Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Does she otherwise have shitty boundaries? Are you guys jewish?

Jews HATE tickling.

I'm a tickle hating Jew. I never realized it was related.

Anonymous wrote:This may be the DH problem but OP may be the one to solve it. Clearly the MIL doesn’t have any respect for son and he sounds like a doormat. Just call her out more OP and embarrass her. Like “wow, that’s so weird you tickle your grown son, even when he says to stop”. And it is weird.

That seems like a bad idea. There’s pretty much no way to say it and not offend MIL and come off looking like the mean DIL. Of course MIL is wrong, but it’s between DH and MIL. Of course you could ask DH if he wants you to talk to his mom about stopping the tickling, by I wouldn’t do it without discussing it with him first. He’s an adult, knows his mom very well, and can decide if he wants to pursue it. If MIL could be reasonable about the discussion, it might be okay for OP to say something, but if she were reasonable, OP wouldn’t need to say something.

This may be the DH problem but OP may be the one to solve it. Clearly the MIL doesn’t have any respect for son and he sounds like a doormat. Just call her out more OP and embarrass her. Like “wow, that’s so weird you tickle your grown son, even when he says to stop”. And it is weird.

Anonymous wrote:Does she otherwise have shitty boundaries? Are you guys jewish?

Jews HATE tickling.

I'm laughing at the idea of your husband not telling her to knock it off. Two things would happen - she'd either stop being annoying, or she'd be offended and never visit you again. From his perspective, that's win-win!

Anonymous wrote:"Mary, in this house, we treat each other's bodies and boundaries with respect. Jason does not want to be tickled. If you can't respect that, you may leave and let us know when you can."

Nope. Then you’re the bitch DIL. DH has to say it.

Anonymous wrote:My concern would be for the kids seeing this. Overruling his clear lack of consent is not a good thing to be modeling for them. “If a family member touches you in ways that make you upset, just grin and bear it so that you don’t hurt their feelings.” Yeah. Not okay.

THIS.

"Mary, in this house, we treat each other's bodies and boundaries with respect. Jason does not want to be tickled. If you can't respect that, you may leave and let us know when you can."

Honestly, though, if this is your biggest life problem you’re doing OK

Let me guess: she doesn't have any daughters?

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Almost as creepy as that other post with the dad sharing the bed with a 12 year old daughter.

He shared a bed with his son. Daughter had her own bed in the shared hotel room.

Wrong thread. She's talking about this one:

https://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/767217.page

And, if his mother is doing this and is southern Baptist I guarantee you she isn't ever respecting any boundaries. ~ fellow southerner