We love our nanny, but realize we can no longer afford here services.

[Anonymous]

I think your best bet is Option A. You stated that you need reliable care through the summer of 2015.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think your best bet is Option A. You stated that you need reliable care through the summer of 2015.

Except OP has stated that they cannot afford this nanny. They have already depleted savings paying for her. Savings. Plus if I'm remembering correctly the job situation of OP and spouse is unsteady.

Seems to me a case of not wanting to let go and having difficulty with change.

[Anonymous]

If things are truly dicey in the financial department OP, then you must think first and foremost of your family, most esp. your three children.

While it is highly noble of you to be so considerate of your loyal and loving nanny, you also must be realistic and not force your family into bankruptcy out of a sense of guilt.

Give your nanny as much notice as you possibly can and tell her your options if you think you can financially afford them. See what she says. She will most likely appreciate the fact that you took the time to think everything out and put it on paper and present everything to her in such an organized fashion. And no, she won't be offended at your offer for cleaning, though she may decline. I would. While I love caring for kids and don't mind doing light chores, I detest deep cleaning. Even my own house and I live alone!! Lol!!

If she decides to decline all offers and seek another position, offer to give an excellent referral for her as well as a letter of recommendation. If you have some time, perhaps you can also assist her in her search. Do you have any friends or co-workers you can network with to help her find a new family?

By the way, I want you to know you sound like an awesome employer. To care so much about your nanny is refreshing. It is obvious to me that her many years and dedication to your children means the world to you and that you appreciate her very much.