Nanny just quit over text this past weekend......

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The other references will think you have lost your mind. This isn't a normal practice and they will not take you seriously.
My mother has very serious health issues. I have never told my employers about it because they really don't need to know about it. It sounds like she is having a rough time right now. Let her go, find a new nanny and move on.

+1. If I received a call like this I would think you were absolutely nuts.

[Anonymous]

The people who act as references for me are people I have known and worked for for many, many years.
We have great, friendly relationships. If you called them to gripe about me, they would probably call to warn me about the unhinged ex-boss who is calling people to ruin my reputation. They would absolutely not take you seriously.

[Anonymous]

I think you're related to my former employers op. I gave them 2 weeks notice when the care they had lined up fell through they called me and made it sound like it was my problem. I told them I was working pt for a former family until my new ft position started. They called my references and asked each one if I was working for them in the upcoming weeks. Let me tell you my boss and I laughed and joked about it

[Anonymous]

As a new parent and user of care.com, I would appreciate learning of the experience this parent had with this nanny.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:As a new parent and user of care.com, I would appreciate learning of the experience this parent had with this nanny.

Of course - but what does that have to do with calling the nanny's references?! I think OP should post an honest review of the nanny's performance that would have to include her abrupt departure but to call the references the nanny gave the family when she applied for the job is simply spiteful.

[Anonymous]

Hello, I am so sorry to hear about your nanny quitting. If you are looking for a new nanny I would like to highly recommend our nanny, she is available this month as I am leaving my job to be with the children. She look after our twins since they were babies and I cannot recommend her highly enough. I would be very happy to chat with you and give you more information if you are interested and want to contact me - my name is Louisa, my number is 202 714 0333 and my email address is [e-mail]

[Anonymous]

It is a really crappy situation and you guys are burdened. But give her the benefit of the doubt because you really don't know and just move on. God forbid you do anything to screw up her reputation and she is telling get the truth.

[Anonymous]

If you called her references, what would that accomplish?? Nothing at all! They will just say, "Oh well...sorry.." It's not like it will tarnish her standing with them as long as she didn't leave them in the lurch.

As for leaving a review on Care.com, you can do that to warn other potential families about her.

I want to ask you a non~judgmental question first.
As a nanny who has left a few families in the past, have you done anything at all to warrant her leaving you? Low pay, not paying on time, giving her too many chores, lack of respect? Try to see how you treated her as your employer and see if there is anything that possibly could have made her leave so suddenly.

I do not know your situation so I am only grasping at straws here.

Anyway, I am sorry for your loss and I do hope you find someone reliable soon.

Good luck.

[Anonymous]

Seriously this is from February I'm sure the op figured it out by now. Why are we bringing up such old postd