nanny taking three week trip

[Anonymous]

Get over it. You don't run her life. Fire her if you will over one extra week of vacation.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Get over it. You don't run her life. Fire her if you will over one extra week of vacation.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, I am curious...How old is your nanny?

The reason I am asking this is because as a mother, I see this type of behavior w/younger nannies...the ones still in their early 20's. They seem to have self-entitlement issues that their older more mature counterparts do not seem to have.

I prefer hiring nannies 30 + since they seem more responsible and considerate.
Younger nannies feel the world revolves around them it seems.

Anyway, your nanny is being inconsiderate and I would let her know in no uncertain terms that she is not honoring the contract. This will leave you scrambling for back-up care and is a hardship for your family.

Depending on how much your kids love her, you can either let it slide this time and have her promise not to do this again or you can look for someone new right now.
I suggest an older nanny.

Your entire post is BS. Her age has NOTHING to do with this. Selfish comes in all ages.

[Anonymous]

I don't want to defend the nanny. I think she has communication issues. BUT at the same time. Please people bear with me. I'm also from an other country. I can't afford to go to see every year my family. I try every two years. BUT because the ticket price are crazy high and the travel time is extremly insane with all the changing fights and hours difference I also try to go for 3 or 4 weeks. I always talked about that with the families i work with .... They never ever had an issue about that. Usually 2 weeks are paid and the rest is unpaid. And last time I also wasn't sure when i go exactly...I gave them a time frame... And when i booked the flight next day i told them... That gave them 4 weeks to figure out what to do..... They handled it very well... Everything went very smoothly. 4 weeks was perfectly enough for them to figure out what to do..... I think 6 weeks is not bad....

[Anonymous]

She has violated your contract. Fire her.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don't want to defend the nanny. I think she has communication issues. BUT at the same time. Please people bear with me. I'm also from an other country. I can't afford to go to see every year my family. I try every two years. BUT because the ticket price are crazy high and the travel time is extremly insane with all the changing fights and hours difference I also try to go for 3 or 4 weeks. I always talked about that with the families i work with .... They never ever had an issue about that. Usually 2 weeks are paid and the rest is unpaid. And last time I also wasn't sure when i go exactly...I gave them a time frame... And when i booked the flight next day i told them... That gave them 4 weeks to figure out what to do..... They handled it very well... Everything went very smoothly. 4 weeks was perfectly enough for them to figure out what to do..... I think 6 weeks is not bad....

Yes but the difference is you discussed this with the family ahead of time. I don't think anyone should have a problem with your desire to travel far away and see your family for an extended period of time. And you were considerate to discuss this with your MB/DB ahead of time.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, I am curious...How old is your nanny?

The reason I am asking this is because as a mother, I see this type of behavior w/younger nannies...the ones still in their early 20's. They seem to have self-entitlement issues that their older more mature counterparts do not seem to have.

I prefer hiring nannies 30 + since they seem more responsible and considerate.
Younger nannies feel the world revolves around them it seems.

Anyway, your nanny is being inconsiderate and I would let her know in no uncertain terms that she is not honoring the contract. This will leave you scrambling for back-up care and is a hardship for your family.

Depending on how much your kids love her, you can either let it slide this time and have her promise not to do this again or you can look for someone new right now.
I suggest an older nanny.

Your entire post is BS. Her age has NOTHING to do with this. Selfish comes in all ages.

Selfish does come with all ages, but the nanny's actions do sound like that of a younger person.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I would ask why she booked tickets for three weeks when she only gets two weeks vacation and only one of those weeks is at her discretion per the contract she signed. I'd ask her to leave her key for my house with me, so I could give it to whoever I'd be having cover her hours. Then I would find a new nanny and fire her, probably while she's on vacation.

I'm a nanny and I agree with this. Though if you go this route, man up and tell her so she can decideif that trip is worth losing her job over.

Nope.. She already decided by BOOKING HER TICKETS. If she hadn't decided she'd have come to the OP and said, "I'd really like to go on vacation for three weeks in August. Is there ANY way we could make that work despite what my contract says?"

+1

[Anonymous]

Hmm, I just don't think this is quite that big a deal.

It's inconsiderate, absolutely, and I can understand being upset and frustrated by it. OP, you should tell her what an inconvenience it is for you and emphasize that even if she intends to take time off as unpaid, you need her to discuss it with you first. And then I'd see how she responds. It seems likely she's either very young or grew up somewhere that wouldn't be considered problematic, in which case issue her a warning, clarify your expectations, and find backup care. If she seems really outraged or antagonistic when confronted with this, dismiss her.

[Anonymous]

She's going in August so she is giving you at least 6 weeks notice. I'm but understanding the issue. Can't you find a replacement nanny for that week?

[Anonymous]

I take 21 days on my vacation,what's the problem?!!!!!
I add my 5 sick days,and I got 21 days at the beach,hummmmmm,nice.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:She's going in August so she is giving you at least 6 weeks notice. I'm but understanding the issue. Can't you find a replacement nanny for that week?

she could and she might find she likes the replacemwnt better and keep her!

[Anonymous]

I wouldn't say much to the nanny but if you find someone better then by all means fire the nanny.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Get over it. You don't run her life. Fire her if you will over one extra week of vacation.

Typical snarky response.