Is this you OP?

https://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/1277046.page

I was like you when dating at 31 (I had married younger and gotten divorced, my call, with no kids). I had cleaners because I don't like to clean, I ate out or ordered in a fair bit because I was busy (although I like to cook and am good at it), I paid for conveniences like dog walkers, gardeners, etc. because I was busy (work and social), I spent money on massages, travel, nice clothes, etc., but I could afford it all. My husband knew exactly what he was getting and I still spend money on most of those things and I still work. Now we have kids so we have added expenses obviously but I've made more money every year so it's not an issue, plus he works as well. Anyway, OP, I didn't find it to be an issue so hopefully you won't either.

PP, I just saw what autocorrect did to my post. “Miserly” homebody!

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:1. Can you pay for those so-called high maintenance things?

2. Can you take care of all of your needs, even if you hire out (cooking, cleaning)?

3. Are you polite to people who wait on you or otherwise don’t have power over you?

If you answered yes to all three, you are fine. And if any guy gives you a hard time, ask him to explain the reason. If the reason is dumb, give him a miss.

1. Yes.

2. Yes

3. Yes. I am from the midwest and extremely nice. I’m kind to everyone and also tip well. Even sucky service gets pleasantry and a 10% tip. I would never be rude to anyone. I’m not above anyone either.

You are fine. You live an expensive lifestyle. That is not the same as being high maintenance.
You can afford that expensive lifestyle and that's ok.
Find a man who can afford the same expensive lifestyle and you'll be fine.
You sound like a nice woman. I would date you.

This is all the correct answer, OP. (I’m a woman, so can’t answer directly for men, but I’m much older than you and have known a lot of people in a lot of different kinds of relationships. You sounds like a nice person, flexible when necessary, who works a lot and in exchange wants some luxury, relaxation, and adventure in your rare time off. Find a partner who fits with that approach — ie, not a mosey homebody — and you two can happily try new restaurants together for decades to come.)

Anonymous wrote:36 band size is fat

I wouldn’t say fat, but I was thinking the same. I’m a 36c and I wouldn’t call myself petite lol.

Anonymous wrote:You better look like Ana de Armas and be open to anal on the first date with that attitude.

Do you tell all your first dates you’re into pegging? Seems like something you’d wait to share.