Anonymous wrote:You said you were taking it slow, not being exclusive, and not having slept together. You were taking it too slow.

Anonymous wrote:Aww, hugs op. Dating is hard no matter what the circumstances. It’s okay to be sad.

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Anonymous wrote:He is still living with his wife and out skank8ng around.
Why are you crying over this douche?

This. Girl I know it hurts but you dodged a bullet!

He picked the one that would sleep with him the fastest. Typical. He'll circle back to you at some point but I hope you don't entertain dating him again!

I wouldn't assume he'll circle back. It isn't just separated/divorced men who are interested in regular sex.

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Anonymous wrote:Both you and this guy are both literally still married. Irrespective of whatever this guy did, *You* need to slow down.

Op here. I know! This is why I did not want to rush into anything and take it slow. When we met on Hinge, he still lived in the same house as his ex-wife and he was so vulnerable and new at all of this. I enjoyed his company and we clicked but I didn’t want to be used as a rebound or for him to transfer all of his unresolved feelings onto me. I said let’s take it slow and gather our bearings and especially to give him time to move out and build his independent life.

Meanwhile we saw each other once a week; had makeout sessions; texting all day and calling each other. We had a connection and a natural way of relating to each other. I helped him pick out his new apartment and went shopping with him a few times to help him get stuff for his new kitchen. We spent a romantic valentines day together.

I knew were not exclusive but felt pretty secure we are building toward something we so sort out our personal lives and logistics.

So color me surprised that he apparently built a “strong connection” with this other woman behind my Back. When I asked him what they had in common he said that she was different than me, a single mom who parented similar to him and they had a similar sense of humor. She also expressed interest in him and chased him and wanted sex early on while I was taking it slow. She wanted to see and meet him spontaneously and he liked that.

I didn’t sleep at all last night and I’m trying to pick myself back up.

Taking it slow is not limited to merely not sleeping together or claiming exclusivity. You are super emotionally invested, texting all day long, as well as physically all riled up from making out with no sex. And you still aren’t even divorced yourself.

I don’t know the specifics obviously, but based on simple life wisdom, I fear you are on the path of repeating the same mistakes you made in your failed marriage.

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Anonymous wrote:Both you and this guy are both literally still married. Irrespective of whatever this guy did, *You* need to slow down.

Op here. I know! This is why I did not want to rush into anything and take it slow. When we met on Hinge, he still lived in the same house as his ex-wife and he was so vulnerable and new at all of this. I enjoyed his company and we clicked but I didn’t want to be used as a rebound or for him to transfer all of his unresolved feelings onto me. I said let’s take it slow and gather our bearings and especially to give him time to move out and build his independent life.

Meanwhile we saw each other once a week; had makeout sessions; texting all day and calling each other. We had a connection and a natural way of relating to each other. I helped him pick out his new apartment and went shopping with him a few times to help him get stuff for his new kitchen. We spent a romantic valentines day together.

I knew were not exclusive but felt pretty secure we are building toward something we so sort out our personal lives and logistics.

So color me surprised that he apparently built a “strong connection” with this other woman behind my Back. When I asked him what they had in common he said that she was different than me, a single mom who parented similar to him and they had a similar sense of humor. She also expressed interest in him and chased him and wanted sex early on while I was taking it slow. She wanted to see and meet him spontaneously and he liked that.

I didn’t sleep at all last night and I’m trying to pick myself back up.

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Anonymous wrote:Is this your post too, OP?

https://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/1311796.page

Op here. Yes that is me! It sounds like the woman he started seeing a month ago is the one he decided to be exclusive with. I should have just ended it then. 😣

Anonymous wrote:Is this your post too, OP?

https://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/1311796.page

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Anonymous wrote:He is still living with his wife and out skank8ng around.
Why are you crying over this douche?

He moved into an apartment last weekend. I met him to help him shop a little bit.

I had no idea there was another woman in the picture who he was super serious with. I feel like such a fool!

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Anonymous wrote:You’re giving a bit thirsty.
You two are newly separated ,not exclusive and he’s still living w his wife and dating

He’s entitled to sleep w whoever he wants .. You too.

"You're giving a bit thirsty?"

Wut. Can you try using English? She's giving what to whom? That phrasing doesn't make any sense.

I knew exactly what she was saying grandpa.

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Anonymous wrote:You’re giving a bit thirsty.
You two are newly separated ,not exclusive and he’s still living w his wife and dating

He’s entitled to sleep w whoever he wants .. You too.

"You're giving a bit thirsty?"

Wut. Can you try using English? She's giving what to whom? That phrasing doesn't make any sense.

I knew exactly what she was saying grandpa.