Nanny as the gaurdian in our will?

[Anonymous]

The reason I suggest you are immature, PP, is that it should be OBVIOUS that OP should think this through carefully and consider the nature of their relationship. But I still don't think it's some terrible imposition to discuss with the nanny how she would feel about this. I am assuming that everyone involved is mature enough to have such a discussion without being weighed down by the epicness of the subject matter, whereas you seem to assume that they all would and should regard the conversation alone as a major life event, or they aren't taking it seriously enough. Talking is not doing. Bringing it up and getting a feel for the nanny's thoughts on the subject should be a huge drama. It should be a simple conversation expressing their love and appreciation for the nanny and her relationship with their child and noting that they are considering who to name as guardian and that her name came up. Then let her know she can think about it, but they wondered whether she would be at all open to it. The nanny takes a few days to proccess and then either says that she's honored but feels unprepared for such a committment, or that she would be happy to be there for the kids. Ta da! We were all adults and got through it without having to see a therapist.