Nanny not happy, are we out of line?

[Anonymous]

What's your definition of a nanny, OP?

[Anonymous]

Yes, waaaay out of line.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I can understand why your nanny is not happy with this. I would not be happy with this. You are asking for too much. It is four hours a week. I could see asking her to sweep the floors, especially areas where the nanny and your daughter play, but family laundry and cleaning bathrooms?

I agree. OP is out of line.

[Anonymous]

Of course op is out of line. It's so exaggerated, it's not even good trolling.

[Anonymous]

Your asking way too much.

[Anonymous]

You are out of line and I also think you are a troll but I will indulge you anyway. These are more reasonable things to ask your nanny to do while your daughter is in school only 4 hours a week:

-Daughter's laundry only - this includes sheets/towels once weekly
-Changing out daughter's sheets/towels once weekly
-Keeping daughter's bedroom/bathroom/playroom neat and tidy - no heavy duty cleaning please!
-Use this time to plan activities and outings for your daughter, organize play dates, research classes and activities
-Light housekeeping such as unloading the dishwasher and sweeping up
-Short errands such as pharmacy, grocery, dry cleaners, post office, etc - Making sure nanny is close by in case daughter needs her at the school

Ask your nanny to provide you with a list of tasks she would feel comfortable with completing during this extra time. She is not your housekeeper.

[Anonymous]

You are completely out of line, and I hope you realize that.

[Anonymous]

Op here,

Not a troll. We feel as if our nanny'a role has changed now that our daughter is older and off at school. If these things are unreasonable to ask if her, can we cut her pay for the time that she doesn't have to care for our daughter?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op here,

Not a troll. We feel as if our nanny'a role has changed now that our daughter is older and off at school. If these things are unreasonable to ask if her, can we cut her pay for the time that she doesn't have to care for our daughter?

They are unreasonable. You can discuss with her the changing role and your need to have her for fewer hours and give her the option of staying, changing her duties or leaving. I was a nanny for many years and when the kids entered school, we always discuss a new role for me -- if they wanted to keep me around. I became an "organizer" of sorts, making travel arrangements, paying bills, shopping, or making phone calls. I did never switch to housekeeper to the extend you describe. Get a cleaning service if you must. It's not that I couldn't do it, but when I was hired to take care of kids, parents expected a bit more of my "brains" than of my ability to make a toilette bowl shine. If their expectation changed that dramatically, we parted ways. "My kids," to this day, are still part of my life though many have married, or gone to college or moved away, I still get emails from them, etc.
I am off on a tangent, but the relationship i built with those children and their families, is not one you see people having with their cleaning lady. Just a thought.

[Anonymous]

You are a pathetic troll but on the slim chance that you are real then I hope the new year brings you all ypu so richly deserve and msy these things come rain down upon you soon in daily thunderstorms.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op here,

Not a troll. We feel as if our nanny'a role has changed now that our daughter is older and off at school. If these things are unreasonable to ask if her, can we cut her pay for the time that she doesn't have to care for our daughter?

Well then, why not just get yourself a housekeeper?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Op here,

Not a troll. We feel as if our nanny'a role has changed now that our daughter is older and off at school. If these things are unreasonable to ask if her, can we cut her pay for the time that she doesn't have to care for our daughter?

Well then, why not just get yourself a housekeeper?

Yes, this. Put your daughter in full time daycare and get a housekeeper. I'm an MB and am appalled at your attitude, but I also think you're a troll.

[Anonymous]

The nannies here are conveniently forgetting that the OP's child would be napping in the afternoon. My kids used to nap for 3 hours after preschool. Even if the OP's child only takes a 2 hour nap, this is 4 hours a day of free time on preschool days. The types of things that some nannies are suggesting the nanny do are from the basic list of things that any does when the kids are home during nap time anyway!


OP- you are not out of line but you need a different nanny. There are plenty of nannies out there that have no issues providing light housekeeping. You just need to avoid the ones who want to think watching a kid in preschools means you hit the watch Netflix while being paid jackpot.

[Anonymous]

Op here, my daughter does not nap anymore.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The nannies here are conveniently forgetting that the OP's child would be napping in the afternoon. My kids used to nap for 3 hours after preschool. Even if the OP's child only takes a 2 hour nap, this is 4 hours a day of free time on preschool days. The types of things that some nannies are suggesting the nanny do are from the basic list of things that any does when the kids are home during nap time anyway!


OP- you are not out of line but you need a different nanny. There are plenty of nannies out there that have no issues providing light housekeeping. You just need to avoid the ones who want to think watching a kid in preschools means you hit the watch Netflix while being paid jackpot.

You consider scrubbing toilets light housekeeping??? I see no problem with filling the extra time, but OP should have included her nanny in deciding what those tasks would be. Had I walked in and you handed me a toilet brush, I would laugh in your face and quit immediately. I wouldn't have a problem cooking dinner, doing extra laundry, running errands. Talk to your nanny OP, don't just foist things on her.