How to go about this...

[Anonymous]

Bring it up again. Say "MB what were you looking for? That bothered me a bit and I am hoping it is not because you don't trust me"

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Am I the only one who wouldn't care? I would believe my mb if she said she heard my phone ringing. But I guess that's just how I am... What do you all keep in your bags?

Um, the OP said that she keeps her phone in her CAR during the day so she KNOWS that the MB couldn't have heard it. I might not mind if I had my phone in a bag and my MB did go to check, I sometimes grab my MB's phone for her to bring to her. But if there was no actual phone/phone call and she used that as an excuse, then I would be upset.

[Anonymous]

MB here and this is totally weird. I can't think of an explanation, but before outright quitting, I'd have a talk with her. "It made me really uncomfortable that you were going through my bag. Can you help me understand why and what you were looking for?"

[Anonymous]

I'm an MB and that's inexcusable. I trust my nanny fully and know she treats her full access to my home with great respect, and she deserves the same trust and respect in return.

Good luck finding another position OP. I don't think you need any further conversation w/ this MB. You just need to find another position and then when you give notice you can say why you're leaving.

I'm sure this MB has issues well beyond you, but that's not your concern - other than her showing you that this isn't the right position for you.

What a shame.

I would be tempted to leave a note in my purse shaming her when she does it again. "Hi MB, I hope you enjoy snooping through my things. I'm sure you know by now that there isn't much of interest here."

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm sure you've snooped threw out her house many times. Maybe she was missing something and wanted to see if you took it? I'm NOT on her side and if I were you I would leave immediately but i'm just saying.

Go away

I can come and go as I please (unless told otherwise by admins) - Most nannies/babysitters have definitely rummaged threw their employers personal space and many are known for taking petty things home (for example, I knew a babysitter who use to steal toilet paper, soap, cans of food and other small items because her MB shopped in bulk and she assumed noone would notice). I'm just suggesting that maybe OP's employer suspected her of taking something that was missing and took a quick peak. Not that it makes it right but it is a possibility.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:honestly it wouldn't bother me if I found my boss looking through my purse or car as there isn't anything in there I worry about her finding.

I can understand you being annoyed but I would sit down with her and talk to her. Maybe she is just paranoid sometimes people do stupid stuff.

I would be quite upset. I am a dull bird so I know there is nothing juicy in there but it is the fact that she thought it was alright to go through my personal space (ie purse) that I would be more upset up. It shows that she doesn't respect you or your privacy. I do not go through my employers items and I expect the same respect. The car I could understand if the children left something that she needed or if she needed the car seats.

OP, what did you end up doing?