Anonymous wrote:I never assume my dog is welcome unless I’m expressly told she is. And I never ask.

Anonymous wrote:My husband is allergic so we have that excuse to not allow dogs. Maybe one of the people who will be at the house has an "allergy" and will play along?

Anonymous wrote:I’m the OP of the thread below. My advice is to stand firm, brace for impact, ride it out and emerge with a dog free event. Good luck!

https://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/815420.page

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Anonymous wrote:It never ceases to amaze me what entitled a**holes dog owners can be. Who the he** do they think they are? Your house. Your rules. No dogs. Period.

This goes both ways. OP is being sort of inflexible here. THere are some options in between. But it's "Her New House." Get over it sweetie. Wait until you have kids.

No, not really. It really is abnormal to expect that an invitation to a person's house or event includes your animals. They are not part of your family. They are animals. Animals. They don't get invited places.

Anonymous wrote:Tell them they need to be leashed and kept an eye one,no running free for all through the house. This happened to me where the dog jumped up and peed on an upholstered chair, the owner thought it was funny.

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Anonymous wrote:OP here. These responses are really helpful, thanks. No there is no tradition of people bringing dogs to the holidays. For one family it is a brand new dog (they’ve had it for less than a year) and the other family is usually excluded from family gatherings but they live close so we invited them. It had never occurred to me they would want to bring dogs to such a crowded gathering until they mentioned it.

Oh boy. So the new dog family has no experience how their dog will handle being around a lot of other people never mind another dog.

And the other family is not part of whatever tradition there is. (why is the other family "usually excluded"? did you just mean they don't ordinarily attend but are coming because you live close?)

I say no, unless they agree the dogs will be kenneled outside/in garage to accommodate if they don't have available dog sitting arrangements. Seriously, you do NOT know how two dogs will interact with each other or a lot of people they are not used to being around a lot. I speak as another dog owner who is pretty comfortable with chaos and lets pets on the furniture.

Anonymous wrote:OP here. These responses are really helpful, thanks. No there is no tradition of people bringing dogs to the holidays. For one family it is a brand new dog (they’ve had it for less than a year) and the other family is usually excluded from family gatherings but they live close so we invited them. It had never occurred to me they would want to bring dogs to such a crowded gathering until they mentioned it.

Anonymous wrote:No dogs indoors. That's completely reasonable. You can allow them outside or in the garage, but I wouldn't let them in the house. Presumably you've seen how these dogs behave at previous events, and they don't sound well behaved (sticking their faces in people's food, jumping on furniture) and their owners don't seem to care enough to keep them in check.

It is not reasonable to expect to bring your dog everywhere you go, regardless of the hosts' wishes. The only compromise I'd accept is that the dogs be crated the entire time they are in my house, period, or else they stay outdoors.

Anonymous wrote:If I’ve always gone to Aunt Maude’s house for Thanksgiving and brought my dog and now you want to host but not allow my dog or say it has to stay in the garage, I am going to request that we move it back to Aunt Maude’s house. I think it’s fair for you to say no dogs on couch , beds etc.

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Anonymous wrote:I’m a dog lover but my sister’s dogs ruin pretty much every thanksgiving. They shred my parents’ leather couch, claw the woodwork, bark nonstop and beg for food. They get really aggressive mostly with my toddlers while they eat and try to knock food out of their hands. So then for dinners and actual Thanksgiving we have them barricaded. But then they howl…. It’s never ending. My parents allow them because otherwise they wouldn’t see my sister.

I actually have a small dog we bring and my parents have a dog too (theirs is big like my sisters) but our dogs just lay in the corner on their beds and behave. Same with my brother before his dog died. The difference is crazy. My dog wouldn’t even dream of begging for food. Some dogs are basically animals and can’t be civilized.

"Some " dogs?? All dogs ate animals! You should have said " some owners train their dogs to behave and some don't. All dogs can be trained and uncivilized

Anonymous wrote:I’m a dog lover but my sister’s dogs ruin pretty much every thanksgiving. They shred my parents’ leather couch, claw the woodwork, bark nonstop and beg for food. They get really aggressive mostly with my toddlers while they eat and try to knock food out of their hands. So then for dinners and actual Thanksgiving we have them barricaded. But then they howl…. It’s never ending. My parents allow them because otherwise they wouldn’t see my sister.

I actually have a small dog we bring and my parents have a dog too (theirs is big like my sisters) but our dogs just lay in the corner on their beds and behave. Same with my brother before his dog died. The difference is crazy. My dog wouldn’t even dream of begging for food. Some dogs are basically animals and can’t be civilized.