Nanny asked cash advance before start date

[Anonymous]

"Clearly she has financial issues. thus needs an income. Deciding to NOT give a job to someone because they have money issues is sad. The reason she's applying is because she needs the steady incomes. "

no no no. 99.9% of people need an income/job. that is not at all the same as having financial issues. They are independent issues.

[Anonymous]

Oh wow I have been working at the same company for years and would never ask for advance pay from my boss, never mind a (potential) boss I haven't even started to work for yet.

OP, I personally would set boundaries right now. She has friends and family I assume so why isn't she asking them? If she doesn't have friends and family she can go to then you're going to be her 'go to' person each time she has a personal issue in her life.
She is already looking at you as a big piggy bank and she has the gulls to ask for money in advance.

Your money issues are not her problem. One she starts working for you, then you write her a check. Don't do it before hand or you're setting yourself up. You will be a sucker.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:"Clearly she has financial issues. thus needs an income. Deciding to NOT give a job to someone because they have money issues is sad. The reason she's applying is because she needs the steady incomes. "

no no no. 99.9% of people need an income/job. that is not at all the same as having financial issues. They are independent issues.

+1

[Anonymous]

It's okay to say no to her if you're uncomfortable, but don't let the fact that she asked be a deterrent. She's just being honest about her situation - it probably wasn't easy for her to ask, and it sounds like she's in a bit of a desperate situation. Don't feel bad if you don't want to lend her money upfront, but don't let the fact that she asked deter you from hiring her.

[Anonymous]

Don't do it. And make sure your money is kept out of sight in your home.

[Anonymous]

"Don't feel bad if you don't want to lend her money upfront, but don't let the fact that she asked deter you from hiring her. "

I posted earlier but am replying again to disagree strongly w/ this. Her asking is information in and of itself. It shows what she thinks is acceptable and I guarantee you she will be asking again for something else even if you say no now.

[Anonymous]

no bye bye!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[Anonymous]

Are you searching again?

[Anonymous]

I would not hire this person. as others have said, she is not financially repsonsible, and frankly, the idea of going to a new employer who just hired you and you have not started yet and ask for money advance is appalling. if she is so goodI assume she has worked for other families who must love her and appreciated her. why is she not asking her former employer to lend her the money? she could just sey that she will give it back with her first check, and if she has worked for years and is appreciated and trusted by this family she should not have any problem. frankly, the fact that she thought asking you could be fine is appalling and shows that she has not good judgment. and careful about believing that she is so good (did you check the references, are they real or any chance they are fake? - I remember I thread a while ago where an OP had found a fantastic nanny but the reference was so pushy that she finally realized something was off) and what she tells you about her situation. I frankly would consider this a red flag, and loosing the $400 would not even be my first concern, it would be leaving my kids in the hands of that person. I also agree with others that if she had to guts for this kind of request, this is not going to be the last "emergency"

[Anonymous]

It is a really tough call. Knowing how difficult and time-consuming it is to find a good nanny, if I were in your shoes I might end up doing it (knowing I could very well lose the money). If you do, I would just make it very, very clear that this is a one-time thing and you will not be able to do it again, ever. My sister got into trouble with a previous nanny because of advances. She ended up working off the money, but it turned into a difficult and unpleasant situation.

[Anonymous]

We decided not to give her the $400 but we did hire her. Perhaps I am incredibly naive but I think she is great and was in a tight spot. I didn't want to establish a relationship of advances but we do think she will do a great job with our children.

[Anonymous]

And I should note - we kept our search on our nanny site open should we need to replace her last minute.

[Anonymous]

OP - good luck (sincerely). I hope your instincts are proven right. If they are you will have lost nothing from being cautious.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP - good luck (sincerely). I hope your instincts are proven right. If they are you will have lost nothing from being cautious.

+1

I also hope it works out for all of you!

[Anonymous]

Usually tenants can pay their rent late as long as they pay a penalty. She should do this, and give her landlord a heads up that the rent will be late that month. Landlord might even waive the late fee.