Don't know where to start

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don't think nannies need raises every year especially if it's a long term 3-10 years with the same nanny. But replacing a great nanny just because seems crazy. Children will get used to other caregivers and teachers in Gymboree classes, ballet, soccer, preschool from the age of 2-5 then elementary school. That is a lot of new people to get used to. Why take away a core person on their life just because.

Because I should be their only core person. A nanny is not their mom, she is a helper. I don't think it's healthy letting your kids get attached to another woman for 10 years. When they start accidentally calling her mom it's time to go.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don't think nannies need raises every year especially if it's a long term 3-10 years with the same nanny. But replacing a great nanny just because seems crazy. Children will get used to other caregivers and teachers in Gymboree classes, ballet, soccer, preschool from the age of 2-5 then elementary school. That is a lot of new people to get used to. Why take away a core person on their life just because.

Because I should be their only core person. A nanny is not their mom, she is a helper. I don't think it's healthy letting your kids get attached to another woman for 10 years. When they start accidentally calling her mom it's time to go.

A lot of nanny positions are not like yours those. I've always been the core person in my charges life. Some have parents in another country most of the year while the other one travels. Or the parents leave for work at 7 am and get home around 9 pm never seeing the children except on weekends.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don't think nannies need raises every year especially if it's a long term 3-10 years with the same nanny. But replacing a great nanny just because seems crazy. Children will get used to other caregivers and teachers in Gymboree classes, ballet, soccer, preschool from the age of 2-5 then elementary school. That is a lot of new people to get used to. Why take away a core person on their life just because.

Because I should be their only core person. A nanny is not their mom, she is a helper. I don't think it's healthy letting your kids get attached to another woman for 10 years. When they start accidentally calling her mom it's time to go.

Lady your issues have issues. I hope I'm wrong and your children don't develop attachment and emotional problems down the line. If they do though, yep. It's your fault.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don't think nannies need raises every year especially if it's a long term 3-10 years with the same nanny. But replacing a great nanny just because seems crazy. Children will get used to other caregivers and teachers in Gymboree classes, ballet, soccer, preschool from the age of 2-5 then elementary school. That is a lot of new people to get used to. Why take away a core person on their life just because.

Because I should be their only core person. A nanny is not their mom, she is a helper. I don't think it's healthy letting your kids get attached to another woman for 10 years. When they start accidentally calling her mom it's time to go.

Lady your issues have issues. I hope I'm wrong and your children don't develop attachment and emotional problems down the line. If they do though, yep. It's your fault.

Typical helicopter mom response. No one os going to have "issues" because of changing babysitters. Get a grip woman!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don't think nannies need raises every year especially if it's a long term 3-10 years with the same nanny. But replacing a great nanny just because seems crazy. Children will get used to other caregivers and teachers in Gymboree classes, ballet, soccer, preschool from the age of 2-5 then elementary school. That is a lot of new people to get used to. Why take away a core person on their life just because.

Because I should be their only core person. A nanny is not their mom, she is a helper. I don't think it's healthy letting your kids get attached to another woman for 10 years. When they start accidentally calling her mom it's time to go.

Lady your issues have issues. I hope I'm wrong and your children don't develop attachment and emotional problems down the line. If they do though, yep. It's your fault.

Typical helicopter mom response. No one os going to have "issues" because of changing babysitters. Get a grip woman!

Nope. Not a mom. just wait 10 years. Good Luck with your life.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don't think nannies need raises every year especially if it's a long term 3-10 years with the same nanny. But replacing a great nanny just because seems crazy. Children will get used to other caregivers and teachers in Gymboree classes, ballet, soccer, preschool from the age of 2-5 then elementary school. That is a lot of new people to get used to. Why take away a core person on their life just because.

Because I should be their only core person. A nanny is not their mom, she is a helper. I don't think it's healthy letting your kids get attached to another woman for 10 years. When they start accidentally calling her mom it's time to go.

I'm sorry that you feel so insecure as a mom. No decent Nanny aims to replace parents. They do, however, aim to be an additional force of love in the lives of their charges. Love is not finite - just because your child(ren) feel love for their Nanny doesn't mean they love you less.

[Anonymous]

Well, my take away from this thread is not to waste time with a family that won't at least have a raise discussion at one year.

[Anonymous]

Who has time to replace a nanny every year or so? We had to do it because we lost ours twice because of life changes (school and husband's work), and with this last one, someone who could commit long term was a priority. I couldn't take the time to search again.

And if you're using an agency so that the search isn't as much of a hassle for you, then it seems like you're spending more than the equivalent of a yearly raise/bonus at typical levels on the agency fees.

Even from the selfish MB point of view, I don't see most normal people wanting to do a yearly nanny search!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Who has time to replace a nanny every year or so? We had to do it because we lost ours twice because of life changes (school and husband's work), and with this last one, someone who could commit long term was a priority. I couldn't take the time to search again.

And if you're using an agency so that the search isn't as much of a hassle for you, then it seems like you're spending more than the equivalent of a yearly raise/bonus at typical levels on the agency fees.

Even from the selfish MB point of view, I don't see most normal people wanting to do a yearly nanny search!

It's not much of a hassle if you aren't lazy. You don't need to interview 100 people. Plus it's for the benefit of my child so I don't really mind. I like the variety it provides and seeing my child grow up with different people.

I use recommendations of other friends and use the listserv for my area so I don't have to weed through the crap most people do with the free websites.