Would you hire someone who is model gorgeous?

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Anonymous wrote:Meh, I don't know. On the one hand, her looks shouldn't matter. On the other, I don't buy brownies when I'm on a diet just to test my willpower. I think it depends on a lot of things that only you know, OP. Is she your best candidate? What's your husband like? Mine would probably be uncomfortable home all day with a hot nanny, even if he had no interest, because he works in HR and wouldn't want even the possible appearance of trouble. Even if your husband and nanny are both saints and completely mature enough, how will it make you feel? You wouldn't want nanny or hubby to have to deal with your suspicions or doubts. And right or wrong, if it will harm your own self-esteem, why do it? Your nanny is supposed to make life easier, not uncomfortable, even unintentionally. We pass on candidates for lots of reasons, good, bad, reasonable or unreasonable. So do what feels right for you.

You have way bigger issues to deal with than trusting your husband if being around an attractive woman threatens your self esteem.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Meh, I don't know. On the one hand, her looks shouldn't matter. On the other, I don't buy brownies when I'm on a diet just to test my willpower. I think it depends on a lot of things that only you know, OP. Is she your best candidate? What's your husband like? Mine would probably be uncomfortable home all day with a hot nanny, even if he had no interest, because he works in HR and wouldn't want even the possible appearance of trouble. Even if your husband and nanny are both saints and completely mature enough, how will it make you feel? You wouldn't want nanny or hubby to have to deal with your suspicions or doubts. And right or wrong, if it will harm your own self-esteem, why do it? Your nanny is supposed to make life easier, not uncomfortable, even unintentionally. We pass on candidates for lots of reasons, good, bad, reasonable or unreasonable. So do what feels right for you.

You have way bigger issues to deal with than trusting your husband if being around an attractive woman threatens your self esteem.

You seem to have no clue. The two of them alone in HIS house is unlike any other situation. Only a dumb wife would go for that. Get him out of the house.

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I say don't do it. I am almost embarrassed to say it...because ti says I too am terribly insecure but at 45 a few lbs overweight and much too busy to take really amazingly good care of myself, I must admit I would feel a bit threatened to have some bombshell who can roll out of bed looking like a hot tamale working for us....and then for me to trot off to work wondering all day what she and my dh are talking about, are sharing a sandwich,etc....who knows! Anything I have learned can happen. Is your husband a total nerd who would barely notice? If that's the case....then maybe if shes that well qualified but if he remotely is a flirtatious type, I say its playing with fire and keep on truckin...good luck!

[Anonymous]

I wouldn't do it, and it has nothing to do with insecurity - I wouldn't care if she paraded naked in front of DH, he wouldn't care either. The reason is that I don't believe that a girl who is truly drop-dead, professionally gorgeous - I mean, Victoria Secret gorgeous, Giselle material gorgeous, face-of-Chanel gorgeous - would be satisfied being a nanny. I would have doubts that a girl like that wants to be a nanny. A girl like that knows that she's gorgeous and she knows what her looks would bring her. No way all she wants to be is a nanny. I don't believe she will be focused on my children. I wouldn't hire a Nobel winner in economics, either.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I wouldn't do it, and it has nothing to do with insecurity - I wouldn't care if she paraded naked in front of DH, he wouldn't care either. The reason is that I don't believe that a girl who is truly drop-dead, professionally gorgeous - I mean, Victoria Secret gorgeous, Giselle material gorgeous, face-of-Chanel gorgeous - would be satisfied being a nanny. I would have doubts that a girl like that wants to be a nanny. A girl like that knows that she's gorgeous and she knows what her looks would bring her. No way all she wants to be is a nanny. I don't believe she will be focused on my children. I wouldn't hire a Nobel winner in economics, either.

Where do you come up with this shit? Wow!! Just wow.

[Anonymous]

Ok. MBs: WE DO NOT WANT TO FLIRT WITH, SLEEP WITH, OR SHARE A SANDWICH WITH YOUR HUSBANDS. Get over it, my god!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Ok. MBs: WE DO NOT WANT TO FLIRT WITH, SLEEP WITH, OR SHARE A SANDWICH WITH YOUR HUSBANDS. Get over it, my god!

+1000

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Ok. MBs: WE DO NOT WANT TO FLIRT WITH, SLEEP WITH, OR SHARE A SANDWICH WITH YOUR HUSBANDS. Get over it, my god!

+1000

Really we just hope your socially awkward, (usually) rude husbands will actually work in their offices like they are supposed to so that we can do our jobs comfortably. A model gorgeous woman-or really just ANY nanny-isn't going to be tempted by her middle aged work at home boss. Get over yourselves.

[Anonymous]

I know it is totally not right, and I agree, completely stupid, but I am indeed very insecure about my looks and I KNOW even if my husband does not even NOTICE Gisele Bundchen sitting in his living room every day, I will imagine him thinking about her. In fact, I think I might even feel that was about someone medium good looking. Sorry! You have to admit this is not a normal job, watching someone's child is very personal. You become a member of the family. There are lots of psychological things at play. There are insecurities aplenty.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I know it is totally not right, and I agree, completely stupid, but I am indeed very insecure about my looks and I KNOW even if my husband does not even NOTICE Gisele Bundchen sitting in his living room every day, I will imagine him thinking about her. In fact, I think I might even feel that was about someone medium good looking. Sorry! You have to admit this is not a normal job, watching someone's child is very personal. You become a member of the family. There are lots of psychological things at play. There are insecurities aplenty.

I agree. Does the hired help really belong on your couch with your husband watching her "mother" your child?

[Anonymous]

My she is beautiful,but not SMART,ke,ke,ke,kkkkkkke!!!

[Anonymous]

I have to agree I too would not hire her. It would make me feel uncomfortable and its OK I admit and own my insecurity

I am attractive but my husband is the better looking of our half. He is actually very very good looking and very fit. Because he is someone who is into looks, fitness, having someone around who is that good looking would make me feel uncomfortable. I know she works for us, etc...but still she would be living in our home as a member of our family. It would be only natural for him to notice her looks the same as if we had some hunk living with us, of course I would notice and admire.

So my personal reply is no, I would not. Which really stinks because she might be a great great person with amazing credentials but I guess in the back of my mind I would be thinking she has her eye on some other more glamorous job i.e. modeling, acting, etc.....

[Anonymous]

Look for all you naysayers, things happen. And happen more than you think. With nanny's that you think would never give a husband a second look. With husbands who "would never do that" or "aren't that type". Yea, yea, yea, well it happens and sometimes in cases that you least suspect. So why bring in temptation? Especially in this case with a husband who works from home. That might be too close for comfort in my eyes.

Men are very physical creatures, and are very impulsive and one dimensional in their thinking. Sometimes that results in bad decision making and judgement.

[Anonymous]

...not to mention the imbalance of power.
Please take note, MB.

[Anonymous]

My nanny is actually quite pretty but I honestly have no problem with it. I am very secure in my marriage (both in our 50's) and am surprised by how many would be reluctant to hire a good looking nanny. I prefer to look at someone who is pretty as opposed to someone who is homily but above all else, if they are professional and cut out for the job..then why would I rob myself and my kids of a perfectly great nanny!