My nanny just annoys me
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I sometimes think I am getting on my bosses nerves. I ask but she says that I am not. I'm not an extrovert but can switch back and forth.
You sound like my mother who just wants to be alone. I as a kid would seek other adults attention because my mom was a stay at home mom. She did stuff with us but I also know when she was reading a book I wasn't going to get her attention. Please keep your nanny because it makes a difference in your child's life. If she is getting on your nerves tell her. Say "hey X I just need quiet sometimes but I know you are doing a great job with my kids" |
Anonymous
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Op I'm an inttroverted nanny and I totally get where you're coming from. Extroverted people don't get it, and I'm guessing the rude pps fall into that category. Ignore them, they're useless menaces to society. I don't hav emuch advice. I don't think this is something you can fix other than by spending as little time with her as possible. I had a coworker like that years ago and I nicknamed her Yappy. Some days she drove me completely insane and other days I could tolerate her. In retrospect I think she had asbergers or something similar.
How long is your maternity leave? Can you sign the kids up for classes all morning so they're out of the house? My mb just gave birth so I have the kid at my house which is great for me bc I can sleep in a little...would you consider that? In any cas edon't feel guilty for not liking someone. She just rubs you the wrong way and that's that. I've stayed at jobs where the mom annoyed me and I figured what really mattered was how I felt about the kids, but thagt never ends well. Good luck! |
Anonymous
| Look after your own kids. You don't deserve a nice nanny. |
Anonymous
| OP, sounds like you might have hired our last nanny. Hope she actually shows up on time for you. Good thing we had an actual excuse to get rid of her because I'm not sure I could have taken it much longer. |
Anonymous
I'm laughing so hard at this. This is such a good description of perky people and the pain they inflict on introverts. I'm in the middle but my DH is an introvert. I can easily ignore perky people but they cause him pain and suffering. You're right that extroverts do not know what they are doing. Perkiness is not the same as being nice, its just being loud and always thinking out loud or needing to engage someone in constant conversation. Introverts can actually be much nicer and respectful of others. |
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Does she live w/ you? If so, no, I would not be able to take someone trying constantly to engage. It would exhaust me and as such would make me a worse mom since I would feel the need to "withdraw" even more.
If she's a live-out, then suck it up for maternity leave and do you best to wall yourself into a different part of the house. Create "my space"/"your sapce" areas and describe it as trying to make sure the kids know who's in charge and that you are not in her way. When you WAH it should be the same - you should basically be in your office for 95% of the work day so again, it's not that much time to deal with her if your kids adore her. |
Anonymous
| OP, your kids deserve a good nanny, but you also deserve a good working relationship with your employee. Find someone who's a good fit for the whole family. |
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+100000000000000 |
Anonymous
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OP- I am a nanny... and you and I sound IDENTICAL. You are hilarious. You deserve a nanny who is equally fantastic. It's like Larry David having to hang out with Amanda Bynes. Uhh, I don't think so.
I am an introvert, not super perky, and very dry and witty. Immediately people think "you're an introvert? how are you good with kids?" Here is the thing: I LOVE KIDS! I just have a dislike for people in general. They're annoying. I don't want to hear about how much money you saved buying jeans at American Eagle or about your "OMG BEST SMOOTHIE EVER, GIRL!" Stop talking to me until you have something intelligent or hilarious to add to the conversation. My problem is when I have to do group outings with other nannies- umm, no. I don't want to gush and giggle for three hours with you. No, we're not best friends. No, I don't "love ya girly!" either. And I DEFINITELY don't want to meet you for drinks during the weekend, so stop asking. I am GREAT with the kids, and they adore me. There is a difference between dry, sassy, and witty AND good with kids....and being Mary freaking Sunshine. |
Anonymous
you haven't been around a cock lately. have you? |
Anonymous
| PP- you're over 14 and still wearing american eagle jeans, aren't you? |
Anonymous
Wow. Not appropriate. |
Anonymous
You sound really insecure. |
Anonymous
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OP, perhaps your employee is the way she is because she doesn't think you like her and she overcompensating and stressed about it.
I used to have a nervous laugh when I was young too, and that was exactly the reason why. |
Anonymous
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Honestly I am a lot like your nanny and my first nanny job made me miserable because the mom was a total introvert but I loved those kids like they were my own (which in the long run made it really tough on mom because the kids would cheer her out the door and aparently cried for an hour after I left every day). I can also promise you that she will not want to be anywhere near the house when you are on maternity leave if she can help it. Honestly the worst thing on earth is a mom who stays home and has a nanny. Why not give her that time off or work something out that she doesn't have to be in the house bugging you and you will get some peace and quiet. I don't think you are evil for feeling this way but I think you would be doing a great disservice to your other kiddos who love her to get rid of her as you are transitioning into having another baby in the house.
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