MB wants me to do activities with HER friends and their children, not my Nanny group.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why are you so against feeling like the help when that's exactly what you are? Some of you nannies are in extreme denial. No one's forcing you to be in this line of work.

Unless you're the CEO, you're "the help" at your job to. Congratulations!

It's "too"

And I don't complain about it

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Oh good. The way I see it, everyone is "the help". If you aren't helping anyone, how would you earn your keep? As long as we're on the same page with regard to that, terrific. As you know, some of us feel that certain help is superior to other help. That's where it can get dicey.

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Why can't you do both? If they are on the same day ask your MB if you can rotate every other week.

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Anonymous wrote:Why are you so against feeling like the help when that's exactly what you are? Some of you nannies are in extreme denial. No one's forcing you to be in this line of work.

I didn't say I wasn't "the help" but the term is somewhat degrading. I'm not going to watch MB friends children for free, they don't pay me.

[Anonymous]

OP, you're probably our resident storytelling troll, but just in case you aren't...every job has tasks you won't like. It looks like this is one of them. Your MB wants her kids to socialize with her friends' children, likely because she believes those kids will her kids' future friends. She doesn't think your nanny group's charges will be her kids' friends. You have two choices. You can do your job and socialize with your nanny friends on your time, or you can quit. Win-win.

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Anonymous wrote:Why are you so against feeling like the help when that's exactly what you are? Some of you nannies are in extreme denial. No one's forcing you to be in this line of work.

I have no problem being treated like a nanny, I am one. When someone says "the help" they mean it in the old school traditional way when rich white families hired minority women to care for their homes and children. That might be exactly what a nanny does, but certain attitudes and behaviors are no longer acceptable, and I don't have to tolerate them. For example, I call my bosses by their first names. There was a time when that wouldn't have been acceptable. I also eat at their table, using their dishes, with them at shared meal times. I know crazy right? There was a time in our country's not so distant futre where that would have been crazy. I take issue with being treated like a second class citizen, ignored or talked over/down to and expected to be invisible, otherwise known as being treated like "the help". I can completely understand how being ignored while simultaneously being handed a strangers child to watch while the moms gab and snack can make OP feel delegated to the position of "the help". It may not be their intention, but it is uncomfortable and degrading, and unless and until you experience it you will not understand.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Why are you so against feeling like the help when that's exactly what you are? Some of you nannies are in extreme denial. No one's forcing you to be in this line of work.

I have no problem being treated like a nanny, I am one. When someone says "the help" they mean it in the old school traditional way when rich white families hired minority women to care for their homes and children. That might be exactly what a nanny does, but certain attitudes and behaviors are no longer acceptable, and I don't have to tolerate them. For example, I call my bosses by their first names. There was a time when that wouldn't have been acceptable. I also eat at their table, using their dishes, with them at shared meal times. I know crazy right? There was a time in our country's not so distant futre where that would have been crazy. I take issue with being treated like a second class citizen, ignored or talked over/down to and expected to be invisible, otherwise known as being treated like "the help". I can completely understand how being ignored while simultaneously being handed a strangers child to watch while the moms gab and snack can make OP feel delegated to the position of "the help". It may not be their intention, but it is uncomfortable and degrading, and unless and until you experience it you will not understand.

*past not future

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As a MB, I figure my kids, my dime, my rules. I wouldn't let you take my kids to "your" groups unless I have met and approve of the other nannies. And realistically I don't have that kind of time.

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Anonymous wrote:OP has an easily recognizable style and always gives us an ultra-detailed blow by blow account before requesting "thoughts?", and now "advice?" since she was called out on her "thoughts?". No one else does it like her, but you are most welcome to emulate if you wish.

You need a life. I feel sorry for you.

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Anonymous wrote:As a MB, I figure my kids, my dime, my rules. I wouldn't let you take my kids to "your" groups unless I have met and approve of the other nannies. And realistically I don't have that kind of time.

Yes, but MB agreed to letting the children play with the group during interview. Also, I don't want to watch other peoples children for free. I don't mind not taking them with my group, I'll take them alone if MB has issues with me going with other nannies.

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Anonymous wrote:Why are you so against feeling like the help when that's exactly what you are? Some of you nannies are in extreme denial. No one's forcing you to be in this line of work.

I am in this line of work bc I am passionate about childcare! I could be in ECE, but I LOVE preschoolers and the pay is too low. Plus, I am happy doing this. That does not mean that you should treat me as a lower class citizen. Congratulations to you if you make a ton of money and that makes you happy, but your blatant disregard for others tells me that you probably are not a pleasant person to be around.