Raise for Second Child?

[Anonymous]

Why would you pay her $3 more per hour for less work?

This isn't smart.

If you think she is exceptional, offer her $1/hr more.

[Anonymous]

My suggestion is $17 for one child and $20 for an additional child, after taxes of course. That's what we pay our nanny and both parties are happ

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My suggestion is $17 for one child and $20 for an additional child, after taxes of course. That's what we pay our nanny and both parties are happ

I'd like to hear from the nanny if she's as happy as you think. My rates start at 25. for only one child.

[Anonymous]

In DC, there is no need to pay over $20/hr for two kids.

There are many more good nannies available for the market rates. $15-17/hr for one child and $17-19/hr for two kids.

Do your research. These are the rates.

Nannies can say their rates are +$25/hr all day long but it doesn't mean they are employed.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My suggestion is $17 for one child and $20 for an additional child, after taxes of course. That's what we pay our nanny and both parties are happ

Did you mean before taxes? How could you possibly know what it is after taxes?

[Anonymous]

nannydebsays wrote:OP, if you adore your nanny, and you want to show your appreciation for a job well done AND a $3/hour raise will still allow you to offer additional raises over time, and bonuses if you wish, you should absolutely do exactly that. $3/hour is a little more than $150/week, or a little more than $7800/year.

Not knowing your nanny's personal skill set, her level of experience, or anything else, it's impossible to correctly gauge what the "right" new baby raise might be, but if you have a nanny you want to keep, a terrific raise helps.

And to the SAHM at 9:52 - exactly! There is no decrease in work with an additional infant when the older child heads to school. The older kid still needs clean clothes, food to eat, activities to do after school, and so on, and the baby needs to be on some sort of schedule that fits around the older child's needs. It becomes way more of a juggling act.

I don't understand that. I have a 4-year old and a 5-month old. The 4-year old is in preschool full-time. When he's in school, my days are incredibly easy. I don't need to entertain an older child who already has preferences and answers back, not just stares at me when I talk. The baby naps way more than an older child does. Laundry, well, you don't do it by hand, do you. It's just two more buttons to press. The 4-year old has breakfast, lunch and snack at school, so forget meals. It's a difference between having to engage someone all the bloody time with nonstop feedback and all the incalcitrance of a young child, running after him, dragging him away from things occasionally, reading, crafts and whatnot, and hanging out with the baby that doesn't talk, doesn't answer back, doesn't have preferences and stays in one place when you put him there. Again, don't understand what you mean. It's like night and day when the 4-year old is out of the house, workload-wise.

And I don't get why people keep bringing up teacher development days etc. Our preschool is never closed, I mean, NEVER, except for federal holidays. I assume they figured out a way to get their professional development on without missing work.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

nannydebsays wrote:OP, if you adore your nanny, and you want to show your appreciation for a job well done AND a $3/hour raise will still allow you to offer additional raises over time, and bonuses if you wish, you should absolutely do exactly that. $3/hour is a little more than $150/week, or a little more than $7800/year.

Not knowing your nanny's personal skill set, her level of experience, or anything else, it's impossible to correctly gauge what the "right" new baby raise might be, but if you have a nanny you want to keep, a terrific raise helps.

And to the SAHM at 9:52 - exactly! There is no decrease in work with an additional infant when the older child heads to school. The older kid still needs clean clothes, food to eat, activities to do after school, and so on, and the baby needs to be on some sort of schedule that fits around the older child's needs. It becomes way more of a juggling act.

I don't understand that. I have a 4-year old and a 5-month old. The 4-year old is in preschool full-time. When he's in school, my days are incredibly easy. I don't need to entertain an older child who already has preferences and answers back, not just stares at me when I talk. The baby naps way more than an older child does. Laundry, well, you don't do it by hand, do you. It's just two more buttons to press. The 4-year old has breakfast, lunch and snack at school, so forget meals. It's a difference between having to engage someone all the bloody time with nonstop feedback and all the incalcitrance of a young child, running after him, dragging him away from things occasionally, reading, crafts and whatnot, and hanging out with the baby that doesn't talk, doesn't answer back, doesn't have preferences and stays in one place when you put him there. Again, don't understand what you mean. It's like night and day when the 4-year old is out of the house, workload-wise.

And I don't get why people keep bringing up teacher development days etc. Our preschool is never closed, I mean, NEVER, except for federal holidays. I assume they figured out a way to get their professional development on without missing work.

You're a SAHM?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

nannydebsays wrote:OP, if you adore your nanny, and you want to show your appreciation for a job well done AND a $3/hour raise will still allow you to offer additional raises over time, and bonuses if you wish, you should absolutely do exactly that. $3/hour is a little more than $150/week, or a little more than $7800/year.

Not knowing your nanny's personal skill set, her level of experience, or anything else, it's impossible to correctly gauge what the "right" new baby raise might be, but if you have a nanny you want to keep, a terrific raise helps.

And to the SAHM at 9:52 - exactly! There is no decrease in work with an additional infant when the older child heads to school. The older kid still needs clean clothes, food to eat, activities to do after school, and so on, and the baby needs to be on some sort of schedule that fits around the older child's needs. It becomes way more of a juggling act.

I don't understand that. I have a 4-year old and a 5-month old. The 4-year old is in preschool full-time. When he's in school, my days are incredibly easy. I don't need to entertain an older child who already has preferences and answers back, not just stares at me when I talk. The baby naps way more than an older child does. Laundry, well, you don't do it by hand, do you. It's just two more buttons to press. The 4-year old has breakfast, lunch and snack at school, so forget meals. It's a difference between having to engage someone all the bloody time with nonstop feedback and all the incalcitrance of a young child, running after him, dragging him away from things occasionally, reading, crafts and whatnot, and hanging out with the baby that doesn't talk, doesn't answer back, doesn't have preferences and stays in one place when you put him there. Again, don't understand what you mean. It's like night and day when the 4-year old is out of the house, workload-wise.

And I don't get why people keep bringing up teacher development days etc. Our preschool is never closed, I mean, NEVER, except for federal holidays. I assume they figured out a way to get their professional development on without missing work.

You're a SAHM?

Yes.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

nannydebsays wrote:OP, if you adore your nanny, and you want to show your appreciation for a job well done AND a $3/hour raise will still allow you to offer additional raises over time, and bonuses if you wish, you should absolutely do exactly that. $3/hour is a little more than $150/week, or a little more than $7800/year.

Not knowing your nanny's personal skill set, her level of experience, or anything else, it's impossible to correctly gauge what the "right" new baby raise might be, but if you have a nanny you want to keep, a terrific raise helps.

And to the SAHM at 9:52 - exactly! There is no decrease in work with an additional infant when the older child heads to school. The older kid still needs clean clothes, food to eat, activities to do after school, and so on, and the baby needs to be on some sort of schedule that fits around the older child's needs. It becomes way more of a juggling act.

I don't understand that. I have a 4-year old and a 5-month old. The 4-year old is in preschool full-time. When he's in school, my days are incredibly easy. I don't need to entertain an older child who already has preferences and answers back, not just stares at me when I talk. The baby naps way more than an older child does. Laundry, well, you don't do it by hand, do you. It's just two more buttons to press. The 4-year old has breakfast, lunch and snack at school, so forget meals. It's a difference between having to engage someone all the bloody time with nonstop feedback and all the incalcitrance of a young child, running after him, dragging him away from things occasionally, reading, crafts and whatnot, and hanging out with the baby that doesn't talk, doesn't answer back, doesn't have preferences and stays in one place when you put him there. Again, don't understand what you mean. It's like night and day when the 4-year old is out of the house, workload-wise.

And I don't get why people keep bringing up teacher development days etc. Our preschool is never closed, I mean, NEVER, except for federal holidays. I assume they figured out a way to get their professional development on without missing work.

You're a SAHM?

Yes.

How would a SAHM with a nanny know much of anything about these issues?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

nannydebsays wrote:OP, if you adore your nanny, and you want to show your appreciation for a job well done AND a $3/hour raise will still allow you to offer additional raises over time, and bonuses if you wish, you should absolutely do exactly that. $3/hour is a little more than $150/week, or a little more than $7800/year.

Not knowing your nanny's personal skill set, her level of experience, or anything else, it's impossible to correctly gauge what the "right" new baby raise might be, but if you have a nanny you want to keep, a terrific raise helps.

And to the SAHM at 9:52 - exactly! There is no decrease in work with an additional infant when the older child heads to school. The older kid still needs clean clothes, food to eat, activities to do after school, and so on, and the baby needs to be on some sort of schedule that fits around the older child's needs. It becomes way more of a juggling act.

I don't understand that. I have a 4-year old and a 5-month old. The 4-year old is in preschool full-time. When he's in school, my days are incredibly easy. I don't need to entertain an older child who already has preferences and answers back, not just stares at me when I talk. The baby naps way more than an older child does. Laundry, well, you don't do it by hand, do you. It's just two more buttons to press. The 4-year old has breakfast, lunch and snack at school, so forget meals. It's a difference between having to engage someone all the bloody time with nonstop feedback and all the incalcitrance of a young child, running after him, dragging him away from things occasionally, reading, crafts and whatnot, and hanging out with the baby that doesn't talk, doesn't answer back, doesn't have preferences and stays in one place when you put him there. Again, don't understand what you mean. It's like night and day when the 4-year old is out of the house, workload-wise.

And I don't get why people keep bringing up teacher development days etc. Our preschool is never closed, I mean, NEVER, except for federal holidays. I assume they figured out a way to get their professional development on without missing work.

You're a SAHM?

Yes.

How would a SAHM with a nanny know much of anything about these issues?

I don't have a nanny. I take care of two children, a preschooler and an infant. When the preschooler is out of the house, my workload goes way, way down. I say this by way of countering the claim made above that a nanny's workload doesn't decrease when the older child goes to preschool. Mine certainly does.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

nannydebsays wrote:OP, if you adore your nanny, and you want to show your appreciation for a job well done AND a $3/hour raise will still allow you to offer additional raises over time, and bonuses if you wish, you should absolutely do exactly that. $3/hour is a little more than $150/week, or a little more than $7800/year.

Not knowing your nanny's personal skill set, her level of experience, or anything else, it's impossible to correctly gauge what the "right" new baby raise might be, but if you have a nanny you want to keep, a terrific raise helps.

And to the SAHM at 9:52 - exactly! There is no decrease in work with an additional infant when the older child heads to school. The older kid still needs clean clothes, food to eat, activities to do after school, and so on, and the baby needs to be on some sort of schedule that fits around the older child's needs. It becomes way more of a juggling act.

I don't understand that. I have a 4-year old and a 5-month old. The 4-year old is in preschool full-time. When he's in school, my days are incredibly easy. I don't need to entertain an older child who already has preferences and answers back, not just stares at me when I talk. The baby naps way more than an older child does. Laundry, well, you don't do it by hand, do you. It's just two more buttons to press. The 4-year old has breakfast, lunch and snack at school, so forget meals. It's a difference between having to engage someone all the bloody time with nonstop feedback and all the incalcitrance of a young child, running after him, dragging him away from things occasionally, reading, crafts and whatnot, and hanging out with the baby that doesn't talk, doesn't answer back, doesn't have preferences and stays in one place when you put him there. Again, don't understand what you mean. It's like night and day when the 4-year old is out of the house, workload-wise.

And I don't get why people keep bringing up teacher development days etc. Our preschool is never closed, I mean, NEVER, except for federal holidays. I assume they figured out a way to get their professional development on without missing work.

You're a SAHM?

Yes.

How would a SAHM with a nanny know much of anything about these issues?

I don't have a nanny. I take care of two children, a preschooler and an infant. When the preschooler is out of the house, my workload goes way, way down. I say this by way of countering the claim made above that a nanny's workload doesn't decrease when the older child goes to preschool. Mine certainly does.

Funny how different moms are, well different. Same thing with nannies.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:

nannydebsays wrote:OP, if you adore your nanny, and you want to show your appreciation for a job well done AND a $3/hour raise will still allow you to offer additional raises over time, and bonuses if you wish, you should absolutely do exactly that. $3/hour is a little more than $150/week, or a little more than $7800/year.

Not knowing your nanny's personal skill set, her level of experience, or anything else, it's impossible to correctly gauge what the "right" new baby raise might be, but if you have a nanny you want to keep, a terrific raise helps.

And to the SAHM at 9:52 - exactly! There is no decrease in work with an additional infant when the older child heads to school. The older kid still needs clean clothes, food to eat, activities to do after school, and so on, and the baby needs to be on some sort of schedule that fits around the older child's needs. It becomes way more of a juggling act.

I don't understand that. I have a 4-year old and a 5-month old. The 4-year old is in preschool full-time. When he's in school, my days are incredibly easy. I don't need to entertain an older child who already has preferences and answers back, not just stares at me when I talk. The baby naps way more than an older child does. Laundry, well, you don't do it by hand, do you. It's just two more buttons to press. The 4-year old has breakfast, lunch and snack at school, so forget meals. It's a difference between having to engage someone all the bloody time with nonstop feedback and all the incalcitrance of a young child, running after him, dragging him away from things occasionally, reading, crafts and whatnot, and hanging out with the baby that doesn't talk, doesn't answer back, doesn't have preferences and stays in one place when you put him there. Again, don't understand what you mean. It's like night and day when the 4-year old is out of the house, workload-wise.

And I don't get why people keep bringing up teacher development days etc. Our preschool is never closed, I mean, NEVER, except for federal holidays. I assume they figured out a way to get their professional development on without missing work.

You're a SAHM?

Yes.

How would a SAHM with a nanny know much of anything about these issues?

I don't have a nanny. I take care of two children, a preschooler and an infant. When the preschooler is out of the house, my workload goes way, way down. I say this by way of countering the claim made above that a nanny's workload doesn't decrease when the older child goes to preschool. Mine certainly does.

Funny how different moms are, well different. Same thing with nannies.

They are. But moms don't have a vested interest in making themselves seem busy.

A SAHM who admits freely that her workload goes down with a 4-year old out of the house isn't at risk of financial loss or rate cut.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

nannydebsays wrote:OP, if you adore your nanny, and you want to show your appreciation for a job well done AND a $3/hour raise will still allow you to offer additional raises over time, and bonuses if you wish, you should absolutely do exactly that. $3/hour is a little more than $150/week, or a little more than $7800/year.

Not knowing your nanny's personal skill set, her level of experience, or anything else, it's impossible to correctly gauge what the "right" new baby raise might be, but if you have a nanny you want to keep, a terrific raise helps.

And to the SAHM at 9:52 - exactly! There is no decrease in work with an additional infant when the older child heads to school. The older kid still needs clean clothes, food to eat, activities to do after school, and so on, and the baby needs to be on some sort of schedule that fits around the older child's needs. It becomes way more of a juggling act.

I don't understand that. I have a 4-year old and a 5-month old. The 4-year old is in preschool full-time. When he's in school, my days are incredibly easy. I don't need to entertain an older child who already has preferences and answers back, not just stares at me when I talk. The baby naps way more than an older child does. Laundry, well, you don't do it by hand, do you. It's just two more buttons to press. The 4-year old has breakfast, lunch and snack at school, so forget meals. It's a difference between having to engage someone all the bloody time with nonstop feedback and all the incalcitrance of a young child, running after him, dragging him away from things occasionally, reading, crafts and whatnot, and hanging out with the baby that doesn't talk, doesn't answer back, doesn't have preferences and stays in one place when you put him there. Again, don't understand what you mean. It's like night and day when the 4-year old is out of the house, workload-wise.

And I don't get why people keep bringing up teacher development days etc. Our preschool is never closed, I mean, NEVER, except for federal holidays. I assume they figured out a way to get their professional development on without missing work.

You're a SAHM?

Yes.

How would a SAHM with a nanny know much of anything about these issues?

I don't have a nanny. I take care of two children, a preschooler and an infant. When the preschooler is out of the house, my workload goes way, way down. I say this by way of countering the claim made above that a nanny's workload doesn't decrease when the older child goes to preschool. Mine certainly does.

Funny how different moms are, well different. Same thing with nannies.

They are. But moms don't have a vested interest in making themselves seem busy.

A SAHM who admits freely that her workload goes down with a 4-year old out of the house isn't at risk of financial loss or rate cut.

I happen to know of some husbands/fathers who would disagree.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
I happen to know of some husbands/fathers who would disagree.

You're being facetious. You know that these aren't comparable situations.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
I happen to know of some husbands/fathers who would disagree.

You're being facetious. You know that these aren't comparable situations.

So say you.