Nanny not working with us

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This must be a troll. No one normal would ask a NANNY to do this crap!

This is happening to me right now and I am actively looking for new employment. My bosses are being downright nasty about it and told me that I was taking advantage of them.

[Anonymous]

Cheapskate.

[Anonymous]

Absolutely a troll.

[Anonymous]

OP, face facts. Your nanny was hired as a nanny, not a housekeeper. Your needs have changed. Hers have not. If she was smart, she would be looking for a new position right now. Maybe she is.

[Anonymous]

OP, you did not ask her to pressure wash your deck? And organize the garage? only once a month is fine...

[Anonymous]

I think you are being quite unfair here OP.

My reason being is that just because your children grow up and evolve does not mean that you can tack on add'l duties for your nanny to do unless you told her this at hire.

For instance, at hire, did you tell her, "So...We understand that when our children our young they will be quite physically dependent on you for most of their needs. I.e., feeding, diapering, sleeping, etc. However as they progress in age, they will become more self-sufficient and as they do, your workload will decrease (but your level of responsibility will of course, remain at the same level.) So we will be adding household duties to your daily workload to offset some of the childcare duties. Will you be okay with this?"

Unless she agreed to this, then you are being extremely unfair, presumptuous and clueless about employing a nanny because honestly in all of my years of working as a nanny, this one takes the cake.

I have never had a family try to balance out the workload based on a child's sufficiency levels.

You sound crazy.

[Anonymous]

What nanny would wash windows? Some housekeepers don't even do that!

And vacuum 3x a day??

And no nanny in her right mind ever cleans a family's MAIN bathroom, like ever.

This posting has fake written all over it.

Next!

#Someonesureisboredtoday

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think you are being quite unfair here OP.

My reason being is that just because your children grow up and evolve does not mean that you can tack on add'l duties for your nanny to do unless you told her this at hire.

For instance, at hire, did you tell her, "So...We understand that when our children our young they will be quite physically dependent on you for most of their needs. I.e., feeding, diapering, sleeping, etc. However as they progress in age, they will become more self-sufficient and as they do, your workload will decrease (but your level of responsibility will of course, remain at the same level.) So we will be adding household duties to your daily workload to offset some of the childcare duties. Will you be okay with this?"

Unless she agreed to this, then you are being extremely unfair, presumptuous and clueless about employing a nanny because honestly in all of my years of working as a nanny, this one takes the cake.

I have never had a family try to balance out the workload based on a child's sufficiency levels.

You sound crazy.

I agree that OP is being ridiculous but I don't agree that you need to outline every detail of how a job may change over time. Most nannies know when children go to school the job either ends or changes somehow. No one can anticipate exactly what their needs will be in 5 years. I have young children now and when we hired the nanny she understood it was with the hope that she would be with us for years. At some point all the children will be in school and she and I will sit down together and figure out what additional responsibilities (if any) she will take on. I think OP is completely unreasonable in her expectations. I would never expect the nanny to clean the house but I would work with her to figure out what she is comfortable taking on. I don't expect to discuss this now when none of my children are in school and we have no idea what needs we will have when they are.

[Anonymous]

OP, if that is your real name, your nanny has already let you know what she is comfortable taking on. She does a lot for you already outside of her actual duties. You are getting greedy. IF what you want is someone to clean your house and check that your kids are still breathing every once in a while, let her move on and get an actual nanny job, since that is what she is, and get a housekeeper, since that is what you want. FYI, they cost more than a nanny.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:As a nanny I feel that I should be flexible. When I'm working with my older charge who doesn't need to be supervised all the time I will definitely do some light housework such as loading/unloading the dishwasher, kid laundry, cleaning the playroom, etc. Some nannies aren't comfortable with doing much more than this because they don't want to become a nanny/housekeeper, which is understandable.

I think you should bring up the cleaning thing again with your nanny. Tell her that there are a few things around the house you'd like her to do that are child related: putting dishes away, doing kid laundry, having the child help clean their bedroom/playroom, etc. I would let her know that you don't expect her to be doing deep cleaning of the bathroom or anything crazy like that because that's not her job, and it will also make it hard for her to keep her eyes/ears on your kids.

If she flat out refuses again I would start looking for someone new to take her place. Make sure that you place in your ad that you need someone who is willing to do some housekeeping, and I'm sure you'll find someone who is!

She's a childcarw provider not a maid!! Why can't you clean our own batroom?!!! And vacuum tree times a week?!!! Maid!! If you can't afford a many, then you should let her go so she can find someone who can. Again, nannies are not a right. They are a luxury. Unfortunately some nannies aren't educated in this matter and are fine with being nickels and dimed but the good ones that know they're rights, won't out up with it! I'd say let her go. You need a teenage babysitter at this not a nanny.

[Anonymous]

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[Anonymous]

What nanny would wash windows?

You just don't know, my friend use to work for a family of 5. The dad would have her doing all sorts of stupid tasks, one of them did involve vacuuming the window sills to get rid of the spiders and cobwebs. Then she had to wash them watching the baby, keeping him entertained as well as cooking for the entire family. The husband would also ask her to go to Sam's and buy them some things and never would pay her back. If you are being sponsored or they are so called helping you to get your papers, they don't know their rights and often will do the said thing. thank God she finally got out of that situation.