MB lost her job

[Anonymous]

OP here, yes, they did say that. That's what makes me so upset. Their exact words were "we would hate to give you a poor reference because you went back on your word."

As for finding another part time job, it would be very difficult with the 10:30 - 5:30 hours I currently work.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Did they actually say, "If you leave we won't give you a good reference!"? They would have to be totally crazy/vindictive people to try to screw you like that.

Can you talk to them and say, "I love working for you and I really don't want to leave you in a lurch- but I was wrong to think I could sustain my expenses and bills on this salary. I'm going to have to find new work by (whatever date)."

You're a human being. You have a life outside their home. They would have to be nutso to not understand.

You know about vindictive people, don't you? That's why you get that reference letter every three months (that you don't like).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here, yes, they did say that. That's what makes me so upset. Their exact words were "we would hate to give you a poor reference because you went back on your word."

As for finding another part time job, it would be very difficult with the 10:30 - 5:30 hours I currently work.

7 hrs a day is half-time?

[Anonymous]

OP here, yes, I usually work 13-14 hour days, so 7 hours is part time for me.

I'm actually looking for positions with 8 - 9 hour days now. I was getting very burnt out, so maybe this is a good thing in the long run.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here, yes, I usually work 13-14 hour days, so 7 hours is part time for me.

I'm actually looking for positions with 8 - 9 hour days now. I was getting very burnt out, so maybe this is a good thing in the long run.

If this is the case OP, what exactly is your issue? They didn't drop your hourly rate, they dropped your hours, which you want anyway??

[Anonymous]

They dropped her hours, but she still had to clean the same house. What a smart ass mom, huh? Just like, here's my baby, and an extra dollar. Go to hell.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here, yes, they did say that. That's what makes me so upset. Their exact words were "we would hate to give you a poor reference because you went back on your word."

As for finding another part time job, it would be very difficult with the 10:30 - 5:30 hours I currently work.

PP who asked here- Wow, I'm so sorry for you! What assholes! Wow. That's all I have to say. I'm kind of speechless.

I think you should see if you can find a new job without a reference and then leave them high and dry. Shame on them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Did they actually say, "If you leave we won't give you a good reference!"? They would have to be totally crazy/vindictive people to try to screw you like that.

Can you talk to them and say, "I love working for you and I really don't want to leave you in a lurch- but I was wrong to think I could sustain my expenses and bills on this salary. I'm going to have to find new work by (whatever date)."

You're a human being. You have a life outside their home. They would have to be nutso to not understand.

You know about vindictive people, don't you? That's why you get that reference letter every three months (that you don't like).

Person who posted about not liking reference letters was not me

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here, yes, they did say that. That's what makes me so upset. Their exact words were "we would hate to give you a poor reference because you went back on your word."

As for finding another part time job, it would be very difficult with the 10:30 - 5:30 hours I currently work.

PP who asked here- Wow, I'm so sorry for you! What assholes! Wow. That's all I have to say. I'm kind of speechless.

I think you should see if you can find a new job without a reference and then leave them high and dry. Shame on them.

+1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Did they actually say, "If you leave we won't give you a good reference!"? They would have to be totally crazy/vindictive people to try to screw you like that.

Can you talk to them and say, "I love working for you and I really don't want to leave you in a lurch- but I was wrong to think I could sustain my expenses and bills on this salary. I'm going to have to find new work by (whatever date)."

You're a human being. You have a life outside their home. They would have to be nutso to not understand.

You know about vindictive people, don't you? That's why you get that reference letter every three months (that you don't like).

Person who posted about not liking reference letters was not me

Apologies.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here, yes, I usually work 13-14 hour days, so 7 hours is part time for me.

I'm actually looking for positions with 8 - 9 hour days now. I was getting very burnt out, so maybe this is a good thing in the long run.

You should call up the Department of Labor to see about suing them for OverTime.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have been with my family for over a year. The MB lost her job a week ago. I really feel bad for her, but she is receiving a fantastic severance package. I agreed to work with them and I am down to half my original paycheck. They told me that this is only temporary, so I (and MB) are hoping this only lasts a few weeks.

With MB's severance, she has time to look for the perfect job for her, but I can't last that long on only half of my original paycheck. She told me today that she is hoping to find a position in a few months. That's a long time for me. The kicker is that they won't give me a good reference if I leave for another position since I already told them that I would stick around (even though MB originally told me she would be out of work MAXIMUM one month).

My question is this: do I stick this out until MB gets a job again (because unemployment is less than I am making), OR do I look for another position that can pay me my regular hours?

Why did they say they wouldn't give you a good reference? I find that odd. I would actually use that plus the fact that the "one month out of work" could potentially be several months (no one really does know, do they?). If you can't live off half your original pay for more than a month, I would tell them this. That they have 1 month. That if by this time she has not gotten a new job, that you will be forced to leave and find something else just due to finances. You cannot deal with less or else you will be suffering. I am sure they will understand this. That can effectively be a one month notice that is contingent on whether she finds a job by then or not. If they cannot agree to this, nor being able to give you a good reference if you do leave, then I would just leave now. No one can possibly expect someone to stick around with less pay for a long period of time. It's also not YOU choosing to leave for any other reason, it is them not being able to pay you (or pay the full amount). Your leaving is based on THEM not on you wanting something "better'. You would be loyal as long as you could but a job is to bring in money and if it doesn't bring in the money you need, it can't feasibly continue on.

[Anonymous]

OP, you realize that if you seek a new job with fewer hours, you're unlikely to return to your weekly pay as it was before MB lost her job, right? What is the difference between what you are currently making and what you reasonably expect to make at a new job with the hours you are seeking?

[Anonymous]

2:53 - good point unless her hourly rate was super low to balance out the really high number of hrs. OP - I recall you posting (I think) a few weeks ago about the hrs not working anyway. I think this is a great out. To tell your MB that you are really sorry but you have realized you need x to pay the bills and that working the previous y hrs though was killing you. Explain that you understand this puts you at a mismatch now given their temp situation and long term needs. Tell her you plan to start looking but hope that doing so while MB is off means they will also have ample time to find a new nanny. That is if you really want to try to keep the reference.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here, yes, I usually work 13-14 hour days, so 7 hours is part time for me.

I'm actually looking for positions with 8 - 9 hour days now. I was getting very burnt out, so maybe this is a good thing in the long run.

You should call up the Department of Labor to see about suing them for OverTime.

Your mb should be punished for abusing you.
Do you need a phone number to get more information about this?