MBs and Nannies what do you think about this?

[Anonymous]

you told her to go in your purse. I do not find it crazy therefore that she actually went in your purse, nor that she may have noticed this as she was looking for th ephone.

That said, sounds like you know religion was really important to her as she brought it up during the interview and that they are super religious. I am not so i'm struggling not to view MB as nuts to be worried about condom usage, but nannying is a very personal job. It is quite possible that they wanted to make sure they were hiring someone whose religious views are in line with theirs and now they learn that yours are apparently not - at least not at the level that your MB thought they were.

I think your reply (if you discuss it) needs to take that into account. That you recognize that your religious views may not be 100% identical, but you are working hard to help instill the type of values in the kids that your MB would support and that things of this nature are far beyond the type of discussion you would be having with the children.

[Anonymous]

I do think MB was completely out of line, totally overreacted and also shouldn't have been going through your purse but just to play devils advocate is it possible she thought that because they were empty wrappers you were using them in her house?

It's really none of my business but it is a little odd that you had empty condom wrappers in your purse. Do you usually throw other garbage in your purse? Whether it's a condom wrapper or other garbage I usually throw it in a trash can unless I don't want someone to see it in the trash can.

Also, is it possible she just saw them sitting there as soon as she opened your purse without having to rumage through it. If you opened my purse to get my phone you could see a lot of things in there without intentionally looking through it.

Again, I do think she's out of line but just trying to see it from another perspective.

[Anonymous]

Wrong is wrong. Stop trying to justify it.

[Anonymous]

Op here. I understand. However if I am looking for something in someone's purse, I ignore everything else. I may notice "oh look at that" and I might even judge it (ex if someone had like used condoms in the purse, but unless it was someone like my best friend I wouldn't "confront" them about it. At least if it was my friend I could be joking about it and I wouldn't be judging.

[Anonymous]

Yes but you knew she was super religious and also concerned about "cohabiting". I do not think it is crazy to have thought she would not be keen to find out you are not acting in a way in keeping with what she thought.
I say this as an MB that personally is not super religious and does not pay attention to what nanny does outside of work aside from friendly asking about her kids and their activities.

[Anonymous]

This world is so screwed up! Mommies want nannies to be perfect little angels - more perfect than anyone else on the whole planet even their beloved children.

They don't want you to be a sexual creature or have a life or a boyfriend or any interests outside their family life.

You must have 100% morals, be chaste, a virgin for ever and ever amen.

And if you even mention like I stupidly did that I had worked in a shop that sold sex toys lol on your CV when being interviewed by a nanny agency - expect to never hear from them again. They think you are a pedophile.
People are sicko.

You should read a brilliant book called "THE PERFECT STRANGER - the truth about mums and nannies" written by a mother about how they expect their nannies to be perfection personified and hold them up to standards that even they would never meet.

[Anonymous]

OP here. DB texted me to say that he was sorry about MB's overreaction. Apparently she told him about it and he got mad at her for invading my privacy. I haven't seen her since (DB came home from work earlier)

[Anonymous]

Not a very good fake post, but you're getting better, OP.

No one saves condom wrappers. But just in case something similar ever actually happens to you, just tell her you were mature and responsible, which is why you use condoms.

Problem solved.

[Anonymous]

All this points to the overall issue. MBs have been lead to believe that they have a right to invade you in anyway that they can.
They have no consequences for their egregious abuse of power.
Looks like DB is a bit more intelligent here, thank God.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Not a very good fake post, but you're getting better, OP.

No one saves condom wrappers. But just in case something similar ever actually happens to you, just tell her you were mature and responsible, which is why you use condoms.

Problem solved.

Not fake as I already addressed. and getting better at what? Like I said before I wasn't "saving them". Without going into detail it was easier at the time to put them in my purse.