MBs... would you hire a nanny you knew frequented this board?

[Anonymous]

I would not likely hire a nanny from here if she displayed the entitled anti-MB attitude so prevalent here. However, if she mentioned this board as the entertaining but crazy place that it is, I might like her more.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Sounds like 16:55 is toilet scrubbing at her place of employment.

A good example of the snarky nannies on this board. Perhaps you should have read the prior post more closely. Anyone who scrubs toilets at work does it because it is part of the job she has chosen to accept, not because the toilet just happens to be in her place of employment. The fact is, some nanny jobs include both child care and toilet scrubbing. Stop denigrating the women who choose to take on those jobs in an attempt to enhance your own self-importance.

Professional cleaners have been trained and are experienced at what they do. If you have one, you must know that not anyone is able to do their job. I certainly understand that.

I used to nanny in midtown Manhattan for a dual physician family with twins. They employed me FT as well as a FT housekeeper for their highrise apartment. She didn't do cooking or anything else but keep everything impeccably clean. She was a real pro.

If she had done a little of everything (like an old fashioned mom), she would have been a master of nothing. But if it's a mom, she certainly doesn't need to be a "master" of anything. She's the homemaker Mother.

The point is that if you your helper does whatever you need, she's not your nanny.

A nanny is not "Jane of all trades, master of none".

A nanny does childcare and associated duties. Naturally, any professional clears up after themselves and does not leave behind a sloppy mess. No professional of any kind would do that, IMHO.

Is the above an example of the "anti MB attitude"?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I found my current position on this board, and I am extremely happy and believe my MB is equally happy (she tells me often). I often come here to check the archives looking for practical advice, and I sometimes find the back and forth entertaining but I also recognize that too much time spent here is cancerous. I surely hope my MB doesn't judge me by the nanny comments posted here!

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[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:DCUM nannies are far far from savvy. The OP wrote "snarky" BTW. Snarky means nasty. Savvy means smart or shrewd. It is spelled "savvy" not savey" too.

DCUM nannies are possibly the dumbest creatures on the planet. Their posts are amusing but textbook examples of really bad, dumb employees who have no better prospects in life.

I couldn't figure out what the hell "savey" meant.

Please don't lump all nannies together or assume a few idiots speak for everyone.

I found my current position here. I love it! The parents know I read this and other forums. We have poked fun at the nanny forum from time to time. I don't need to explain I'm not one of the idiot posters. She knows I'm not stupid.

[Anonymous]

Only a stupid person person would lump all nannies or MBs together. Some are fantastic and some are witches.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I know a few people who found nannies through this board, and they've been very pleased. Their nannies are nothing like some of the more vocal nuts who post here.

The problem with this board is that anonymity makes it hard at first to recognize that the snarkiness emanates from a handful of individuals, with a very high percentage coming from one or two total seriously disturbed individuals. These women do not represent the thinking of all the nannies who check in here from time to time. Besides, it isn't as if DCUM has cornered the market on obnoxious nannies. DCUM just gives them safety in numbers, so the usual mental checks on irrational and inappropriate attitudes stop working.

So, to the extent that I could even find out, I wouldn't write off a nanny candidate solely because she uses this board. After all, I'm here too.

What I would do is carefully assess the attitudes and interpersonal skills of all candidates during the interview process. I would also get a complete work history and call all recent employers, not just the names specifically given as references. Any unexplained gaps in work history and I would assume an employment relationship that the nanny is trying to block me from accessing relevant information that might reflect poorly on her. Any signs of the thinking or behavior I see from some nannies on this board and she'd be quickly tossed from consideration.

You are way to sensible to be here. You mean you would actually judge a nanny based on her qualifications, professionalism and attitude as opposed to knowing she frequented this board? How novel. Funny thing, I met my current employers through this board so at that point I know they are well aware that I am at least familiar with this site as they are as well. We joke about this board and she makes fun of me because I'm on here more than she is (she says). She googled me early on in my employment and found a post I had written several years ago railing about the constant denigrating of nannies here. She still employs me and again, we still laugh about it.

[Anonymous]

My MB and I laugh at this forum together and find useful information on here as well. I think its ridiculous to simply rule a nanny out because she frequents this board. A MB should be cautions EITHER WAY.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My MB and I laugh at this forum together and find useful information on here as well. I think its ridiculous to simply rule a nanny out because she frequents this board. A MB should be cautions EITHER WAY.

....as should nanny if she learns that mb is here. Yikes!!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My MB and I laugh at this forum together and find useful information on here as well. I think its ridiculous to simply rule a nanny out because she frequents this board. A MB should be cautions EITHER WAY.

....as should nanny if she learns that mb is here. Yikes!!

Yup.

This listserv could scare anyone - regardless of their role!