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Anonymous wrote:Hey try to keep up the baby mama and kid are moving into her house.

Where is this posted?

https://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/1315722.page

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Hey try to keep up the baby mama and kid are moving into her house.

Where is this posted?

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Hey try to keep up the baby mama and kid are moving into her house.

Where is this posted?

Anonymous wrote:Hey try to keep up the baby mama and kid are moving into her house.

Anonymous wrote:I didn't find what was said about the name on the birth certificate, but in my state if parents are unmarried the mom is not allowed to put any last name other than her own. At least that was the case about 10 yeas ago.

Longtime friend of mine had a cryptic pregnancy. On bc, spotted through the pregnancy, wore a bikini the day before she went to the ER with pain and ended up delivering a full term baby. She was engaged but that didn't last long after the baby appeared. Her uterus was tipped, she mostly had very bad back pain that had sent her to the ER. She was later diagnosed with bipolar disorder, whether that was a factor in her not being aware of the pregnancy I cannot say (didn't know her at the time). The dad turned out to be abusive but ended up with custody due to her mental health issues, the daughter is grown up and successful and happy.

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Anonymous wrote:It was a cryptic pregnancy, people.

Read up on it. There are women with irregular cycles who cannot know they are pregnant the normal way. At-home urine tests come up negative if done past two months of pregnancy, because there is too much HCG for it to turn positive. Some women bleed a little during their pregnancies, and might mistake that for a period. Some women, particularly overweight ones, don't show very much until the last minute, if it's their first pregnancy.

In short, yes, it happens.

Hey I am OP Saturday Feb 21

You helped my whole family out. Thank you for real

Hey OP I have a great deal for you! The Brooklyn Bridge is for sale for only a few thousand dollars. Just wire the money and it’s yours!

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Anonymous wrote:It was a cryptic pregnancy, people.

Read up on it. There are women with irregular cycles who cannot know they are pregnant the normal way. At-home urine tests come up negative if done past two months of pregnancy, because there is too much HCG for it to turn positive. Some women bleed a little during their pregnancies, and might mistake that for a period. Some women, particularly overweight ones, don't show very much until the last minute, if it's their first pregnancy.

In short, yes, it happens.

Hey I am OP Saturday Feb 21

You helped my whole family out. Thank you for real

Anonymous wrote:It was a cryptic pregnancy, people.

Read up on it. There are women with irregular cycles who cannot know they are pregnant the normal way. At-home urine tests come up negative if done past two months of pregnancy, because there is too much HCG for it to turn positive. Some women bleed a little during their pregnancies, and might mistake that for a period. Some women, particularly overweight ones, don't show very much until the last minute, if it's their first pregnancy.

In short, yes, it happens.

Anonymous wrote:OP here.

I got a text message I didn’t see for 2 hours. Please Please Mom call me. 3pm. I called back 2x but apparently Verizon was down in our area for a little while. I even texted his dad (my ex) saying what’s the emergency I can’t get through. Never heard back from the ex.

Son called back at 8pm and told me the story. They had the Planned Parenthood appointment today.

Regardless of the story I just told him, she has all the choices. Welcome to adulthood. Women don’t have the choice when they have to bleed every month with pain and carry pregnancies and give birth and breastfeed, and you have had your choices all along.

I said:

“OK, so this is where you grow up. It’s not the end of the world, this is no one’s first rodeo. This has happened throughout history. You have a good support system whatever she chooses - but it’s not your choice because you’re not the one who gets to make the choice now, and she has many choices that no longer involve you.

She can terminate the pregnancy. She can deliver the baby and give it up for adoption. She can have the baby and keep it and you’ll have to pay child support for up to 22 years. It’s no longer your choice. Your choice was to have sex.”

The thing is, they don’t know how far along she is. He did ask how hard is it to give a baby up for adoption. I said, “it’s very easy legally to give a newborn up for adoption. But it’s very hard emotionally, traumatic, actually, and you will have to live with that for the rest of your life. You will never forget it. And it’s even worse on (his girlfriend’s name)”

“We are a support system for you always. But I can’t solve this one for you. I can’t show up at the appointment for you. I can’t have any opinion. I can’t have any input. That’s what being an adult means, your mom and dad can’t do anything today, you are the adult today.”

That’s all I had. He asked me not to tell anyone, including his dad, of course I would not do that.

I think I just told him, “things will be OK no matter what you decide, I can’t promise that they will you ever be the same, but this is not a new thing and for centuries people have found ways around it. Whatever decision you both make will be OK in the end.”

Anonymous wrote:The $hit show isn't over.
The young mother who delivered this surprise is someone everyone should be wary of.

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Anonymous wrote:OP here

I’m an adoptive parent so I’m not denigrating anyone else’s experience.

However, there are no adoptive parents involved in my son’s situation. He’s a bio parent and so is his gf. No one’s adopting anyone … it was a thought before she went into labor.

But then it all unfolded and the mother of Kevin (aka my son’s girlfriend) got to make all the choices.

The baby exists and his mom has him. I have tried in the last 3 weeks of my only experience in this to support her. I’m not going for a hero award.

But I do hope I have a profound background of experience where I’m at the age where I’m definitely not buying a trip to Puerto Rico over supporting this traumatized new mom and helping give her supplies for this new baby that is my son’s child.

Like come on. What is the money for

It’s quite possible that the baby is not your sons or that there is some mental illness going on with the mother. She may be unfit and adoption should still be on the table. You are enabling dysfunction by being her financial support person.

There is absolutely no inkling whatsoever that adoption was EVER on the table. Shut up, you vulture. Stop rooting for someone’s family to be torn apart. You ghoul.

How would you know whether there was no inkling of adoption on the table? This is NOT a family. It’s a mentally ill mother who is no prepared to be a mother and a blindsided father. Their relationship is over. There is no coming back from a break of trust in something like this. Your son will rightfully never fully believe that she had no idea or never trust that she isn’t intellectually challenged. Their relationship presence of a boundary stomping grandma with delusional Norman Rockwell visions is not going to help things.

Adoption really is best for the baby in this situation. He could be adopted by a couple that is ready both emotionally and financially as well as thrilled to have a baby. Stop being selfish or at least leave them alone to deal with this.

You don’t get to decide for this family, nor define family. Kevin has a mom that loves him and a grandmother that has the means and willingness to provide support as needed. All of you who are painting Kevin’s dad as a victim are way off base. He was intimate with this woman throughout the cryptic pregnancy and he didn’t notice anything either! Furthermore, he’s a 27 year old man and knows how conception occurs. There’s always a chance birth control will fail. He shouldn’t be protected from paying child support. Why would anyone want their innocent grandchild to suffer.