Betrayed by Nanny of 4 years!

[Anonymous]

Hi OP , sorry about that . Forgive and let her go . Remember all the good she has done for your family over the years , and just let it go! For sure find a new babysitter for your kids and hopefully you can find an explanation to them when they ask about her . If this is true , she's just ungrateful . How many nannies starting with me would like to have what she had . Keep it moving ! Good luck

[Anonymous]

OP here, today is the day our nanny interns at my husbands office. We agreed that we wouldn't discuss it with her right away, but he is taking back her laptop (he gave her the use of it while interning) and he's letting her know that he needs to hire some people and that he can't have her as an intern yet. First step for us it to separate work and personal. Unfortunately the nature of a nanny and employer relationship is personal, very hard to keep that line drawn.

Because I care about her, I will let her know what she did was wrong and how it affected our family and our trust in her. I can totally see how she got wrapped up in wanting to be part of the office and wanting to be like by everyone. But I just can't get over the hurt of her betraying us after so many years of a good relationship. If she didn't like us, she wouldn't have kept working for us for 4 years, and vice versa.

As for the nincompoop that made this comment: She's not your nanny anymore - she's your babysitter! Big difference.

I seriously hate when people say oh I have a nanny. She watches our children once a week for date night. Lady that's a babysitter. Stop trying to sound like you have a nanny.

Sorry not part of the thread at all. Just annoys me!

Sad that the potential misuse of a word brings you so much annoyance. You must be a joy to be around and I'm sure people find you oh so pleasant.

I use the word NANNY because she worked full time for us longer than she worked for us as a "sitter" and my kids know her as their NANNY.

I get that people can be pretentious and use the word loosely, not the case here. I currently have a live in, AU PAIR would be the word, but we call her a nanny, because she does what nannys do, CARE FOR CHILDREN. I've been around the block when it comes to childcare and I can assure you, all the terms are used loosely so get over YOUR pretentiousness and stop letting such trivial things ANNOY you. Pah-tay-toe Pah-Tah-toe.

Thanks to legitimate posters, got some good advice here, not to mention a little entertainment

[Anonymous]

there's always 2 sides of a story

[Anonymous]

Yep. You all got it right. Troll for sure.

[Anonymous]

Ew. Troll or not, OP, you sound super annoying.

[Anonymous]

OP, if she was on her own since 14, she did not get the nurturing that she needed and instructions about being a responsible adult.
I would sever ties, but I might (cautiously) let her know what you found out so that she can learn.

[Anonymous]

She sounds like every other youngster. Greedy, entitled, materialistic. Severe the tie. Sounds like you were too good to her and she does not realize it. Don't waste time trying to teach her a thing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:She sounds like every other youngster. Greedy, entitled, materialistic. Severe the tie. Sounds like you were too good to her and she does not realize it. Don't waste time trying to teach her a thing.

If you think all young people act this way, why is your advice to not help her understand the error of her ways? Also how is it that you think the younger generation became what they are?? I get so tired of hearing young people as a whole disparaged by the very people who raised them.

[Anonymous]

OP, If you really really need to get this off your chest (I know I would!!), I would sit down and have a nice long talk with her. Keep it real and let her know you are not as dumb as she thinks you are. Let her know you know exactly what she did and that she needs to stay the hell away from you and your family. Let her know she burned a HUGE bridge w/you and she is not to mention anything about your family to any future employers or you will tell them EVERYTHING.

[Anonymous]

hello, I am very disappointed at your nanny, I am a Nanny as well and worked for several families who trust me over the years, I will never do that to any of them, also disappointed of the comments of people who do not understand what loyalty and feelings are, I saw many things over the years but never comment of the people who gave me a job and top of that you been so helpful when she needed, I think you should confront her because she will do the same with other people who trust her, just to let her know and make her think that the most powerful tool a nanny has is TRUST. Don't be discouraged there is a lot of good nannies out there. and I praise you for being such a good employer. good luck. God bless you.