Rant...so overwhelmed

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why would one send kids to camp if they have a nanny? I would do either nanny or camp. That makes no sense.

They don't want a nanny. They want a housekeeper who provides before and aftercare.

[Anonymous]

Get the kids to help my charges are 22months, 4, and 9. they help.
4 year old helps take out the garbage, brings in the trash can from the street on trash days, makes his bed in the morning, helps match and fold the socks, and puts away his laundry.
9 year old makes his bed in the morning, takes the trash can to the street the night before trash day, folds and puts away his own laundry, and washes the counters in the bathroom and kitchen.
22 month old helps put the laundry in the dryer and picks up his toys.
the rest i do during reading time or rest time.

+1 This is great for kids. They should be helping and be learning responsibility. Its also good for them to have some rest, reading or quiet time. You can also have the 9 year old read to and with the younger kids.

You also need to plan out your days and get a routine or structure in place. If you clean as you go and have activities/cleaning planned in advance rather than haphazardly trying to fit it all in it makes a huge difference. For example, in the morning you throw laundry into the wash, handle dishes quickly while kids are eating breakfast, kids are responsible for clearing dishes from the table and helping to sweep while you clean up the 22 month old. You play for a little bit and get ready to go out when the washing machine is done. You throw things into the dryer and go to the pool or park -somewhere they can burn off energy. Come back, eat lunch -let kids help make it and same deal with cleaning up after themselves. You all fold clothes together. Play a little and then its rest time and reading for 1-2 hours. You spend 30 minutes -1 hour doing tasks like dusting or whatever and 30 minutes to 1 hour on a break. When the kids wake up you do an afternoon activity and then they clean up their toys while you vacuum etc. You play for the rest of the day.

The key here is that wiping down the kitchen counters is not a task that you do during rest time. You quickly do this each time after you eat and they stay clean. When everyone is done playing with one set of toys, it gets put away. You don't let them trash the room and then it becomes an hour task to clean it up. Not cleaning up quickly after yourself or teaching them to do it leads to much bigger messes that are time consuming to go back and clean up.

[Anonymous]

The last PP is great advice. But you also should have a discussiona bout changing cleaing responsibilities because your childcare responsibilities have changed. I'd think with those ages cleaning could get done but depends on size of the house and how messy it is in the morning.

[Anonymous]

I don't think the issue is solely whether OP can get the tasks done. The bigger issue, IMO, is that she is being yelled at by her boss, and the changes to her duties weren't discussed just loaded on her without a change in compensation.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why would one send kids to camp if they have a nanny? I would do either nanny or camp. That makes no sense.

I'm a nanny whose twin charges are entering K this fall. I work 50 hours a week, but they still do camp. Some weeks they are home with me all week. Other weeks one or both of them will have some type of summer camp....just half day though. They love going to camp so we try to balance out camp weeks with free weeks that allow me to plan fun outings. If the kids enjoys camp and the family can afford to pay their nanny and send the kids to camp I don't see the issue.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Get the kids to help my charges are 22months, 4, and 9. they help.
4 year old helps take out the garbage, brings in the trash can from the street on trash days, makes his bed in the morning, helps match and fold the socks, and puts away his laundry.
9 year old makes his bed in the morning, takes the trash can to the street the night before trash day, folds and puts away his own laundry, and washes the counters in the bathroom and kitchen.
22 month old helps put the laundry in the dryer and picks up his toys.
the rest i do during reading time or rest time.

Why? The parents are clearly is taking major advantage of this nanny and not paying her properly.

What is your why in response to? Are you saying the nanny shouldn't have the kids help? This is something I do without needing to be prompted, kids SHOULD be learning how to clean up/take basic care of themselves, and it should be part of the nanny's job to help teach this...and if it lightens her load, isn't it win win?

Why should the nanny continue to be abused by the parent? Don't you think she should get out of that hell hole ASAP?

OP should have taken it upon herself to ask for the raise. And her job doesn't seem like it is as horrible as she is trying to make it, there are many of us, nannies/MBs/DBs and stay at home parents, that manage multiple children and full household tasks everyday and don't get as stressed about it as OP. If she is unable to manage her time or engage the children-who are all of capable ages-to help, then perhaps this is just not the right profession for her.

[Anonymous]

Put your finger up for her and look for another family.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don't think the issue is solely whether OP can get the tasks done. The bigger issue, IMO, is that she is being yelled at by her boss, and the changes to her duties weren't discussed just loaded on her without a change in compensation.

OP, get another job and let the bitch find herself another doormat to yell at.