Anonymous
04/19/2014 10:57
Subject: How to feel about wife going dancing / clubing
Oh who gives a shit? If you're so damn insecure about your wife going out with her friends clubbing, how about go out dancing with her once in a while or do your own gno? No, most women will not cover up head to toe when going out. If it's such an issue, move to the Middle East.
Anonymous
04/19/2014 10:26
Subject: How to feel about wife going dancing / clubing
Anonymous wrote:I noticed you didn't address if men were doing this and dressing up "for the fellas."
I also noticed you ignore the numerous posts by women here in DCUM who go through great lengths to "prove" their husbands are simply feeling insecure to protect getting caught from actual affairs.
I don't know what men do or how the male social structure works. Unless it's blatantly macho and out of character, I don't notice what happens between you guys. I'm talking about the communication that happens between women.
What are you talking about? Who's having an affair?
Anonymous
04/19/2014 09:50
Subject: How to feel about wife going dancing / clubing
I noticed you didn't address if men were doing this and dressing up "for the fellas."
I also noticed you ignore the numerous posts by women here in DCUM who go through great lengths to "prove" their husbands are simply feeling insecure to protect getting caught from actual affairs.
I also noticed you ignore the numerous posts by women here in DCUM who go through great lengths to "prove" their husbands are simply feeling insecure to protect getting caught from actual affairs.
Anonymous
04/19/2014 09:38
Subject: How to feel about wife going dancing / clubing
Anonymous wrote:If you buy a pair of "in season" white shorts and show them off to other women, I get it.
When you buy a short skirt and really high heels to "go out with the girls," let's not pretend that you and all your girls are vying for attention of men, unless you really are hoping the girls are loving the cleavage and tightness of your ass.
The guys who believe this nonsense deserve their sexless lives.
It must suck to be in a marriage without trust.
Anonymous
04/19/2014 09:37
Subject: How to feel about wife going dancing / clubing
Anonymous wrote:Sounds like fight club... Rule number 1 – don't talk about fight club.
In this case, women are defending other women and pretending that they are only dressing to impress other women. The reality is, smart women know other women may make nice comments where as the men will simply take them out to the car or some room and "show" them just how hot they look in said outfit.
IF, and only if, these same women are ok with their men grooming up and going out with the guys to clubs (or wherever), then it's ok. The moment their men are "not allowed" to to "because it's different with men," just know your woman is controlling you and/or cheating.
I'm explaining something you seem clueless about, not defending anyone.
Why isn't it controlling when men tell their women how they should dress? Where in this thread is a woman suggesting we need to tell our guys what to wear?
Anonymous
04/19/2014 09:04
Subject: How to feel about wife going dancing / clubing
^Let's not pretend you aren't vying...
Anonymous
04/19/2014 09:03
Subject: How to feel about wife going dancing / clubing
If you buy a pair of "in season" white shorts and show them off to other women, I get it.
When you buy a short skirt and really high heels to "go out with the girls," let's not pretend that you and all your girls are vying for attention of men, unless you really are hoping the girls are loving the cleavage and tightness of your ass.
The guys who believe this nonsense deserve their sexless lives.
When you buy a short skirt and really high heels to "go out with the girls," let's not pretend that you and all your girls are vying for attention of men, unless you really are hoping the girls are loving the cleavage and tightness of your ass.
The guys who believe this nonsense deserve their sexless lives.
Anonymous
04/19/2014 08:59
Subject: How to feel about wife going dancing / clubing
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Women also dress up for men.
Maybe some do, but it's different. Something too revealing will get attention from men, but lots of negative attention from other women.
Do you have any idea how irritating it is to spend a lot of time getting ready to hear something like "I think you looked fine in those shorts" from your guy? They just don't appreciate it like a woman does. My gay male friends are also known to make catty and biting remarks about how a woman dresses.
Most women who go on dates (with men) dress up for the occasion - not to impress their girlfriends but as a way of being attractive for the man. Saying the men don't notice what you are wearing at all and that you aren't dressing up to be noticed / having men find you attractive is ridiculous. My girlfriends don't care how I dress, I don't need to impress them, or attract them.
Anonymous
04/19/2014 08:56
Subject: How to feel about wife going dancing / clubing
Sounds like fight club... Rule number 1 – don't talk about fight club.
In this case, women are defending other women and pretending that they are only dressing to impress other women. The reality is, smart women know other women may make nice comments where as the men will simply take them out to the car or some room and "show" them just how hot they look in said outfit.
IF, and only if, these same women are ok with their men grooming up and going out with the guys to clubs (or wherever), then it's ok. The moment their men are "not allowed" to to "because it's different with men," just know your woman is controlling you and/or cheating.
In this case, women are defending other women and pretending that they are only dressing to impress other women. The reality is, smart women know other women may make nice comments where as the men will simply take them out to the car or some room and "show" them just how hot they look in said outfit.
IF, and only if, these same women are ok with their men grooming up and going out with the guys to clubs (or wherever), then it's ok. The moment their men are "not allowed" to to "because it's different with men," just know your woman is controlling you and/or cheating.
Anonymous
04/19/2014 08:01
Subject: How to feel about wife going dancing / clubing
Anonymous wrote:Women also dress up for men.
Maybe some do, but it's different. Something too revealing will get attention from men, but lots of negative attention from other women.
Do you have any idea how irritating it is to spend a lot of time getting ready to hear something like "I think you looked fine in those shorts" from your guy? They just don't appreciate it like a woman does. My gay male friends are also known to make catty and biting remarks about how a woman dresses.
youngblackdude
04/18/2014 22:37
Subject: Re:How to feel about wife going dancing / clubing
I can't say "my wife" since I was never married but an ex girlfriend of mines always felt the need to go clubbing every week.sometimes soon as she came from club she would come over to see me but I never liked that.I felt the club was a spot for people to mingle ..did my ex ever meet & keep in contact with a guy she met in the club? I don't know but i wouldn't be surprised if she did..you have every right to be the way you do about that situation.
Anonymous
04/18/2014 21:25
Subject: How to feel about wife going dancing / clubing
Women also dress up for men.
Anonymous
04/18/2014 20:32
Subject: How to feel about wife going dancing / clubing
I dress nicely and put on makeup when having female friends over for a get together or going to their homes. I have never been remotely attracted to another female. I don't think it's out of the realm of possibility to assume that a married women is not dressing up for men at clubs when going out.
Anonymous
04/18/2014 19:48
Subject: How to feel about wife going dancing / clubing
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:That's just it. The only occasion she's willing to dress like that for is "out with her friends."
Since one doesn't need to go as far as skirt and heels in a club (unless it's for attention or more), she could tone it down a bit.
Again, when she's dressing "up" for everyone BUT you, it's a problem. Any guy who accepts "Deal with it" is already tasting another man when he tastes his wife.
Women are the ones who notice the dressing up effort. It's not done to impress men. Tbh, men are a bit clueless about all the attention to detail and fashion trends.
A woman at work once told me that women dress for other women.
It's a pecking order thing.
There's a thread in the Beauty and Fashion forum asking what we think about fashionable moms: http://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/378512.page
Notice they're not talking about what men like.
Anonymous
04/18/2014 17:31
Subject: How to feel about wife going dancing / clubing
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:That's just it. The only occasion she's willing to dress like that for is "out with her friends."
Since one doesn't need to go as far as skirt and heels in a club (unless it's for attention or more), she could tone it down a bit.
Again, when she's dressing "up" for everyone BUT you, it's a problem. Any guy who accepts "Deal with it" is already tasting another man when he tastes his wife.
Women are the ones who notice the dressing up effort. It's not done to impress men. Tbh, men are a bit clueless about all the attention to detail and fashion trends.
A woman at work once told me that women dress for other women.