Why the ultimate penny-pincher mom would NEVER haggle over the nanny's established fees

[Anonymous]

OP...Just curious...No malice implied here. Why did you have such exceptionally high rates?

Anyway, it is acceptable to haggle over a purchase of a car, an appliance...even something at a flea market or a bazaar...But YOUR child??!

Heavens no!!

Watch out. These same people will get it right back at them when their own children hire cheap caregivers to care for them in old age because they want to save their money so when their parents die, they will get a bigger chunk of their inheritance. Karma.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP...Just curious...No malice implied here. Why did you have such exceptionally high rates?

Anyway, it is acceptable to haggle over a purchase of a car, an appliance...even something at a flea market or a bazaar...But YOUR child??!

Heavens no!!

Watch out. These same people will get it right back at them when their own children hire cheap caregivers to care for them in old age because they want to save their money so when their parents die, they will get a bigger chunk of their inheritance. Karma.

This is just silly and shows very poor logical reasoning ability. No one is posting about or advocating negotiation over the price or worth of a child. Negotiating over the price or worth of a particular childcare provider is totally different. It's a job. This is nothing inherently wrong with negotiating over compensation to be paid for performing a job. There is certainly no basis for complaining that a parent is cheap or in search of a cheap caregiver because she want to pay $20 or $22 per hour rather than $25 or $35 or whatever "exceptionally high rate" the OP feels she is worth. The OP may think she is worth $35 per hour and the potential employers may disagree, but that doesn't make the parents cheap any more than it makes the nanny greedy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP...Just curious...No malice implied here. Why did you have such exceptionally high rates?

Anyway, it is acceptable to haggle over a purchase of a car, an appliance...even something at a flea market or a bazaar...But YOUR child??!

Heavens no!!

Watch out. These same people will get it right back at them when their own children hire cheap caregivers to care for them in old age because they want to save their money so when their parents die, they will get a bigger chunk of their inheritance. Karma.

This is just silly and shows very poor logical reasoning ability. No one is posting about or advocating negotiation over the price or worth of a child. Negotiating over the price or worth of a particular childcare provider is totally different. It's a job. This is nothing inherently wrong with negotiating over compensation to be paid for performing a job. There is certainly no basis for complaining that a parent is cheap or in search of a cheap caregiver because she want to pay $20 or $22 per hour rather than $25 or $35 or whatever "exceptionally high rate" the OP feels she is worth. The OP may think she is worth $35 per hour and the potentia
l employers may disagree, but that doesn't make the parents cheap any more than it makes the nanny greedy.

OP knows the value of her skills because she has more than enough parents who are happy to compensate her accordingly. Not every parent has the same standards/expectations/dreams for the care/early education of their child.

Some parents think the early years are the foundation of all to come.

I think they're right.

[Anonymous]

First, the negotiation is over the nanny's rates not the child. I hate nannies who try to emotionally manipulate women as if they have no business sense. A mother loving her child does not require handing over extra money to scam artist though the scam artist will want you to believe that it does.

Second, the nannies always squawking about parents not paying their inflated rates are idiots. You are worth what someone is willing to pay you. Simple. If the market will bear a higher salary and you find one, wonderful. If it doesn't you won't. Too bad. The only ones complaining are those who lack the skills to land the few highly paid jobs or who have an unrealistic sense of the competition they face.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:First, the negotiation is over the nanny's rates not the child. I hate nannies who try to emotionally manipulate women as if they have no business sense. A mother loving her child does not require handing over extra money to scam artist though the scam artist will want you to believe that it does.

Second, the nannies always squawking about parents not paying their inflated rates are idiots. You are worth what someone is willing to pay you. Simple. If the market will bear a higher salary and you find one, wonderful. If it doesn't you won't. Too bad. The only ones complaining are those who lack the skills to land the few highly paid jobs or who have an unrealistic sense of the competition they face.

You must be a newcomer here. A good number of professional nannies on this forum are very pleased with their earned higher-than-average hourly rates.

Why are you so resentful of them?
Or do you hate the parents who can afford them?
Whichever it is, I am sorry you're so upset about it.

[Anonymous]

I see women targeted over and over to overspend or be called bad moms. Whether it's for profit schools or expensive educational toys or just designer baby bottles, moms are constantly being put in the spot light as bad parents if they won't open their purse. If a parent can't afford my rate then I accept that is where they are at and move on. To treat someone like crap because they can't afford you is low character. I hate, Hate, HATE how some of my peers behave on here.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'll always remember (and respect!) my MB who told me,
"Why would I try to reduce the quality or value of my child's care?"
She was an educated PhD person, who with husband saved half of their combined income. Yet they never complained about my exceptionally high rates. Very smart lady indeed. They had my services as long as they wanted, until they moved out of the area.

If they could survive on half of their income, she could have stayed home to care for her child.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'll always remember (and respect!) my MB who told me,
"Why would I try to reduce the quality or value of my child's care?"
She was an educated PhD person, who with husband saved half of their combined income. Yet they never complained about my exceptionally high rates. Very smart lady indeed. They had my services as long as they wanted, until they moved out of the area.

Absolutely, paying you whatever you ask is a clear mark of smarts. Do you realize how ridiculously narcissistic you sound? You're like a preening teenager.

[Anonymous]

I always find the lack of logic and reading comprehension funny and frightening in this forum.

If the OP is so marvelous, why is she having a hard time finding her spectacular rate?

According to nannies like the OP, jobs over $20 an hour are everywhere. This is very strange because so many nannies here seem to simultaneously complain about every job only offering $10 an hour. It almost makes you think the nannies are not credible sources on rates....hmmm.

[Anonymous]

There are very few jobs worthy of above $20/hr rates in DC. Very few jobs.

Nannies here are absolute trolls regarding rates. Ignore them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:First, the negotiation is over the nanny's rates not the child. I hate nannies who try to emotionally manipulate women as if they have no business sense. A mother loving her child does not require handing over extra money to scam artist though the scam artist will want you to believe that it does.

Second, the nannies always squawking about parents not paying their inflated rates are idiots. You are worth what someone is willing to pay you. Simple. If the market will bear a higher salary and you find one, wonderful. If it doesn't you won't. Too bad. The only ones complaining are those who lack the skills to land the few highly paid jobs or who have an unrealistic sense of the competition they face.

You must be a newcomer here. A good number of professional nannies on this forum are very pleased with their earned higher-than-average hourly rates.

Why are you so resentful of them?
Or do you hate the parents who can afford them?
Whichever it is, I am sorry you're so upset about it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'll always remember (and respect!) my MB who told me,
"Why would I try to reduce the quality or value of my child's care?"
She was an educated PhD person, who with husband saved half of their combined income. Yet they never complained about my exceptionally high rates. Very smart lady indeed. They had my services as long as they wanted, until they moved out of the area.

Absolutely, paying you whatever you ask is a clear mark of smarts. Do you realize how ridiculously narcissistic you sound? You're like a preening teenager.

She clearly has some sort of narcissistic personality disorder. It's the same message on every thread. At first she was annoying. Then it became amusing. Now it's just boring.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:There are very few jobs worthy of above $20/hr rates in DC. Very few jobs.

Nannies here are absolute trolls regarding rates. Ignore them.

In my experience, there are fewer top-notch available nannies, than families who want (and can afford) them.