Anonymous wrote:What's interesting of for me is that I am in almost daily contact with her relatives, and they seem more optimistic and in good spirits than she - and they have the bombs falling on their heads.

My life did not stop when my father died, nor when my brother was serving in Iraq and Afghanistan.

I've suggested therapy for DW, and basically got a f**k off.

Why do you care so much about your birthday? It's really weird, unless you're 11 or something.

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Anonymous wrote:You again? I hope she divorces you because you’re being a pretty cold-blooded asshole about this. Sorry the invasion of your wife’s home country is interfering with her playing cruise director to the rest of family and you’re not having to get off your ass and actually parent.

Link to his other posts? I decided he was a jerk just based on this one though!

https://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/1047500.page

Thanks. Though, just read he claims that is not him?

OP here. My DW does not volunteer for anything. Sorry. But you are wrong.

Well, maybe you should figure out who that other guy is so you can both complain about your wives together. Your wife sounds like she is having some major problems. I hope she gets the help she needs. I hope you get the BBQ you want. Happy birthday.

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Anonymous wrote:You again? I hope she divorces you because you’re being a pretty cold-blooded asshole about this. Sorry the invasion of your wife’s home country is interfering with her playing cruise director to the rest of family and you’re not having to get off your ass and actually parent.

Link to his other posts? I decided he was a jerk just based on this one though!

https://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/1047500.page

Thanks. Though, just read he claims that is not him?

OP here. My DW does not volunteer for anything. Sorry. But you are wrong.

What's interesting of for me is that I am in almost daily contact with her relatives, and they seem more optimistic and in good spirits than she - and they have the bombs falling on their heads.

My life did not stop when my father died, nor when my brother was serving in Iraq and Afghanistan.

I've suggested therapy for DW, and basically got a f**k off.

Anonymous wrote:I’m the OP. The previous link is not me. Butctfabhs fur jumping to that conclusion.

DW needs psychological help. Yes, her family members in Ukraine are under fire and she worries about them, but that does but give her the right to kick it ge metaphorical dog. I had simply wanted to get BBQ for my birthday abs she freaked out about “how can I think about celebrating” in a war. Well, Ukraine is not the only war - look at the suffering in Yemen or Ethiopia. They are my getting the sympathy the Western news coverage gets, so we could celebrate your birthday? I’ll let that go now, but she stepped over the line when she told me “I hope your b***tch mother dies soon. I’ll be sure to dance on her grave.” I no longer have any compassion for her.

omg.. you are a fool. I don't think she should take her issues out on her family, but wars in other countries is not the same to her as a war happening in Ukraine, her home country where her friends and family are, you dumbsh1t. Get a clue.

And that war in Urkaine has zip to do with me, but even I can sympathize with your wife. The fact that you cannot even understand how your wife might be feeling in these times as her husband says more about you than her.

I feel so badly for her.

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Anonymous wrote:You again? I hope she divorces you because you’re being a pretty cold-blooded asshole about this. Sorry the invasion of your wife’s home country is interfering with her playing cruise director to the rest of family and you’re not having to get off your ass and actually parent.

Link to his other posts? I decided he was a jerk just based on this one though!

https://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/1047500.page

Thanks. Though, just read he claims that is not him?

Oh my gosh, you’re right! And we all know it’s impossible for someone to lie on an anonymous message board to avoid being called out for being a shitbag!

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Anonymous wrote:So OP’s DW is justified in telling him she will dance a celebratory dance on his mother’s grave? I don’t care who you are or what emotional stress you are under, that is vile and requires an apology.

I agree. It just shows that most of these posters are just as vile and self absorbed to think it is ok. Posters also seem to bypassed that OPs wife was able to celebrate while war and suffering occurs in other countries, but everyone should stop because Ukrainians are at war.

So, let me get this straight: you'd just feel the same if your own sister, brother, nieces and nephews, elderly parents and friends were in a combat area, with homes where three generations live together, and those are being burned to the ground? Your own family being evacuated, moved around in a cold, watching death and being killed?!

Stop pretending that humans should feel the same about a war in a country that they can't even find on a map and the war their own family members are going through!
We can feel for human suffering, but as humans, we're evolutionary shaped to care the most about our own family (and our nation, consequently).
The fact that OP doesn't feel like the mother of his children is suffering and going through some of the most intense feelings of desperation and fear is telling. She is less than a companion for him. And that's brutal.

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Anonymous wrote:So OP’s DW is justified in telling him she will dance a celebratory dance on his mother’s grave? I don’t care who you are or what emotional stress you are under, that is vile and requires an apology.

I agree. It just shows that most of these posters are just as vile and self absorbed to think it is ok. Posters also seem to bypassed that OPs wife was able to celebrate while war and suffering occurs in other countries, but everyone should stop because Ukrainians are at war.

No. Most people are smart enough to know we’re getting one side of the story. I’m sure hers sounds very different.

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Anonymous wrote:I’m the OP. The previous link is not me. Butctfabhs fur jumping to that conclusion.

DW needs psychological help. Yes, her family members in Ukraine are under fire and she worries about them, but that does but give her the right to kick it ge metaphorical dog. I had simply wanted to get BBQ for my birthday abs she freaked out about “how can I think about celebrating” in a war. Well, Ukraine is not the only war - look at the suffering in Yemen or Ethiopia. They are my getting the sympathy the Western news coverage gets, so we could celebrate your birthday? I’ll let that go now, but she stepped over the line when she told me “I hope your b***tch mother dies soon. I’ll be sure to dance on her grave.” I no longer have any compassion for her.

“Would you please stop thinking about your loved ones who could be slaughtered in the streets and just get me some BBQ?”

Exactly, we came to America to leave that negativity behind, stop living in the past, you should only care if America gets invaded

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Anonymous wrote:You again? I hope she divorces you because you’re being a pretty cold-blooded asshole about this. Sorry the invasion of your wife’s home country is interfering with her playing cruise director to the rest of family and you’re not having to get off your ass and actually parent.

Link to his other posts? I decided he was a jerk just based on this one though!

https://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/1047500.page

Thanks. Though, just read he claims that is not him?

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Anonymous wrote:You again? I hope she divorces you because you’re being a pretty cold-blooded asshole about this. Sorry the invasion of your wife’s home country is interfering with her playing cruise director to the rest of family and you’re not having to get off your ass and actually parent.

Link to his other posts? I decided he was a jerk just based on this one though!

https://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/1047500.page

Anonymous wrote:You again? I hope she divorces you because you’re being a pretty cold-blooded asshole about this. Sorry the invasion of your wife’s home country is interfering with her playing cruise director to the rest of family and you’re not having to get off your ass and actually parent.

Link to his other posts? I decided he was a jerk just based on this one though!

What? Are you for real op? Like a human being, with feelings? You should suggest help and therapy and understanding while explaining that her anger at kids and you might be misplaced. Sounds to me it is not misplaced and you are all jerks to her.
And I do know something about war, being from former Yugoslavia.

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Anonymous wrote:So OP’s DW is justified in telling him she will dance a celebratory dance on his mother’s grave? I don’t care who you are or what emotional stress you are under, that is vile and requires an apology.

He already said he didn’t care if her family died, so I’d call them even.

And his mother probably said something to warrant the comment anyway.

When did he say he did not care if her family died. There’s no need to lie to justify the wife’s vile statement.

Anonymous wrote:So OP’s DW is justified in telling him she will dance a celebratory dance on his mother’s grave? I don’t care who you are or what emotional stress you are under, that is vile and requires an apology.

I agree. It just shows that most of these posters are just as vile and self absorbed to think it is ok. Posters also seem to bypassed that OPs wife was able to celebrate while war and suffering occurs in other countries, but everyone should stop because Ukrainians are at war.