Do people assume because your a nanny..

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The most recent issue I ran into was with a few older women at my church. One of our members was diagnosed with stage 4 breast cancer 2 weeks ago. She is a SAHM with 4 children ages 5, 4, 2, and 3 months.

I was bombarded with phone calls and FB messages telling me I needed to nanny for this poor woman. My response was that I have a very FULL time job with a family I adore. They take great care of me. I was told by two women, face to face, that I needed to quit my "babysitting" and nanny for this lady. I politely declined stating my facts about my Nanny job.

They looked at me like I had just ran over their puppy on purpose.

Then they assumed that since I was this, "self proclaimed nanny", that I should know a nanny who is willing to give up their job to help someone. Uuuuugggghhhh.

I actually do not know any other nannies. We aren't big on play dates. I'm pretty sure they thought I was lying.

Finally this past Sunday I had to get a bit nasty in my tone and more forceful with my words. Needless to say I was defriended by 3 women on FB and 2 called my mother.....MY MOTHER!!!

Who tattle tales on a 28 year old woman who supports herself well and lives on her own?


Sorry, that was long LOL!

You honestly can't get off our pedestal and help someone out, even if it doesn't benefit you in any way? Selfish much. It's not LOL. It's pretty pathetic that you choose to think its OK to turn aqua and someone else is in need. I get that the ladies bombarding you don't help; but, even a few hours 5 or so a week really help out a family in this type of situation.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The most recent issue I ran into was with a few older women at my church. One of our members was diagnosed with stage 4 breast cancer 2 weeks ago. She is a SAHM with 4 children ages 5, 4, 2, and 3 months.

I was bombarded with phone calls and FB messages telling me I needed to nanny for this poor woman. My response was that I have a very FULL time job with a family I adore. They take great care of me. I was told by two women, face to face, that I needed to quit my "babysitting" and nanny for this lady. I politely declined stating my facts about my Nanny job.

They looked at me like I had just ran over their puppy on purpose.

Then they assumed that since I was this, "self proclaimed nanny", that I should know a nanny who is willing to give up their job to help someone. Uuuuugggghhhh.

I actually do not know any other nannies. We aren't big on play dates. I'm pretty sure they thought I was lying.

Finally this past Sunday I had to get a bit nasty in my tone and more forceful with my words. Needless to say I was defriended by 3 women on FB and 2 called my mother.....MY MOTHER!!!

Who tattle tales on a 28 year old woman who supports herself well and lives on her own?


Sorry, that was long LOL!

You honestly can't get off our pedestal and help someone out, even if it doesn't benefit you in any way? Selfish much. It's not LOL. It's pretty pathetic that you choose to think its OK to turn aqua and someone else is in need. I get that the ladies bombarding you don't help; but, even a few hours 5 or so a week really help out a family in this type of situation.

You are kidding, right? I can't believe anyone is actually this clueless and self righteous.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The most recent issue I ran into was with a few older women at my church. One of our members was diagnosed with stage 4 breast cancer 2 weeks ago. She is a SAHM with 4 children ages 5, 4, 2, and 3 months.

I was bombarded with phone calls and FB messages telling me I needed to nanny for this poor woman. My response was that I have a very FULL time job with a family I adore. They take great care of me. I was told by two women, face to face, that I needed to quit my "babysitting" and nanny for this lady. I politely declined stating my facts about my Nanny job.

They looked at me like I had just ran over their puppy on purpose.

Then they assumed that since I was this, "self proclaimed nanny", that I should know a nanny who is willing to give up their job to help someone. Uuuuugggghhhh.

I actually do not know any other nannies. We aren't big on play dates. I'm pretty sure they thought I was lying.

Finally this past Sunday I had to get a bit nasty in my tone and more forceful with my words. Needless to say I was defriended by 3 women on FB and 2 called my mother.....MY MOTHER!!!

Who tattle tales on a 28 year old woman who supports herself well and lives on her own?


Sorry, that was long LOL!

You honestly can't get off our pedestal and help someone out, even if it doesn't benefit you in any way? Selfish much. It's not LOL. It's pretty pathetic that you choose to think its OK to turn aqua and someone else is in need. I get that the ladies bombarding you don't help; but, even a few hours 5 or so a week really help out a family in this type of situation.

Op here again: pp don't you think that if these ladies have so much time to worry about this woman and call pp's mom about it maybe THEY could watch the kids? Most people are capable of watching children, espeically if the family is really in need.

[Anonymous]

No they do not. I would be pissed if they did.

OP, sounds to me like people are taking full advantage of you because you probably have a passive personality.
I advise you to stand up for yourself in the future and learn to say NO!!

Good luck.

[Anonymous]

I have this happen a lot as well. At parties I tend to gravitate towards the kids if I don't know a lot of people, so it's kind of my fault. I have 2 friends that ask me to babysit a few times a year for them and I'm always more than happy to do it for free. However, if they were calling me even monthly I'd be telling them no. It's all about setting boundaries, just like in my regular jobs. Being a nanny is not like a regular job so I get why it's hard for nannies to set boundaries, but you will be way happier if you learn how!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The most recent issue I ran into was with a few older women at my church. One of our members was diagnosed with stage 4 breast cancer 2 weeks ago. She is a SAHM with 4 children ages 5, 4, 2, and 3 months.

I was bombarded with phone calls and FB messages telling me I needed to nanny for this poor woman. My response was that I have a very FULL time job with a family I adore. They take great care of me. I was told by two women, face to face, that I needed to quit my "babysitting" and nanny for this lady. I politely declined stating my facts about my Nanny job.

They looked at me like I had just ran over their puppy on purpose.

Then they assumed that since I was this, "self proclaimed nanny", that I should know a nanny who is willing to give up their job to help someone. Uuuuugggghhhh.

I actually do not know any other nannies. We aren't big on play dates. I'm pretty sure they thought I was lying.

Finally this past Sunday I had to get a bit nasty in my tone and more forceful with my words. Needless to say I was defriended by 3 women on FB and 2 called my mother.....MY MOTHER!!!

Who tattle tales on a 28 year old woman who supports herself well and lives on her own?


Sorry, that was long LOL!

You honestly can't get off our pedestal and help someone out, even if it doesn't benefit you in any way? Selfish much. It's not LOL. It's pretty pathetic that you choose to think its OK to turn aqua and someone else is in need. I get that the ladies bombarding you don't help; but, even a few hours 5 or so a week really help out a family in this type of situation.

You are kidding, right? I can't believe anyone is actually this clueless and self righteous.

Hey OP, that is a totally valid point! If anything else is said I will kindly suggest they help her out. Thanks for the idea

As an update, a few SAHM's have pitched in to help, and her mother is flying in this weekend. Thank Goodness!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The most recent issue I ran into was with a few older women at my church. One of our members was diagnosed with stage 4 breast cancer 2 weeks ago. She is a SAHM with 4 children ages 5, 4, 2, and 3 months.

I was bombarded with phone calls and FB messages telling me I needed to nanny for this poor woman. My response was that I have a very FULL time job with a family I adore. They take great care of me. I was told by two women, face to face, that I needed to quit my "babysitting" and nanny for this lady. I politely declined stating my facts about my Nanny job.

They looked at me like I had just ran over their puppy on purpose.

Then they assumed that since I was this, "self proclaimed nanny", that I should know a nanny who is willing to give up their job to help someone. Uuuuugggghhhh.

I actually do not know any other nannies. We aren't big on play dates. I'm pretty sure they thought I was lying.

Finally this past Sunday I had to get a bit nasty in my tone and more forceful with my words. Needless to say I was defriended by 3 women on FB and 2 called my mother.....MY MOTHER!!!

Who tattle tales on a 28 year old woman who supports herself well and lives on her own?


Sorry, that was long LOL!

You honestly can't get off our pedestal and help someone out, even if it doesn't benefit you in any way? Selfish much. It's not LOL. It's pretty pathetic that you choose to think its OK to turn aqua and someone else is in need. I get that the ladies bombarding you don't help; but, even a few hours 5 or so a week really help out a family in this type of situation.

You are kidding, right? I can't believe anyone is actually this clueless and self righteous.

Oh and I'm not on a pedestal. I work 5:30am-6pm M-F. I'm not heartless or need a benefit to help someone. I volunteer a large portion, heck 95% of my free time. I can hash out the details if you need.

I'm fully aware of the heartbreaking affect this illness will have on this family. If you want to push that issue we can go toe to toe.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The most recent issue I ran into was with a few older women at my church. One of our members was diagnosed with stage 4 breast cancer 2 weeks ago. She is a SAHM with 4 children ages 5, 4, 2, and 3 months.

I was bombarded with phone calls and FB messages telling me I needed to nanny for this poor woman. My response was that I have a very FULL time job with a family I adore. They take great care of me. I was told by two women, face to face, that I needed to quit my "babysitting" and nanny for this lady. I politely declined stating my facts about my Nanny job.

They looked at me like I had just ran over their puppy on purpose.

Then they assumed that since I was this, "self proclaimed nanny", that I should know a nanny who is willing to give up their job to help someone. Uuuuugggghhhh.

I actually do not know any other nannies. We aren't big on play dates. I'm pretty sure they thought I was lying.

Finally this past Sunday I had to get a bit nasty in my tone and more forceful with my words. Needless to say I was defriended by 3 women on FB and 2 called my mother.....MY MOTHER!!!

Who tattle tales on a 28 year old woman who supports herself well and lives on her own?


Sorry, that was long LOL!

You honestly can't get off our pedestal and help someone out, even if it doesn't benefit you in any way? Selfish much. It's not LOL. It's pretty pathetic that you choose to think its OK to turn aqua and someone else is in need. I get that the ladies bombarding you don't help; but, even a few hours 5 or so a week really help out a family in this type of situation.

You are kidding, right? I can't believe anyone is actually this clueless and self righteous.

Oh and I'm not on a pedestal. I work 5:30am-6pm M-F. I'm not heartless or need a benefit to help someone. I volunteer a large portion, heck 95% of my free time. I can hash out the details if you need.

I'm fully aware of the heartbreaking affect this illness will have on this family. If you want to push that issue we can go toe to toe.

That's nice for you. It doesn't mean that OP is heartless for not dropping everything to help a woman that she knows through church (we aren't talking about a good friend here). The only people in the wrong in this situation are the other women who attempted to bully her into helping and YOU for trying to shame her. Volunteer work does not magically make you a saint and you are a great example of that.