Advice needed - soon (hopefully) to be ex-nanny

[Anonymous]

Hi -- this is Mom (the OP). I initially decided not to respond to the person who felt I was dishonest in an effort to give everyone the benefit of the doubt who took the time to read my request for advice and respond -- even if I felt the post in issue (8:57) was a bit snarky. I agree with 16:30 that the post from 8:57 was counterproductive, but I have seen a lot of those types of comments on this forum over time and that is why I rarely read it or post. I did ask for advice in this instance because the situation I am facing is not a good one, I am trying to be fair and I'm also concerned about what potentially may happen to another family in the future, so I wanted to hear from other employers/parents. To the posts who asked for details on what my childrens' nanny has done that raises safety issues -- I decided not to expand with details because I have a feeling she is looking on this site for a new position. It's unfortunate that in my not giving specifics, there are people who think I am being dishonest -- but ultimately, that's not really my concern. Again, thank you to everyone who weighed in with constructive comments. I'm signing off!

[Anonymous]

I don't think most PPs felt you were dishonest for not sharing details, but as I posted - there are different views on safety issues. So you may get 1 set of replies if the nanny left the house w/ your kid in it or drove your child w/o a seatbelt vs. if she keeps letting your toddler take minor tumbles that you'd prefer she work to avoid. Views on safety are not universal.