Anonymous wrote:NACAC openings came out early with openings at Boston University. OP if your student is still looking, ask your guidance counselor to call on his behalf. My kid applied a few years back and the supplemental was a Why BU 250 words.

also on the list this year: Fl state, Ohio state, Colorado state and college of Wooster.

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Anonymous wrote:I give up. It’s hard to to stay optimistic. He worked his ass off at his private school, got mid-1500 on his SAT, continued his in person volunteering throughout the pandemic (which I was not excited about, but he wanted to do it). He has had one B+ his entire 4 years of college, the rest As. His teachers speak highly of him and I believe they must have written good letters.

His counselor said his list was solid. He’s been waitlisted or rejected nearly everywhere. He has one acceptance to a “likely” and that’s it. Only one place teaming and it’s a huge reach, esp this year.

It’s hard to stay positive, happy, and upbeat for my kid. He is unexcited about the one place he got in. I know I should try to point out the positives of getting in that one place but it is so hard. I wish he would defer and take a gap year. I brought it up once but he said he isn’t interested.

I’m not thrilled with his college counselor at school. She hasn’t even checked in on his to see how he is doing. I give up on that process too. He is crushed. I am crushed for him.

I’d anyone else having this horrible of a situation? And please don’t say, “my love sucks too, my daughter only got into Emory and not Brown” or some such nonsense. His safety he got in is a safety for everyone.

This is the part that doesn't make sense. He shouldn't be stuck with a true "safety for everyone" type school if he has > 1500 and near straight As. Did he take APs? How did he do on the tests?

Not OP, but have a friend with DC in similar boat - perfect subject test scores, perfect SAT, straight As, varsity athlete, consistent ECs. W/Led @ ED1/ED2 at an Ivy, top SLAC. Rejected EA at two top publics. WLed @ some others. Admitted at a safety which doesn't crack top 100 national universities or top 50 public universities lists. Still hopes to get in off WL at the more competitive schools.

Def happening this year for White or Asian males...

Right. no one wants straight white males without a cool/differentiating hook at the elites (varsity athletics is not a hook). They need a hook/unusual story or unprecedented adversity. At least the ones I know who got into highly selective (with worse scores) had one of those things if they were a straight white male.

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Anonymous wrote:I give up. It’s hard to to stay optimistic. He worked his ass off at his private school, got mid-1500 on his SAT, continued his in person volunteering throughout the pandemic (which I was not excited about, but he wanted to do it). He has had one B+ his entire 4 years of college, the rest As. His teachers speak highly of him and I believe they must have written good letters.

His counselor said his list was solid. He’s been waitlisted or rejected nearly everywhere. He has one acceptance to a “likely” and that’s it. Only one place teaming and it’s a huge reach, esp this year.

It’s hard to stay positive, happy, and upbeat for my kid. He is unexcited about the one place he got in. I know I should try to point out the positives of getting in that one place but it is so hard. I wish he would defer and take a gap year. I brought it up once but he said he isn’t interested.

I’m not thrilled with his college counselor at school. She hasn’t even checked in on his to see how he is doing. I give up on that process too. He is crushed. I am crushed for him.

I’d anyone else having this horrible of a situation? And please don’t say, “my love sucks too, my daughter only got into Emory and not Brown” or some such nonsense. His safety he got in is a safety for everyone.

This is the part that doesn't make sense. He shouldn't be stuck with a true "safety for everyone" type school if he has > 1500 and near straight As. Did he take APs? How did he do on the tests?

Not OP, but have a friend with DC in similar boat - perfect subject test scores, perfect SAT, straight As, varsity athlete, consistent ECs. W/Led @ ED1/ED2 at an Ivy, top SLAC. Rejected EA at two top publics. WLed @ some others. Admitted at a safety which doesn't crack top 100 national universities or top 50 public universities lists. Still hopes to get in off WL at the more competitive schools.

Def happening this year for White or Asian males...

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Anonymous wrote:I give up. It’s hard to to stay optimistic. He worked his ass off at his private school, got mid-1500 on his SAT, continued his in person volunteering throughout the pandemic (which I was not excited about, but he wanted to do it). He has had one B+ his entire 4 years of college, the rest As. His teachers speak highly of him and I believe they must have written good letters.

His counselor said his list was solid. He’s been waitlisted or rejected nearly everywhere. He has one acceptance to a “likely” and that’s it. Only one place teaming and it’s a huge reach, esp this year.

It’s hard to stay positive, happy, and upbeat for my kid. He is unexcited about the one place he got in. I know I should try to point out the positives of getting in that one place but it is so hard. I wish he would defer and take a gap year. I brought it up once but he said he isn’t interested.

I’m not thrilled with his college counselor at school. She hasn’t even checked in on his to see how he is doing. I give up on that process too. He is crushed. I am crushed for him.

I’d anyone else having this horrible of a situation? And please don’t say, “my love sucks too, my daughter only got into Emory and not Brown” or some such nonsense. His safety he got in is a safety for everyone.

This is the part that doesn't make sense. He shouldn't be stuck with a true "safety for everyone" type school if he has > 1500 and near straight As. Did he take APs? How did he do on the tests?

Not OP, but have a friend with DC in similar boat - perfect subject test scores, perfect SAT, straight As, varsity athlete, consistent ECs. W/Led @ ED1/ED2 at an Ivy, top SLAC. Rejected EA at two top publics. WLed @ some others. Admitted at a safety which doesn't crack top 100 national universities or top 50 public universities lists. Still hopes to get in off WL at the more competitive schools.

Def happening this year for White or Asian males...

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Anonymous wrote:I give up. It’s hard to to stay optimistic. He worked his ass off at his private school, got mid-1500 on his SAT, continued his in person volunteering throughout the pandemic (which I was not excited about, but he wanted to do it). He has had one B+ his entire 4 years of college, the rest As. His teachers speak highly of him and I believe they must have written good letters.

His counselor said his list was solid. He’s been waitlisted or rejected nearly everywhere. He has one acceptance to a “likely” and that’s it. Only one place teaming and it’s a huge reach, esp this year.

It’s hard to stay positive, happy, and upbeat for my kid. He is unexcited about the one place he got in. I know I should try to point out the positives of getting in that one place but it is so hard. I wish he would defer and take a gap year. I brought it up once but he said he isn’t interested.

I’m not thrilled with his college counselor at school. She hasn’t even checked in on his to see how he is doing. I give up on that process too. He is crushed. I am crushed for him.

I’d anyone else having this horrible of a situation? And please don’t say, “my love sucks too, my daughter only got into Emory and not Brown” or some such nonsense. His safety he got in is a safety for everyone.

This is the part that doesn't make sense. He shouldn't be stuck with a true "safety for everyone" type school if he has > 1500 and near straight As. Did he take APs? How did he do on the tests?

Not OP, but have a friend with DC in similar boat - perfect subject test scores, perfect SAT, straight As, varsity athlete, consistent ECs. W/Led @ ED1/ED2 at an Ivy, top SLAC. Rejected EA at two top publics. WLed @ some others. Admitted at a safety which doesn't crack top 100 national universities or top 50 public universities lists. Still hopes to get in off WL at the more competitive schools.

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Anonymous wrote:I give up. It’s hard to to stay optimistic. He worked his ass off at his private school, got mid-1500 on his SAT, continued his in person volunteering throughout the pandemic (which I was not excited about, but he wanted to do it). He has had one B+ his entire 4 years of college, the rest As. His teachers speak highly of him and I believe they must have written good letters.

His counselor said his list was solid. He’s been waitlisted or rejected nearly everywhere. He has one acceptance to a “likely” and that’s it. Only one place teaming and it’s a huge reach, esp this year.

It’s hard to stay positive, happy, and upbeat for my kid. He is unexcited about the one place he got in. I know I should try to point out the positives of getting in that one place but it is so hard. I wish he would defer and take a gap year. I brought it up once but he said he isn’t interested.

I’m not thrilled with his college counselor at school. She hasn’t even checked in on his to see how he is doing. I give up on that process too. He is crushed. I am crushed for him.

I’d anyone else having this horrible of a situation? And please don’t say, “my love sucks too, my daughter only got into Emory and not Brown” or some such nonsense. His safety he got in is a safety for everyone.

This is the part that doesn't make sense. He shouldn't be stuck with a true "safety for everyone" type school if he has > 1500 and near straight As. Did he take APs? How did he do on the tests?

Not OP, but have a friend with DC in similar boat - perfect subject test scores, perfect SAT, straight As, varsity athlete, consistent ECs. W/Led @ ED1/ED2 at an Ivy, top SLAC. Rejected EA at two top publics. WLed @ some others. Admitted at a safety which doesn't crack top 100 national universities or top 50 public universities lists. Still hopes to get in off WL at the more competitive schools.

Sadly, this is not a terribly uncommon story this year.

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Anonymous wrote:I give up. It’s hard to to stay optimistic. He worked his ass off at his private school, got mid-1500 on his SAT, continued his in person volunteering throughout the pandemic (which I was not excited about, but he wanted to do it). He has had one B+ his entire 4 years of college, the rest As. His teachers speak highly of him and I believe they must have written good letters.

His counselor said his list was solid. He’s been waitlisted or rejected nearly everywhere. He has one acceptance to a “likely” and that’s it. Only one place teaming and it’s a huge reach, esp this year.

It’s hard to stay positive, happy, and upbeat for my kid. He is unexcited about the one place he got in. I know I should try to point out the positives of getting in that one place but it is so hard. I wish he would defer and take a gap year. I brought it up once but he said he isn’t interested.

I’m not thrilled with his college counselor at school. She hasn’t even checked in on his to see how he is doing. I give up on that process too. He is crushed. I am crushed for him.

I’d anyone else having this horrible of a situation? And please don’t say, “my love sucks too, my daughter only got into Emory and not Brown” or some such nonsense. His safety he got in is a safety for everyone.

This is the part that doesn't make sense. He shouldn't be stuck with a true "safety for everyone" type school if he has > 1500 and near straight As. Did he take APs? How did he do on the tests?

Not OP, but have a friend with DC in similar boat - perfect subject test scores, perfect SAT, straight As, varsity athlete, consistent ECs. W/Led @ ED1/ED2 at an Ivy, top SLAC. Rejected EA at two top publics. WLed @ some others. Admitted at a safety which doesn't crack top 100 national universities or top 50 public universities lists. Still hopes to get in off WL at the more competitive schools.

Sadly, this is not a terribly uncommon story this year.

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Anonymous wrote:I give up. It’s hard to to stay optimistic. He worked his ass off at his private school, got mid-1500 on his SAT, continued his in person volunteering throughout the pandemic (which I was not excited about, but he wanted to do it). He has had one B+ his entire 4 years of college, the rest As. His teachers speak highly of him and I believe they must have written good letters.

His counselor said his list was solid. He’s been waitlisted or rejected nearly everywhere. He has one acceptance to a “likely” and that’s it. Only one place teaming and it’s a huge reach, esp this year.

It’s hard to stay positive, happy, and upbeat for my kid. He is unexcited about the one place he got in. I know I should try to point out the positives of getting in that one place but it is so hard. I wish he would defer and take a gap year. I brought it up once but he said he isn’t interested.

I’m not thrilled with his college counselor at school. She hasn’t even checked in on his to see how he is doing. I give up on that process too. He is crushed. I am crushed for him.

I’d anyone else having this horrible of a situation? And please don’t say, “my love sucks too, my daughter only got into Emory and not Brown” or some such nonsense. His safety he got in is a safety for everyone.

This is the part that doesn't make sense. He shouldn't be stuck with a true "safety for everyone" type school if he has > 1500 and near straight As. Did he take APs? How did he do on the tests?

Not OP, but have a friend with DC in similar boat - perfect subject test scores, perfect SAT, straight As, varsity athlete, consistent ECs. W/Led @ ED1/ED2 at an Ivy, top SLAC. Rejected EA at two top publics. WLed @ some others. Admitted at a safety which doesn't crack top 100 national universities or top 50 public universities lists. Still hopes to get in off WL at the more competitive schools.

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Anonymous wrote:I give up. It’s hard to to stay optimistic. He worked his ass off at his private school, got mid-1500 on his SAT, continued his in person volunteering throughout the pandemic (which I was not excited about, but he wanted to do it). He has had one B+ his entire 4 years of college, the rest As. His teachers speak highly of him and I believe they must have written good letters.

His counselor said his list was solid. He’s been waitlisted or rejected nearly everywhere. He has one acceptance to a “likely” and that’s it. Only one place teaming and it’s a huge reach, esp this year.

It’s hard to stay positive, happy, and upbeat for my kid. He is unexcited about the one place he got in. I know I should try to point out the positives of getting in that one place but it is so hard. I wish he would defer and take a gap year. I brought it up once but he said he isn’t interested.

I’m not thrilled with his college counselor at school. She hasn’t even checked in on his to see how he is doing. I give up on that process too. He is crushed. I am crushed for him.

I’d anyone else having this horrible of a situation? And please don’t say, “my love sucks too, my daughter only got into Emory and not Brown” or some such nonsense. His safety he got in is a safety for everyone.

This is the part that doesn't make sense. He shouldn't be stuck with a true "safety for everyone" type school if he has > 1500 and near straight As. Did he take APs? How did he do on the tests?

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Anonymous wrote:I hope this college admissions cycle has parents questioning this insanity and what it does to our kids. https://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/967617.page

Parents are cursing the insanity. But if a kid wants to go to college, you have to go through the application process. The process has to change.

Curious—-how? I mean one of my kids is years away from this process. I can’t imagine it getting even tougher than it is right now.

+ 1 This is overwhelming and depressing.

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Anonymous wrote:I hope this college admissions cycle has parents questioning this insanity and what it does to our kids. https://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/967617.page

Parents are cursing the insanity. But if a kid wants to go to college, you have to go through the application process. The process has to change.

Curious—-how? I mean one of my kids is years away from this process. I can’t imagine it getting even tougher than it is right now.

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Anonymous wrote:At our school it is simply not allowed. They claim it shows students are serious about each of the 10 schools they applied to, so colleges know the kid isn’t throwing spaghetti at the wall.

In a pandemic year this struck me as being very unfair. Seems like hogwash to me.

Maybe DD could have gotten around it by applying to schools where you self-submit, but the counselors go over each and every intended college application, they fully expect you to update your lists and to let them know of any changes.

Counselors and teachers have a deadline to submit their recommendations and transcripts into the common app. If I recall, it gets sent to all the schools that the student has selected. There's also an option which allows you to "turn on" a feature so that your counselor can review all your applications. After they have done what they need to do, turn that feature off and add all the other schools. What can they do? Your kid will already be in the final semester of HS or close by then. F them!