When you call my refs..... BEWARE

[Anonymous]

I have former bosses who do this for me as well.

Very appreciated. The one time I didn't get the warning in time was a job I still occasionally regret wasting time on.

[Anonymous]

Cool story bro. Please tell it again.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Cool story bro. Please tell it again.

Please go away Troll.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:One of my previous MB's does this too. She actually warned me against a family that called her for a reference. Apparently they asked my former MB if she thought I would be willing to clean curtains, banisters, etc.

LOL

As opposed to just asking you?

[Anonymous]

Maybe the family knew that their nanny candidate would run if they asked her about her house cleaning skills. LOL

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Maybe the family knew that their nanny candidate would run if they asked her about her house cleaning skills. LOL

Isn't that all the more reason to ask? So you don't hire expecting housecleaning and end up with a nanny who can't/won't?

[Anonymous]

If you want a sitter and a housekeeper wrapped up in one person, you need to be clear about that in the beginning.

A professional nanny will not waste her time, or yours.

[Anonymous]

What's the best question, or answer, you've heard of?

[Anonymous]

If I were calling refs
I might ask the former MB
what kind of perks might the nanny appreciate

[Anonymous]

If you ever hear from a former MB that a potential employer candidate, asked about your compensation package, RUN.
Red Flag.
Obvious boundary issues. Next thing she'll be wanting to know what color panties you wear. Just not appropriate in the nanny world even if it is elsewhere.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If you ever hear from a former MB that a potential employer candidate, asked about your compensation package, RUN.
Red Flag.
Obvious boundary issues. Next thing she'll be wanting to know what color panties you wear. Just not appropriate in the nanny world even if it is elsewhere.

I don't understand how verifying compensation history is inappropriate. It's appropriate in any employment discussion- you have to provide this info and the potential employer should verify it. If you give me info you don't want me to verify, THAT is a red flag. A nanny like the PP who will argue that a nanny is a "professional" but should be exempt from any standard of any other professional environment is also a red flag.

[Anonymous]

It is not, and has never been, standard practice in the nanny industry, to demand details of former compensation.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If you ever hear from a former MB that a potential employer candidate, asked about your compensation package, RUN.
Red Flag.
Obvious boundary issues. Next thing she'll be wanting to know what color panties you wear. Just not appropriate in the nanny world even if it is elsewhere.

I don't understand how verifying compensation history is inappropriate. It's appropriate in any employment discussion- you have to provide this info and the potential employer should verify it. If you give me info you don't want me to verify, THAT is a red flag. A nanny like the PP who will argue that a nanny is a "professional" but should be exempt from any standard of any other professional environment is also a red flag.

Please don't pretend to know what you're talking. And God help us, don't tell us you're a lawyer.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If you ever hear from a former MB that a potential employer candidate, asked about your compensation package, RUN.
Red Flag.
Obvious boundary issues. Next thing she'll be wanting to know what color panties you wear. Just not appropriate in the nanny world even if it is elsewhere.

I don't understand how verifying compensation history is inappropriate. It's appropriate in any employment discussion- you have to provide this info and the potential employer should verify it. If you give me info you don't want me to verify, THAT is a red flag. A nanny like the PP who will argue that a nanny is a "professional" but should be exempt from any standard of any other professional environment is also a red flag.

In other industries its understood that someone with significant experience who has shown longevity at one place of employment rightfully expects to be offered a higher salary than their current one. This is not understood by nanny employers, most of whom have no hiring experience and unfortunately are as cheap as they come. If you ask my references what they paid me they will likely tell you off, then call me immediately to tell me you have boundary issues and are trying to low ball me. Offer what you feel is appropriate for the job, don't base it off her last salary.

[Anonymous]

Very well said.