and split ALL childcare decisions. If you want to play boss, you're going to have to pay more for the convenience. Not necessarily full pay, but more than half. OP, I would suggest paying minimum wage, or slightly more, and having a very specific contract detailing everyone's expectations. If you're both going to think of it as a share, she may (rightfully) expect herself and her child to be an equal in this relationship. That means all of the compromises that come with a share. No one kid/family gets to dictate how care will be provided.

If only one person is putting money into the "share" then they are in charge. Remember that the nanny has benefits in this relationship too in not having childcare.

Her labor is paying for her half. That is why you'd be paying about half of what her wages would otherwise be. That is how shares work. If you want to be "in charge" you should expect to pony up the majority of her wages. However, if your desire is to be "in charge" a share/nanny with a child is not the care choice for you. You cannot realistically expect a mother to put your selfish desires above what is best for her kid. In this situation, OP would need to realize that decisions must be made that are best for BOTH children and families, hence the steep discount.

Agree

Based on your valid point, that as a mom the nanny bringing her own child will always be putting her childs needs above mine then I feel even more comfortable in ~$6 an hour.

That is illegal, Scumbag. I hope you do hire someone to care for your kid at $6/hour.
You'll miss a lit of work.

[Anonymous]

I'm the OP and NOT the person who said I'd pay $6 an hour.

So say I didn't want to style it as a nanny share, but wanted more input. How much would I pay? Again, she is a SAHM looking for extra money so sshe doesn't have established rates. She has asked for $6-8, with all but the top being illegal. $8 seems low, but maybe not since she's bringing a child?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm the OP and NOT the person who said I'd pay $6 an hour.

So say I didn't want to style it as a nanny share, but wanted more input. How much would I pay? Again, she is a SAHM looking for extra money so sshe doesn't have established rates. She has asked for $6-8, with all but the top being illegal. $8 seems low, but maybe not since she's bringing a child?

I would suggest you offer her at least $18/hr. You have to consider she has a child to support. If she was young and single I would suggest $12/hr.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm the OP and NOT the person who said I'd pay $6 an hour.

So say I didn't want to style it as a nanny share, but wanted more input. How much would I pay? Again, she is a SAHM looking for extra money so sshe doesn't have established rates. She has asked for $6-8, with all but the top being illegal. $8 seems low, but maybe not since she's bringing a child?

I would suggest you offer her at least $18/hr. You have to consider she has a child to support. If she was young and single I would suggest $12/hr.

I'm a nanny and that's insane. OP, what is your area? For a low COL area, $10-12/hr is great.