how many breaks do you give your nanny?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP you're lucky that your nanny is only taking 2 hours worth of breaks in an 8 hour day!

DCUM nannies expect 3-4 hours of breaks in an 8 hour day! Forget tea, these nannies expect to have long naps and watch Netflix. If the child goes to preschool, they expect you to pay for those hours too and ask for no additional tasks so the nanny can take another job and get paid double by two employers. All perfectly reasonable in the world of nannies.

When the child is awake, the DCUM nannies expect you to provide a car or transportation mileage so the nanny can meet up with nanny friends at parks and ignore your child. These are not breaks, they are important adult interaction moments that a nanny must have to get through the afternoon of napping without adult interaction.

Seriously, OP you should come up with a list of tasks that are valuable to you and sit down to have a conversation with your nanny. You can be direct in how you want her to spend her time when your child is awake and asleep. She should get an hour for lunch and be able to get snacks etc while the child is awake. Its nonsense that as a nanny you have free will to do whatever you want during your entire working day.

You're an idiot! This forum of filled with extremists on both the nanny and MB side. Though you obviously have no faith or trust in anyone other than yourself, so my guess is that you are neither, and have nothing better to do with your time.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP you're lucky that your nanny is only taking 2 hours worth of breaks in an 8 hour day!

DCUM nannies expect 3-4 hours of breaks in an 8 hour day! Forget tea, these nannies expect to have long naps and watch Netflix. If the child goes to preschool, they expect you to pay for those hours too and ask for no additional tasks so the nanny can take another job and get paid double by two employers. All perfectly reasonable in the world of nannies.

When the child is awake, the DCUM nannies expect you to provide a car or transportation mileage so the nanny can meet up with nanny friends at parks and ignore your child. These are not breaks, they are important adult interaction moments that a nanny must have to get through the afternoon of napping without adult interaction.

Seriously, OP you should come up with a list of tasks that are valuable to you and sit down to have a conversation with your nanny. You can be direct in how you want her to spend her time when your child is awake and asleep. She should get an hour for lunch and be able to get snacks etc while the child is awake. Its nonsense that as a nanny you have free will to do whatever you want during your entire working day.

You're an idiot! This forum of filled with extremists on both the nanny and MB side. Though you obviously have no faith or trust in anyone other than yourself, so my guess is that you are neither, and have nothing better to do with your time.

Frankly, it is you who comes across as an overly emotional idiot! PP just sounds as a good manager to me

[Anonymous]

One reason why she's not doing as much in the way of household chores as before could be because a 2 year of is much more active than an infant. She may have been able to do more when he was a baby and sleeping more, or if she wore him in a carrier and could do extra things. Now that he's more active he requires constant supervision while he's awake. If she is getting all the child related tasks done (cleaning up toys, doing their dishes, laundry if that's her responsibility) then I don't think it's unreasonable for her to have down time during his nap.

[Anonymous]

OP this all sounds perfectly reasonable to me. Assuming she can see your son while she's having her tea, this is really a necessary way of ensuring she isn't spoiling him with constant 1:1 attention all day. If he needs her, she's available to jump in, but she's encouraging him in independent play which is developmentally appropriate (and seriously, you don't want a child who's used to having a nanny at his beck and call every waking moment, trust me).

[Anonymous]

Thanks 12:13 and 12:21. I was looking for your kind of replies which are actually helpful

[Anonymous]

How do you know the exact times of her breaks? Do you watch her on nanny cam all day?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP this all sounds perfectly reasonable to me. Assuming she can see your son while she's having her tea, this is really a necessary way of ensuring she isn't spoiling him with constant 1:1 attention all day. If he needs her, she's available to jump in, but she's encouraging him in independent play which is developmentally appropriate (and seriously, you don't want a child who's used to having a nanny at his beck and call every waking moment, trust me).

Agree. OP, it sounds like you have a great nanny, I wouldn't be petty over having a tea and snack and calling it a "break". When she is there, she is on the clock the entire time ensuring that your child is in a safe and healthy environment. At 2 years old, it's completely age appropriate for your nanny to let your child learn to play solo. Children do not need constant interaction at that age. I'm glad you got some positive feedback on here and I hope your nanny appreciates you as a MB because you seem pretty level-headed.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:How do you know the exact times of her breaks? Do you watch her on nanny cam all day?

no,never had a nanny cam. I do work from home ocasionally and observed this recently. Also, heard this from my mom/mom in law who come to visit ocasionally

[Anonymous]

The only break should be when the child is asleep and should be about an hour. If the child naps three hours, then the nanny should be doing child related or housekeeping tasks specified in your contract.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The only break should be when the child is asleep and should be about an hour. If the child naps three hours, then the nanny should be doing child related or housekeeping tasks specified in your contract.

How many child related or housekeeping tasks can you possibly come up with (and do they really take 3 additional hours a day?)?? If she has completed her tasks for the day, what nanny does when the child is sleeping is her business. You are not hiring a laborer, you are hiring a caretaker for your child. Is it really necessary to milk every minute of the day out of him/her?

[Anonymous]

I don't give him any breaks. He arrives in the morning having eaten breakfast (or skipping it? I have no idea), and then we give him $25 a week for purchasing foods to keep at our house to make his lunches plus he's welcome to eat any of our food.

If he lets her loose at the playground and sits on a bench drinking a coffee while watching her, is that a break or is he still working? I think he's still working. I suppose he gets a break during nap time after lunch.

But I certainly never wrote out specific times when he should consider himself off the clock.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:The real question, OP, is how many "breaks" do you take over the weekend, when nanny isn't there. Or do you have a weekend nanny to?

That is really irrelevent. OP is not the one being paid for every hour. it is up to her what she does

Taking care of your child IS a job, no matter if you're the bioparent, or the hired help, or something inbetween.

The job should ALWAYS be done in the best way possible, whoever is doing it.

this is not relevant. I am paid for washing people's cloting 2hours a day than I have to wash people's clothing 2 hours a day, because I am paid for it and because it is my job. whether those people would was their clothes or wear them all dirty it is not relevant. If OP works, I am not sure how she can know that the nanny takes 2 hour breaks during the day. however, the job performance of the nanny can be judged completely recardless of whether OP is a good parent or not

[Anonymous]

You're insane, lady.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The real question, OP, is how many "breaks" do you take over the weekend, when nanny isn't there. Or do you have a weekend nanny to?

That is really irrelevent. OP is not the one being paid for every hour. it is up to her what she does

Taking care of your child IS a job, no matter if you're the bioparent, or the hired help, or something inbetween.

The job should ALWAYS be done in the best way possible, whoever is doing it.

this is not relevant. I am paid for washing people's cloting 2hours a day than I have to wash people's clothing 2 hours a day, because I am paid for it and because it is my job. whether those people would was their clothes or wear them all dirty it is not relevant. If OP works, I am not sure how she can know that the nanny takes 2 hour breaks during the day. however, the job performance of the nanny can be judged completely recardless of whether OP is a good parent or not

+1

and since a good parent is defined by how many breaks she is taking through out the day?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The real question, OP, is how many "breaks" do you take over the weekend, when nanny isn't there. Or do you have a weekend nanny to?

The IQ of some MBs is embarrassing.