nanny takes our son to her house and gives him cookies.. should we fire her?

[Anonymous]

I'm starting to think at least a third of the posts this morning are from the same bored individual.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Nanny here, I take my charges too my house sometimes to watch TV so I can take care of some things. I don't know if MB knows or not but I don't see the problem. It's a win win in my mind. I don't do it all the time, but those times when it would really be helpful for me to have 10 minutes to take care of something I couldn't get done before I left for work it seems totally fine.

The fact that you dont see a problem with this is a problem.

Not an issue if its not a problem for your employer, but you need to clear it with them.

So what exactly is the problem in your mind? I'm paid to care for the children, and those 10 minutes don't prevent me from caring for the children. Like I said, if it was everyday or constant that I would agree it is not very good care, but when you take the whole week as a whole (or even the month since I rarely do it) those 10 minutes don't really matter.

OP here. It's not 10 min. Rather 3-4h. She tells us she takes our son to the park and then she drives to her house and watches TV...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm starting to think at least a third of the posts this morning are from the same bored individual.

OP here. Wrong assumption. And I am not bored but angry at our nanny.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Nanny here, I take my charges too my house sometimes to watch TV so I can take care of some things. I don't know if MB knows or not but I don't see the problem. It's a win win in my mind. I don't do it all the time, but those times when it would really be helpful for me to have 10 minutes to take care of something I couldn't get done before I left for work it seems totally fine.

Hope this is a troll post! Your MB wouldn't know if you didn't tell her. But general rule of thumb - if you feel the need to hide it, it's probably not okay ...

[Anonymous]

Our nanny can walk to her house from ours and has never taken DC to her home without asking us and never stays for more than a few minutes (like to just pick up her lunch which she forgot or if DC spits up on her and she needs to change).

[Anonymous]

MB here.

If you're for real nothing about the things you describe is ok.

You should know where your kids are, your nanny should NEVER conceal their activities or whereabouts.

If the nanny is defying your clearly expressed wishes re TV and diet that is totally unacceptable.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:MB here.

If you're for real nothing about the things you describe is ok.

You should know where your kids are, your nanny should NEVER conceal their activities or whereabouts.

If the nanny is defying your clearly expressed wishes re TV and diet that is totally unacceptable.

OP here. Thank you MB. This is exactly how I feel. I just wanted to make sure that I am not overreacting.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:MB here.

If you're for real nothing about the things you describe is ok.

You should know where your kids are, your nanny should NEVER conceal their activities or whereabouts.

If the nanny is defying your clearly expressed wishes re TV and diet that is totally unacceptable.

OP here. Thank you MB. This is exactly how I feel. I just wanted to make sure that I am not overreacting.

NP and nanny, here - you are most definitely not over-reacting. As a nanny, I am honestly appalled by your nanny's behavior and see it as immediate reason to fire her.

[Anonymous]

Sounds to me like a disengaged OP parent for asking such a question.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Obviously.

Where's my thank you, OP?

I agree with the PP who said a third of these posts are from the same person. YAWN.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Nanny here, I take my charges too my house sometimes to watch TV so I can take care of some things. I don't know if MB knows or not but I don't see the problem. It's a win win in my mind. I don't do it all the time, but those times when it would really be helpful for me to have 10 minutes to take care of something I couldn't get done before I left for work it seems totally fine.

This would be a problem for me on multiple levels. One, I don't want my kids watching tv. Two, I CERTAINLY don't want my kids stashed in front of a tv so their nanny can take care of her personal business while she's on the clock. Thirdly, you are WORKING. So WORK. Your personal life needs to be taken care of during your off hours. NOT during your work hours. If I found out my nanny was doing this I would fire her instantly.

[Anonymous]

Taking care of her personal business is fine with me as long as she tells you the truth. Otherwise not.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Nanny here, I take my charges too my house sometimes to watch TV so I can take care of some things. I don't know if MB knows or not but I don't see the problem. It's a win win in my mind. I don't do it all the time, but those times when it would really be helpful for me to have 10 minutes to take care of something I couldn't get done before I left for work it seems totally fine.

The fact that you dont see a problem with this is a problem.

Not an issue if its not a problem for your employer, but you need to clear it with them.

So what exactly is the problem in your mind? I'm paid to care for the children, and those 10 minutes don't prevent me from caring for the children. Like I said, if it was everyday or constant that I would agree it is not very good care, but when you take the whole week as a whole (or even the month since I rarely do it) those 10 minutes don't really matter.

OP here. It's not 10 min. Rather 3-4h. She tells us she takes our son to the park and then she drives to her house and watches TV...

What do you think you should do? I would put him in a preschool in the fall.

[Anonymous]

Did she do this before or after she to told him to be quiet?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Nanny here, I take my charges too my house sometimes to watch TV so I can take care of some things. I don't know if MB knows or not but I don't see the problem. It's a win win in my mind. I don't do it all the time, but those times when it would really be helpful for me to have 10 minutes to take care of something I couldn't get done before I left for work it seems totally fine.

The fact that you dont see a problem with this is a problem.

Not an issue if its not a problem for your employer, but you need to clear it with them.

So what exactly is the problem in your mind? I'm paid to care for the children, and those 10 minutes don't prevent me from caring for the children. Like I said, if it was everyday or constant that I would agree it is not very good care, but when you take the whole week as a whole (or even the month since I rarely do it) those 10 minutes don't really matter.

OP here. It's not 10 min. Rather 3-4h. She tells us she takes our son to the park and then she drives to her house and watches TV...

What do you think you should do? I would put him in a preschool in the fall.

It might be difficult. My son will be 3 in December. I am not sure if he is ready for pre-K.