Ready to give nanny 1 month notice

[Anonymous]

I had a family who kept me in the loop with their thinking and planning about a change in meeting me. I really appreciated that and it made the transition really easy since I knew it might be coming. it's easier to work with bad news when it doesn't blind side you. if it's not too late, tell her the slot opened up unexpectedly and you're . probably going to sign the papers today.

all . that said, I prefer to process bad news in writingrather than in person, but of it's done right and you have a good in person rapport, then it can work. I'd say it depends on both your communication styles as to whether in person, phone, or even email is best.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP again. I hear everyone about having the courtesy to let her go in person, but we have not secured the daycare spot yet. we sign on a friday. so, is it better to let her go by phone on friday on a 3-day weekend, or tell her on a monday when she returns?

If there is any chance the daycare spot might fall through (though it sounds like just a paper signing?) then call her after your meeting and tell her that you sincerely apologize for having to do this over the phone, but that you've been offered and accepted a daycare spot and that you feel it would be a better place for your child right now. Let her know that you are offering a month of pay and that her last day with you will be X. Tell her you have written her a great reference letter and that you're happy to be a reference for her for her job search (if you are). You could ask if she'd like for you to post on a local mom's group or something that she is looking. Close the conversation by saying you will talk again in person on Monday. Doing so would be 100% fine and responsible. Giving her a month of notice is awesome.

Are you starting your child at the daycare immediately? If so, when will she get to say goodbye?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I was the very first PP who said I'd want to find out Friday. I'd personally, being who I am, want to find out via text or email with an accompanying offer to sit down at chat about it (on the clock) the following Monday. But maybe that's just me - I hate face to face emotionally charged conversations passionately and always appreciate the time to process and prepare myself. Thankfully, so does my MB

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[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP again. I hear everyone about having the courtesy to let her go in person, but we have not secured the daycare spot yet. we sign on a friday. so, is it better to let her go by phone on friday on a 3-day weekend, or tell her on a monday when she returns?

If there is any chance the daycare spot might fall through (though it sounds like just a paper signing?) then call her after your meeting and tell her that you sincerely apologize for having to do this over the phone, but that you've been offered and accepted a daycare spot and that you feel it would be a better place for your child right now. Let her know that you are offering a month of pay and that her last day with you will be X. Tell her you have written her a great reference letter and that you're happy to be a reference for her for her job search (if you are). You could ask if she'd like for you to post on a local mom's group or something that she is looking. Close the conversation by saying you will talk again in person on Monday. Doing so would be 100% fine and responsible. Giving her a month of notice is awesome.

Are you starting your child at the daycare immediately? If so, when will she get to say goodbye?

We plan to start DD in daycare in about a month, and to give the nanny 1 months notice.

this is complicated. lets just say it's not just DD's delays causing the change, so we are being very careful but at the same time feel badly for our nanny. I hate to see anyone lose a job.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP again. I hear everyone about having the courtesy to let her go in person, but we have not secured the daycare spot yet. we sign on a friday. so, is it better to let her go by phone on friday on a 3-day weekend, or tell her on a monday when she returns?

If there is any chance the daycare spot might fall through (though it sounds like just a paper signing?) then call her after your meeting and tell her that you sincerely apologize for having to do this over the phone, but that you've been offered and accepted a daycare spot and that you feel it would be a better place for your child right now. Let her know that you are offering a month of pay and that her last day with you will be X. Tell her you have written her a great reference letter and that you're happy to be a reference for her for her job search (if you are). You could ask if she'd like for you to post on a local mom's group or something that she is looking. Close the conversation by saying you will talk again in person on Monday. Doing so would be 100% fine and responsible. Giving her a month of notice is awesome.

Are you starting your child at the daycare immediately? If so, when will she get to say goodbye?

We plan to start DD in daycare in about a month, and to give the nanny 1 months notice.

this is complicated. lets just say it's not just DD's delays causing the change, so we are being very careful but at the same time feel badly for our nanny. I hate to see anyone lose a job.

Ah, so you haven't exactly been happy with her. Do you trust her to be a good caregiver for a month after being let go? Are you prepared in case she finds another job quickly and drops you? I would still call her after your meeting Friday "nanny, we sincerely apologize for having to do this by phone, but wanted to be sure to get you the information as soon as we had it so you can plan. We were offered a daycare spot for Larla and we think it will be a great fit for her given the delays we've been concerned about. Per our agreement, we're more than happy to give you a month's notice and to assist you in finding your next position. Can we talk details on Monday?"