Here's the thing about professional wear - it pretty much assumes you have no curves. I'm a lawyer and have to dress pretty mannish to avoid people like those on this thread thinking I'm on the prowl, not because of my behavior or shopping at Fredericks of Hollywood, just because of my waist-hip ratio. I cannot wear a sheath dress because if it's loose enough to not draw attention it turns me into a refrigerator and if it's tight enough to suit my figure suddenly I'm Jessica Rabbit. So all that's left is pantsuits in non-stretch fabrics.

But it took me several years to realize that though this isn't fair, it's what I'm stuck with. My more straight-shaped friends can wear business dresses and sheaths and look professional but also feminine. My smaller-chested friends can wear v-necks and not look like rent is due soon. It sucks, but it is what it is. If your girlfriend is fewer than 5 years out of law school she might be buying what she should be allowed to wear (literally anything, and certainly a sheath dress for a business office!) instead of what society will accept a curvy woman wearing (basically cosplay as a man to hide your curves or you're a whore).

Anonymous wrote:Not really a women’s rights issue. She has the right to wear it - presuming she’s not violating office dress policy. It’s that she’s wearing something sexy to work. That is a huge red flag. Why would see want sexual attention at work?

As a woman, I hate women who dress sexy at work. We work so hard for a seat at the table and to be taken seriously. Then someone does this and woman are again viewed threw the male gaze. It sets back all women who are working for respect based upon their talents and contributions.

And as a woman, I hate when women can’t spell the word “through”. It sets back all women who are working for respect based on our talents and contributions.

Guess we’re both going to have to live with our disappointments in other women.

Not really a women’s rights issue. She has the right to wear it - presuming she’s not violating office dress policy. It’s that she’s wearing something sexy to work. That is a huge red flag. Why would see want sexual attention at work?

As a woman, I hate women who dress sexy at work. We work so hard for a seat at the table and to be taken seriously. Then someone does this and woman are again viewed threw the male gaze. It sets back all women who are working for respect based upon their talents and contributions.

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Anonymous wrote:Red blooded male here with a girlfriend. I can’t help but notice sexy women in tight, revealing clothing. Most men are like me. If you’re a sexy woman and you wear sexy clothing, you will get sexual attention. So I don’t like my GF wearing it out when I’m not with her, and she doesn’t want a bunch of horndog men leering at her. So I’m with OP here. She is out trying to attract the attention of horndog men. And certainly succeeding because we are everywhere. Of course he doesn’t like it.

So when creepy men leer at women in body armor, mechanic overalls, sweat pants or medical scrubs, do you still blame the women?

If only someone would invent a clothing garment that could put a stop to this entirely preventable leering. We could insist women wear it outside the home. Oh, wait….

Your question is different from the one at hand. No one is blaming GF for wanting attention, if that’s what she wants. But it is valid for OP to be concerned about the attention GF is seeking while at work.

The PP is saying girlfriend shouldn’t wear a dress he finds sexy because gross men will be gross

Breaking News: Gross men will be gross regardless of what a woman is wearing. Wasn’t a woman sexually harassed literally asleep in body armor? It’s time to take the views of men out of decisions about what women wear.

This is disingenuous. Yes, gross men will be gross. And it's not appropriate for anyone to ask a woman to regulate her dress based on the gross men. HOWEVER, a woman can also dress in a way that is sexy, is intended to be sexy, and is intended to draw attention based on sexual interest. It is not unreasonable for a man in an exclusive relationship with that woman to be unhappy about his partner dressing in such a way for an event in which he has no involvement.

So what if she likes getting sexual attention? That doesn't mean she's going to act on it. Are you seriously arguing that, once they're in an exclusive relationship, women have to dress in a manner that never invites sexual attention (as if that were even possible)?

It sounds like she needs to talk to her significant other or a therapist, not pull out the freakum dress.

I pity the sheltered life you have led that a sheath dress with a low back is what you consider “freakum”.

There are support groups to help people reintegrate with society in a way that helps them understand that women have a right to wear whatever they want in U.S and all developed western cultures.

This is not about rIgHts, that’s a non sequitur. It’s about communication and mutual respect for your partner.

You sound selfish.

Your view of “communication and mutual respect” is that OP should be allowed to tell his girlfriend how to dress. It’s absolutely about respecting the rights of your partner to be an adult member of society who can choose how to dress.

Choose how to dress.
Choose to rock a pornstache.
Choose when he comes home at night.
Choose whether to buy random women friendly drinks or not.
Choose to get a face tattoo.

Yup, every adult has rights!! Women don’t EVER comment on this sort of thing from their SO’s, nor should they! Sounds like a recipe for success.

Business slut is my favorite dress up game!

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Anonymous wrote:Red blooded male here with a girlfriend. I can’t help but notice sexy women in tight, revealing clothing. Most men are like me. If you’re a sexy woman and you wear sexy clothing, you will get sexual attention. So I don’t like my GF wearing it out when I’m not with her, and she doesn’t want a bunch of horndog men leering at her. So I’m with OP here. She is out trying to attract the attention of horndog men. And certainly succeeding because we are everywhere. Of course he doesn’t like it.

So when creepy men leer at women in body armor, mechanic overalls, sweat pants or medical scrubs, do you still blame the women?

If only someone would invent a clothing garment that could put a stop to this entirely preventable leering. We could insist women wear it outside the home. Oh, wait….

Your question is different from the one at hand. No one is blaming GF for wanting attention, if that’s what she wants. But it is valid for OP to be concerned about the attention GF is seeking while at work.

The PP is saying girlfriend shouldn’t wear a dress he finds sexy because gross men will be gross

Breaking News: Gross men will be gross regardless of what a woman is wearing. Wasn’t a woman sexually harassed literally asleep in body armor? It’s time to take the views of men out of decisions about what women wear.

This is disingenuous. Yes, gross men will be gross. And it's not appropriate for anyone to ask a woman to regulate her dress based on the gross men. HOWEVER, a woman can also dress in a way that is sexy, is intended to be sexy, and is intended to draw attention based on sexual interest. It is not unreasonable for a man in an exclusive relationship with that woman to be unhappy about his partner dressing in such a way for an event in which he has no involvement.

So what if she likes getting sexual attention? That doesn't mean she's going to act on it. Are you seriously arguing that, once they're in an exclusive relationship, women have to dress in a manner that never invites sexual attention (as if that were even possible)?

It sounds like she needs to talk to her significant other or a therapist, not pull out the freakum dress.

I pity the sheltered life you have led that a sheath dress with a low back is what you consider “freakum”.

There are support groups to help people reintegrate with society in a way that helps them understand that women have a right to wear whatever they want in U.S and all developed western cultures.

This is not about rIgHts, that’s a non sequitur. It’s about communication and mutual respect for your partner.

You sound selfish.

Your view of “communication and mutual respect” is that OP should be allowed to tell his girlfriend how to dress. It’s absolutely about respecting the rights of your partner to be an adult member of society who can choose how to dress.

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Anonymous wrote:Wow, the difference with this thread is quite stark. I'm sure there will be justifications for why this is dIfFeReNt.

Some of you ladies probably need to have a word with yourself.

https://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/531408.page

Mmhmm. Why don't you try imagining the responses if OP said his GF had gained 15lbs and was still wearing the same pants, wore clothing and shoes with holes in them, and cut her own hair and missed some spots? Universal support for her I'm sure.

Pretty much. Or it would be “what did you do to make her gain the weight?” “How can you be a more supportive partner?”

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Anonymous wrote:Red blooded male here with a girlfriend. I can’t help but notice sexy women in tight, revealing clothing. Most men are like me. If you’re a sexy woman and you wear sexy clothing, you will get sexual attention. So I don’t like my GF wearing it out when I’m not with her, and she doesn’t want a bunch of horndog men leering at her. So I’m with OP here. She is out trying to attract the attention of horndog men. And certainly succeeding because we are everywhere. Of course he doesn’t like it.

So when creepy men leer at women in body armor, mechanic overalls, sweat pants or medical scrubs, do you still blame the women?

If only someone would invent a clothing garment that could put a stop to this entirely preventable leering. We could insist women wear it outside the home. Oh, wait….

Your question is different from the one at hand. No one is blaming GF for wanting attention, if that’s what she wants. But it is valid for OP to be concerned about the attention GF is seeking while at work.

The PP is saying girlfriend shouldn’t wear a dress he finds sexy because gross men will be gross

Breaking News: Gross men will be gross regardless of what a woman is wearing. Wasn’t a woman sexually harassed literally asleep in body armor? It’s time to take the views of men out of decisions about what women wear.

This is disingenuous. Yes, gross men will be gross. And it's not appropriate for anyone to ask a woman to regulate her dress based on the gross men. HOWEVER, a woman can also dress in a way that is sexy, is intended to be sexy, and is intended to draw attention based on sexual interest. It is not unreasonable for a man in an exclusive relationship with that woman to be unhappy about his partner dressing in such a way for an event in which he has no involvement.

So what if she likes getting sexual attention? That doesn't mean she's going to act on it. Are you seriously arguing that, once they're in an exclusive relationship, women have to dress in a manner that never invites sexual attention (as if that were even possible)?

She can do what she wants. But, if she's in an exclusive relationship, her significant other is not unreasonable for not being happy about her seeking sexual attention from others. From there, they can either work it out or not. Neither of them is wrong.

Anonymous wrote:Wow, the difference with this thread is quite stark. I'm sure there will be justifications for why this is dIfFeReNt.

Some of you ladies probably need to have a word with yourself.

https://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/531408.page

Mmhmm. Why don't you try imagining the responses if OP said his GF had gained 15lbs and was still wearing the same pants, wore clothing and shoes with holes in them, and cut her own hair and missed some spots? Universal support for her I'm sure.

Why do you think you know better than her what is appropriate at her office?

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Anonymous wrote:Red blooded male here with a girlfriend. I can’t help but notice sexy women in tight, revealing clothing. Most men are like me. If you’re a sexy woman and you wear sexy clothing, you will get sexual attention. So I don’t like my GF wearing it out when I’m not with her, and she doesn’t want a bunch of horndog men leering at her. So I’m with OP here. She is out trying to attract the attention of horndog men. And certainly succeeding because we are everywhere. Of course he doesn’t like it.

So when creepy men leer at women in body armor, mechanic overalls, sweat pants or medical scrubs, do you still blame the women?

If only someone would invent a clothing garment that could put a stop to this entirely preventable leering. We could insist women wear it outside the home. Oh, wait….

Your question is different from the one at hand. No one is blaming GF for wanting attention, if that’s what she wants. But it is valid for OP to be concerned about the attention GF is seeking while at work.

The PP is saying girlfriend shouldn’t wear a dress he finds sexy because gross men will be gross

Breaking News: Gross men will be gross regardless of what a woman is wearing. Wasn’t a woman sexually harassed literally asleep in body armor? It’s time to take the views of men out of decisions about what women wear.

This is disingenuous. Yes, gross men will be gross. And it's not appropriate for anyone to ask a woman to regulate her dress based on the gross men. HOWEVER, a woman can also dress in a way that is sexy, is intended to be sexy, and is intended to draw attention based on sexual interest. It is not unreasonable for a man in an exclusive relationship with that woman to be unhappy about his partner dressing in such a way for an event in which he has no involvement.

So what if she likes getting sexual attention? That doesn't mean she's going to act on it. Are you seriously arguing that, once they're in an exclusive relationship, women have to dress in a manner that never invites sexual attention (as if that were even possible)?

It sounds like she needs to talk to her significant other or a therapist, not pull out the freakum dress.

I pity the sheltered life you have led that a sheath dress with a low back is what you consider “freakum”.

There are support groups to help people reintegrate with society in a way that helps them understand that women have a right to wear whatever they want in U.S and all developed western cultures.

This is not about rIgHts, that’s a non sequitur. It’s about communication and mutual respect for your partner.

You sound selfish.

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Anonymous wrote:Red blooded male here with a girlfriend. I can’t help but notice sexy women in tight, revealing clothing. Most men are like me. If you’re a sexy woman and you wear sexy clothing, you will get sexual attention. So I don’t like my GF wearing it out when I’m not with her, and she doesn’t want a bunch of horndog men leering at her. So I’m with OP here. She is out trying to attract the attention of horndog men. And certainly succeeding because we are everywhere. Of course he doesn’t like it.

So when creepy men leer at women in body armor, mechanic overalls, sweat pants or medical scrubs, do you still blame the women?

If only someone would invent a clothing garment that could put a stop to this entirely preventable leering. We could insist women wear it outside the home. Oh, wait….

Your question is different from the one at hand. No one is blaming GF for wanting attention, if that’s what she wants. But it is valid for OP to be concerned about the attention GF is seeking while at work.

The PP is saying girlfriend shouldn’t wear a dress he finds sexy because gross men will be gross

Breaking News: Gross men will be gross regardless of what a woman is wearing. Wasn’t a woman sexually harassed literally asleep in body armor? It’s time to take the views of men out of decisions about what women wear.

This is disingenuous. Yes, gross men will be gross. And it's not appropriate for anyone to ask a woman to regulate her dress based on the gross men. HOWEVER, a woman can also dress in a way that is sexy, is intended to be sexy, and is intended to draw attention based on sexual interest. It is not unreasonable for a man in an exclusive relationship with that woman to be unhappy about his partner dressing in such a way for an event in which he has no involvement.

So what if she likes getting sexual attention? That doesn't mean she's going to act on it. Are you seriously arguing that, once they're in an exclusive relationship, women have to dress in a manner that never invites sexual attention (as if that were even possible)?

It sounds like she needs to talk to her significant other or a therapist, not pull out the freakum dress.

I pity the sheltered life you have led that a sheath dress with a low back is what you consider “freakum”.

There are support groups to help people reintegrate with society in a way that helps them understand that women have a right to wear whatever they want in U.S and all developed western cultures.

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Anonymous wrote:Red blooded male here with a girlfriend. I can’t help but notice sexy women in tight, revealing clothing. Most men are like me. If you’re a sexy woman and you wear sexy clothing, you will get sexual attention. So I don’t like my GF wearing it out when I’m not with her, and she doesn’t want a bunch of horndog men leering at her. So I’m with OP here. She is out trying to attract the attention of horndog men. And certainly succeeding because we are everywhere. Of course he doesn’t like it.

So when creepy men leer at women in body armor, mechanic overalls, sweat pants or medical scrubs, do you still blame the women?

If only someone would invent a clothing garment that could put a stop to this entirely preventable leering. We could insist women wear it outside the home. Oh, wait….

Your question is different from the one at hand. No one is blaming GF for wanting attention, if that’s what she wants. But it is valid for OP to be concerned about the attention GF is seeking while at work.

The PP is saying girlfriend shouldn’t wear a dress he finds sexy because gross men will be gross

Breaking News: Gross men will be gross regardless of what a woman is wearing. Wasn’t a woman sexually harassed literally asleep in body armor? It’s time to take the views of men out of decisions about what women wear.

This is disingenuous. Yes, gross men will be gross. And it's not appropriate for anyone to ask a woman to regulate her dress based on the gross men. HOWEVER, a woman can also dress in a way that is sexy, is intended to be sexy, and is intended to draw attention based on sexual interest. It is not unreasonable for a man in an exclusive relationship with that woman to be unhappy about his partner dressing in such a way for an event in which he has no involvement.

So what if she likes getting sexual attention? That doesn't mean she's going to act on it. Are you seriously arguing that, once they're in an exclusive relationship, women have to dress in a manner that never invites sexual attention (as if that were even possible)?

It sounds like she needs to talk to her significant other or a therapist, not pull out the freakum dress.

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Anonymous wrote:Red blooded male here with a girlfriend. I can’t help but notice sexy women in tight, revealing clothing. Most men are like me. If you’re a sexy woman and you wear sexy clothing, you will get sexual attention. So I don’t like my GF wearing it out when I’m not with her, and she doesn’t want a bunch of horndog men leering at her. So I’m with OP here. She is out trying to attract the attention of horndog men. And certainly succeeding because we are everywhere. Of course he doesn’t like it.

So when creepy men leer at women in body armor, mechanic overalls, sweat pants or medical scrubs, do you still blame the women?

If only someone would invent a clothing garment that could put a stop to this entirely preventable leering. We could insist women wear it outside the home. Oh, wait….

Your question is different from the one at hand. No one is blaming GF for wanting attention, if that’s what she wants. But it is valid for OP to be concerned about the attention GF is seeking while at work.

The PP is saying girlfriend shouldn’t wear a dress he finds sexy because gross men will be gross

Breaking News: Gross men will be gross regardless of what a woman is wearing. Wasn’t a woman sexually harassed literally asleep in body armor? It’s time to take the views of men out of decisions about what women wear.

This is disingenuous. Yes, gross men will be gross. And it's not appropriate for anyone to ask a woman to regulate her dress based on the gross men. HOWEVER, a woman can also dress in a way that is sexy, is intended to be sexy, and is intended to draw attention based on sexual interest. It is not unreasonable for a man in an exclusive relationship with that woman to be unhappy about his partner dressing in such a way for an event in which he has no involvement.

So what if she likes getting sexual attention? That doesn't mean she's going to act on it. Are you seriously arguing that, once they're in an exclusive relationship, women have to dress in a manner that never invites sexual attention (as if that were even possible)?

Wow, the difference with this thread is quite stark. I'm sure there will be justifications for why this is dIfFeReNt.

Some of you ladies probably need to have a word with yourself.

https://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/531408.page