At indoor playground saw another nanny...

[Anonymous]

OP, please ignore the posters who say you are jealous or want this job. Those are from the crappy "nannies" who don't want their own employers to find out from other people what bad nannies they actually are. PLEASE tell the mother. I feel really sad for this little girl who is being ignored by the person who is supposed to be taking care of her. The nanny doesn't have to be outright mean to her for this to be a significant issue. She's neglecting her charge and not doing her job.

[Anonymous]

OP here. I did tell the mom. I started by typing up, objectively, just stating the facts, the things I had observed during their time at the playground. Then I went back and reread it a couple times, and I realized that these were things her mom really needed to know (and deserved to know). So, I sent it. She said thank you for the info, and that she felt conflicted because they were otherwise happy with their nanny (she mentioned that she's always on time, keeps a log of the day's activities, etc) but agreed that it sounds like she's having serious issues dividing up her time between the kids fairly. She said she will spend the next two weeks (while nanny is out of town) thinking carefully about how she will handle it.

As for the issue of "I must be jealous or I wouldn't have mentioned or considered the rate." Like I said I'm already happily employed full time and I'm paid well, too. But, the reason I felt it necessary to mention, is, well, I feel that in many ways you get what you pay for. I might not have felt so strongly about it if I thought MB was underpaying to begin with. She is paying a strong competitive rate and so she should have a great nanny who takes care of her daughter responsibly.

To the PP who questioned where my charge was while observing all this, well, my charge is nearly three years old, and can safely climb on all the equipment there by himself (and it is all pretty safe, nothing is particularly high off the ground, and the entire floor is covered by soft gym mats). He almost always finds a friend to play with there and is happy as can be playing with the friend or independently there (they have a train table too which he loves). To be honest he does not play independently at home (he always seems to need me to be super involved and direct his play at home) and he is an only child and not in preschool. So, I think that he needs to be able to have enough freedom to play independently and also with other kids at the indoor playground, which is why I was able to both keep an eye on him and also observe the other nanny. If my charge were younger (or special needs or if I cared for more than one) then I wouldn't have been able to observe so easily.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. I did tell the mom. I started by typing up, objectively, just stating the facts, the things I had observed during their time at the playground. Then I went back and reread it a couple times, and I realized that these were things her mom really needed to know (and deserved to know). So, I sent it. She said thank you for the info, and that she felt conflicted because they were otherwise happy with their nanny (she mentioned that she's always on time, keeps a log of the day's activities, etc) but agreed that it sounds like she's having serious issues dividing up her time between the kids fairly. She said she will spend the next two weeks (while nanny is out of town) thinking carefully about how she will handle it.

As for the issue of "I must be jealous or I wouldn't have mentioned or considered the rate." Like I said I'm already happily employed full time and I'm paid well, too. But, the reason I felt it necessary to mention, is, well, I feel that in many ways you get what you pay for. I might not have felt so strongly about it if I thought MB was underpaying to begin with. She is paying a strong competitive rate and so she should have a great nanny who takes care of her daughter responsibly.

To the PP who questioned where my charge was while observing all this, well, my charge is nearly three years old, and can safely climb on all the equipment there by himself (and it is all pretty safe, nothing is particularly high off the ground, and the entire floor is covered by soft gym mats). He almost always finds a friend to play with there and is happy as can be playing with the friend or independently there (they have a train table too which he loves). To be honest he does not play independently at home (he always seems to need me to be super involved and direct his play at home) and he is an only child and not in preschool. So, I think that he needs to be able to have enough freedom to play independently and also with other kids at the indoor playground, which is why I was able to both keep an eye on him and also observe the other nanny. If my charge were younger (or special needs or if I cared for more than one) then I wouldn't have been able to observe so easily.

OP, thanks for the follow-up. I'm happy to hear you told the mom. She needed to know and now it's her decision on how to handle it. You don't need to explain yourself to the nasty posters.

[Anonymous]

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[Anonymous]

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[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Write an anonymous letter to this kid's parents and let them know what's going on.

As a mom, I would want to know. No matter how nice my nanny is.

Do it ! Have them know by an anonymous letter.

Gossip.