Time off for extended family deaths

[Anonymous]

To the OP, She needs to understand that once she exceeds her vacation time, all other days will be unpaid. That's how it's been for me, and I've been doing this for 15= years.

[Anonymous]

Most jobs give bereavement time outside of your annual leave, but that's *maybe* 2 or 3 days and for immediate family members. I think offering to work with her on finding backup care when the time comes is reasonable, and not giving her crap about how long she has to be away. Certainly the whole time shouldn't be paid, but maybe a day or two?

[Anonymous]

Be firm with only paying her for the paid time off she has remaining. Too many nannies will try to walk over you if you don't.

[Anonymous]

OP don't pay her extra. She obviously doesn't take her job seriously. You have to worry about your family/life. You work to get paid and if she's getting paid not to work than she's just going to continue being unreliable. Death in the family or not.

[Anonymous]

If it was an immediate family member then I think it would be a bit more arguable about extra PTO for it. Aunts are not immediate though. Most bereavement policies would not cover that so allowing her unpaid time off for it is 100% reasonable.

[Anonymous]

I'm surprised that no one has recognized this is probably a scam. 3 aunts? Really? The nanny will hint and pout that you aren't giving her an extra 3-4 weeks of paid vacation. She may offer to make up some of the hours. Since she will here to collect the checks, you'll need to pay her advance of course. Guess what, the nanny is not coming back. She'll stay in home country as long as she wants and then come back and just find another job.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm surprised that no one has recognized this is probably a scam. 3 aunts? Really? The nanny will hint and pout that you aren't giving her an extra 3-4 weeks of paid vacation. She may offer to make up some of the hours. Since she will here to collect the checks, you'll need to pay her advance of course. Guess what, the nanny is not coming back. She'll stay in home country as long as she wants and then come back and just find another job.

This is a little harsh, but in principle I agree that this nanny may be trying to get away with the maximum time off possible and certainly not acting as though she wants to be a long-term employee. I see danger signs.

[Anonymous]

I don't think she took the position with the intention to run this scam but that she is seeing an opportunity to scam you. If you agree to pay her for this extra time, you will likely never see her again.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm surprised that no one has recognized this is probably a scam. 3 aunts? Really? The nanny will hint and pout that you aren't giving her an extra 3-4 weeks of paid vacation. She may offer to make up some of the hours. Since she will here to collect the checks, you'll need to pay her advance of course. Guess what, the nanny is not coming back. She'll stay in home country as long as she wants and then come back and just find another job.

I think that is why people have been firm on OP only paying for the 2 days she still has left for PTO and if the nanny takes off more than that, nanny doesn't get paid.

[Anonymous]

OP, another thing you can do if/when you have your next nanny, you can always write into the contract that the vacation days are only available after, say, 6 months of working for your family, unless she planned a big trip before starting with you or had a major life event like getting married.