Oh shit, should we have gotten our nanny a gift?

[Anonymous]

We don't exchange gifts with our nanny, primarily because we don't celebrate xmas.

[Anonymous]

she is expecting a bonus. that's it and that's fine.

you can always take money out of the bonus and buy something else for her. but that can be risky as well (fit, like it, need it, waste of money, etc.).

don't worry.

[Anonymous]

A bonus is what you SHOULD have already given.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You should have given her her bonus before she left for the holidays if she has this week off.
She is probably feeling very unappreciated right now.
I normally dont think you need to do a gift from you, maybe something from the kids.
In this case though I think you screwed up in doing nothing before she left so you could do flowers or something small along with the bonus.

She didn't seem upset.

That just means she is professional, not that she isn't quietly upset.

[Anonymous]

A bonus is what you SHOULD have already given.

Oh, just stop with this nonsense. Bonuses are earned for a job well done if and whenever an employer feels like giving it. This employer is giving her nanny an end of the year bonus, because obviously, she believes her nanny has earned it. That is fine. It is also fine if she didn't give a bonus at all. Any nanny who feels entitled enough to a bonus and change their job attitude or leave their job because of it....should. It is a petty and stupid thing to judge a job on. It's also especially galling since so many DC workers have not seen raises or bonuses in years, if ever, and nannies think they are somehow more valuable than other workers and that their bonuses and raises are standard. Newsflash, they aren't. Eventually, families will trade you in because the percentage of their income for you keeps going up while their income stays the same.

So, it's probably a good idea if you greedy nannies remember that you are lucky to have jobs. We all are.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

A bonus is what you SHOULD have already given.

Oh, just stop with this nonsense. Bonuses are earned for a job well done if and whenever an employer feels like giving it. This employer is giving her nanny an end of the year bonus, because obviously, she believes her nanny has earned it. That is fine. It is also fine if she didn't give a bonus at all. Any nanny who feels entitled enough to a bonus and change their job attitude or leave their job because of it....should. It is a petty and stupid thing to judge a job on. It's also especially galling since so many DC workers have not seen raises or bonuses in years, if ever, and nannies think they are somehow more valuable than other workers and that their bonuses and raises are standard. Newsflash, they aren't. Eventually, families will trade you in because the percentage of their income for you keeps going up while their income stays the same.

So, it's probably a good idea if you greedy nannies remember that you are lucky to have jobs. We all are.

The fact that you're stupid enough to stay in a job that hasn't given you a raise in years is not my concern. There are plenty of families giving bonuses, and if my current job isn't meeting my standards, including financial incentive to stay, then yes I will leave. Nannies make far far far less than many of the workers in DC that you're referencing, so expecting a holiday bonus, which would push our income up less than $1k each year, still making less than $40k most likely, doesn't mean we are more valued. We are undervalued and you know it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

A bonus is what you SHOULD have already given.

Oh, just stop with this nonsense. Bonuses are earned for a job well done if and whenever an employer feels like giving it. This employer is giving her nanny an end of the year bonus, because obviously, she believes her nanny has earned it. That is fine. It is also fine if she didn't give a bonus at all. Any nanny who feels entitled enough to a bonus and change their job attitude or leave their job because of it....should. It is a petty and stupid thing to judge a job on. It's also especially galling since so many DC workers have not seen raises or bonuses in years, if ever, and nannies think they are somehow more valuable than other workers and that their bonuses and raises are standard. Newsflash, they aren't. Eventually, families will trade you in because the percentage of their income for you keeps going up while their income stays the same.

So, it's probably a good idea if you greedy nannies remember that you are lucky to have jobs. We all are.

Oh, it's you again.

You aren't a nanny nor do you employ a nanny. Why must you post here?

Did you have a bad nanny growing up?

[Anonymous]

Yes, I think you should have gotten her a token of appreciation for her services, most especially if she is a great nanny, but that is all water under the bridge now.

If you get her something now, it would be like a last minute thing and would be so awkward and thoughtless anyway.

At least you will know for next year, right?

[Anonymous]

A bonus is what you SHOULD have already given.


Oh, just stop with this nonsense. Bonuses are earned for a job well done if and whenever an employer feels like giving it. This employer is giving her nanny an end of the year bonus, because obviously, she believes her nanny has earned it. That is fine. It is also fine if she didn't give a bonus at all. Any nanny who feels entitled enough to a bonus and change their job attitude or leave their job because of it....should. It is a petty and stupid thing to judge a job on. It's also especially galling since so many DC workers have not seen raises or bonuses in years, if ever, and nannies think they are somehow more valuable than other workers and that their bonuses and raises are standard. Newsflash, they aren't. Eventually, families will trade you in because the percentage of their income for you keeps going up while their income stays the same.

So, it's probably a good idea if you greedy nannies remember that you are lucky to have jobs. We all are.



Oh, it's you again.

You aren't a nanny nor do you employ a nanny. Why must you post here?

Did you have a bad nanny growing up?

I'm not the poster you think I am because I most definitely have a nanny and have posted about her many times before.

So, take your bad attitude elsewhere and stop trolling for trouble here.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

A bonus is what you SHOULD have already given.


Oh, just stop with this nonsense. Bonuses are earned for a job well done if and whenever an employer feels like giving it. This employer is giving her nanny an end of the year bonus, because obviously, she believes her nanny has earned it. That is fine. It is also fine if she didn't give a bonus at all. Any nanny who feels entitled enough to a bonus and change their job attitude or leave their job because of it....should. It is a petty and stupid thing to judge a job on. It's also especially galling since so many DC workers have not seen raises or bonuses in years, if ever, and nannies think they are somehow more valuable than other workers and that their bonuses and raises are standard. Newsflash, they aren't. Eventually, families will trade you in because the percentage of their income for you keeps going up while their income stays the same.

So, it's probably a good idea if you greedy nannies remember that you are lucky to have jobs. We all are.



Oh, it's you again.

You aren't a nanny nor do you employ a nanny. Why must you post here?

Did you have a bad nanny growing up?

I'm not the poster you think I am because I most definitely have a nanny and have posted about her many times before.

So, take your bad attitude elsewhere and stop trolling for trouble here.

Does she know you have no respect for her?

[Anonymous]

Since we are officially the worst employers of the year, we decided to have a gift delivered tomorrow morning.

Hopefully she thinks it was planned that way...

[Anonymous]

Nanny here. You forgot. No biggie op. Enjoy your holiday!

[Anonymous]

What the sam hill is wrong with you, OP ? Let. Me count the ways:

Thoughtless
Selfish
Cheap
Idiot

I could go on but if your IQ is over 10, you get the idea.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What the sam hill is wrong with you, OP ? Let. Me count the ways:

Thoughtless
Selfish
Cheap
Idiot

I could go on but if your IQ is over 10, you get the idea.

Oh, get over yourself.

I'm a nanny and I would understand if my employer did this.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Since we are officially the worst employers of the year, we decided to have a gift delivered tomorrow morning.

Hopefully she thinks it was planned that way...

Í bet she'll love it. Chances are she is far more mature than many of the nannies that post here.
Dont stress about it and enjoy the holiday.