Anonymous
01/07/2025 12:15
Subject: S/O - Why does DCUM hate this kind of woman so much?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Spinoff from this thread in Beauty and Fashion.
TL/DR - A woman is miffed that her recently laid off cousin showed up at Thanksgiving looking nice. Too nice. She cites the woman's Cartier Love bracelet and VCA necklace as evidence that the cousin was obnoxiously "dripping" in designer goods. Posters rightly pointed out that the woman only had a few designer items on and OP likely only noticed them because she was jealous and wanted them herself. Shockingly, OP has not returned. (https://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/1242233.page)
But here's what I'm really curious about. Someone posted this:
This may be an unpopular opinion but I like basic rich suburban mom style. It’s not me but give me a highlighted hair, nails done, lulu wearing soccer mom with Cartier bangles and a van cleef arpel necklace any day. You know it’s not unique and you don’t feel like you need to prove you are interesting with what you are wearing. I say, get it girl. Grab your neverfull and pick up those kiddos from soccer practice.
Why does DCUM hate this woman so much? I think the whole "I prefer a WASPier aesthetic" thing is just pretext. Because she's happy to lean in to conventional design aesthetics? Is it because this woman is competition for higher value men? I just don't get it.
Dcum women hate this but men love it
She is young, fit, and blond. I don’t think she is about the brand of her clothes.
Anonymous
01/07/2025 12:14
Subject: S/O - Why does DCUM hate this kind of woman so much?
Anonymous wrote:+100 Has a man ever complimented you on your purse? It doesn't happen.Anonymous wrote:Oh trust me, all men hate your purse. If a woman can go out without a damn purse, she is a real keeper to me.Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Why are you attacking me? The OP posted this asking for a Male's perspective. So of course almost all the replies are from women. I'll say it again. As a man, we think that any women who pays thousands of $ for purse is an idiot as we hate purses in general. Same for your expensive jewelry. It's just baubles that you purchased and it doesn't do anything to heighten your status anymore than the car I drove up in, or the watch I'm wearing does for me.Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:You're looking for a male perspective? Men don't care about your jewelry and most of us don't know a $20 handbag from a $1,000 designer purse. We do notice your clothes, heels, figure, face, eyes and attitude. Wear that crap to impress, or piss off your women friends. We don't care.
Actually we do all kinds of things all day that aren’t about trying to get you to want to f$& us! It’s amazing to think about.
You would hate purses in general? What a weird comment.
I mean, I can see why men hate those old lady purses where you carry everything but the kitchen sink. But as someone who didn’t carry a purse until I had kids, I don’t buy it. It’s one of those things men complain about but find kind of feminizing.
Anonymous
01/07/2025 12:10
Subject: S/O - Why does DCUM hate this kind of woman so much?
Anonymous wrote:Spinoff from this thread in Beauty and Fashion.
TL/DR - A woman is miffed that her recently laid off cousin showed up at Thanksgiving looking nice. Too nice. She cites the woman's Cartier Love bracelet and VCA necklace as evidence that the cousin was obnoxiously "dripping" in designer goods. Posters rightly pointed out that the woman only had a few designer items on and OP likely only noticed them because she was jealous and wanted them herself. Shockingly, OP has not returned. (https://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/1242233.page)
But here's what I'm really curious about. Someone posted this:
This may be an unpopular opinion but I like basic rich suburban mom style. It’s not me but give me a highlighted hair, nails done, lulu wearing soccer mom with Cartier bangles and a van cleef arpel necklace any day. You know it’s not unique and you don’t feel like you need to prove you are interesting with what you are wearing. I say, get it girl. Grab your neverfull and pick up those kiddos from soccer practice.
Why does DCUM hate this woman so much? I think the whole "I prefer a WASPier aesthetic" thing is just pretext. Because she's happy to lean in to conventional design aesthetics? Is it because this woman is competition for higher value men? I just don't get it.
Dcum women hate this but men love it
Anonymous
01/03/2025 16:01
Subject: S/O - Why does DCUM hate this kind of woman so much?
+100 Has a man ever complimented you on your purse? It doesn't happen.Anonymous wrote:Oh trust me, all men hate your purse. If a woman can go out without a damn purse, she is a real keeper to me.Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Why are you attacking me? The OP posted this asking for a Male's perspective. So of course almost all the replies are from women. I'll say it again. As a man, we think that any women who pays thousands of $ for purse is an idiot as we hate purses in general. Same for your expensive jewelry. It's just baubles that you purchased and it doesn't do anything to heighten your status anymore than the car I drove up in, or the watch I'm wearing does for me.Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:You're looking for a male perspective? Men don't care about your jewelry and most of us don't know a $20 handbag from a $1,000 designer purse. We do notice your clothes, heels, figure, face, eyes and attitude. Wear that crap to impress, or piss off your women friends. We don't care.
Actually we do all kinds of things all day that aren’t about trying to get you to want to f$& us! It’s amazing to think about.
You would hate purses in general? What a weird comment.
Anonymous
01/03/2025 15:59
Subject: S/O - Why does DCUM hate this kind of woman so much?
I have. And as evidence of how little men care, notice that I'm likely the only man to respond in this thread, even though the OP asked for a man's perspective. You're welcome.Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Why are you attacking me? The OP posted this asking for a Male's perspective. So of course almost all the replies are from women. I'll say it again. As a man, we think that any women who pays thousands of $ for purse is an idiot as we hate purses in general. Same for your expensive jewelry. It's just baubles that you purchased and it doesn't do anything to heighten your status anymore than the car I drove up in, or the watch I'm wearing does for me.Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:You're looking for a male perspective? Men don't care about your jewelry and most of us don't know a $20 handbag from a $1,000 designer purse. We do notice your clothes, heels, figure, face, eyes and attitude. Wear that crap to impress, or piss off your women friends. We don't care.
Actually we do all kinds of things all day that aren’t about trying to get you to want to f$& us! It’s amazing to think about.
haha well i guess case closed then. hear that lay-dees? the man has spoken.
Anonymous
01/03/2025 15:57
Subject: S/O - Why does DCUM hate this kind of woman so much?
Oh trust me, all men hate your purse. If a woman can go out without a damn purse, she is a real keeper to me.Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Why are you attacking me? The OP posted this asking for a Male's perspective. So of course almost all the replies are from women. I'll say it again. As a man, we think that any women who pays thousands of $ for purse is an idiot as we hate purses in general. Same for your expensive jewelry. It's just baubles that you purchased and it doesn't do anything to heighten your status anymore than the car I drove up in, or the watch I'm wearing does for me.Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:You're looking for a male perspective? Men don't care about your jewelry and most of us don't know a $20 handbag from a $1,000 designer purse. We do notice your clothes, heels, figure, face, eyes and attitude. Wear that crap to impress, or piss off your women friends. We don't care.
Actually we do all kinds of things all day that aren’t about trying to get you to want to f$& us! It’s amazing to think about.
You would hate purses in general? What a weird comment.
Anonymous
01/03/2025 12:17
Subject: Re:S/O - Why does DCUM hate this kind of woman so much?
Anonymous wrote:I don't think women dress like this to signal style and sophistication. They dress like this to signal something; in upper middle class suburbia a lot of safe boring moms adhere to these particular labels and items to visual communicate that they are a. well to do b. aware of the trends and c. fit in.
This look says I am rich and have the disposable income to buy a few select designer items. I am not middle class, I am above middle class. The lulus say, a. I am fit and have the resources and time to devote to my thinness and b. I am rich so I don't mind spending $120 on luxury workout wear. The expensive processed hair says I am rich enough to afford maintenance of this type of hair.
This look does not signal style or taste; it an attempt at signaling wealth in UMC suburbia
All this plus it's about fitting in with all the other women around them who dress like this.
Anonymous
01/03/2025 12:12
Subject: Re:S/O - Why does DCUM hate this kind of woman so much?
I don't think women dress like this to signal style and sophistication. They dress like this to signal something; in upper middle class suburbia a lot of safe boring moms adhere to these particular labels and items to visual communicate that they are a. well to do b. aware of the trends and c. fit in.
This look says I am rich and have the disposable income to buy a few select designer items. I am not middle class, I am above middle class. The lulus say, a. I am fit and have the resources and time to devote to my thinness and b. I am rich so I don't mind spending $120 on luxury workout wear. The expensive processed hair says I am rich enough to afford maintenance of this type of hair.
This look does not signal style or taste; it an attempt at signaling wealth in UMC suburbia
This look says I am rich and have the disposable income to buy a few select designer items. I am not middle class, I am above middle class. The lulus say, a. I am fit and have the resources and time to devote to my thinness and b. I am rich so I don't mind spending $120 on luxury workout wear. The expensive processed hair says I am rich enough to afford maintenance of this type of hair.
This look does not signal style or taste; it an attempt at signaling wealth in UMC suburbia
Anonymous
01/03/2025 12:01
Subject: S/O - Why does DCUM hate this kind of woman so much?
Anonymous wrote:Why are you attacking me? The OP posted this asking for a Male's perspective. So of course almost all the replies are from women. I'll say it again. As a man, we think that any women who pays thousands of $ for purse is an idiot as we hate purses in general. Same for your expensive jewelry. It's just baubles that you purchased and it doesn't do anything to heighten your status anymore than the car I drove up in, or the watch I'm wearing does for me.Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:You're looking for a male perspective? Men don't care about your jewelry and most of us don't know a $20 handbag from a $1,000 designer purse. We do notice your clothes, heels, figure, face, eyes and attitude. Wear that crap to impress, or piss off your women friends. We don't care.
Actually we do all kinds of things all day that aren’t about trying to get you to want to f$& us! It’s amazing to think about.
haha well i guess case closed then. hear that lay-dees? the man has spoken.
Anonymous
01/03/2025 11:52
Subject: Re:S/O - Why does DCUM hate this kind of woman so much?
Only one identifiable accessory people, drenched from head to toe in labels is gauche, unoriginal and terrible fashion.
Also, VCA jewelry is so boring ( the identifiable pieces at least) there are beautiful jewelry pieces out there, why buy something so generic that every Tom, Dick and Harris is wearing?
Also, VCA jewelry is so boring ( the identifiable pieces at least) there are beautiful jewelry pieces out there, why buy something so generic that every Tom, Dick and Harris is wearing?
Anonymous
01/03/2025 01:06
Subject: S/O - Why does DCUM hate this kind of woman so much?
Anonymous wrote:Why are you attacking me? The OP posted this asking for a Male's perspective. So of course almost all the replies are from women. I'll say it again. As a man, we think that any women who pays thousands of $ for purse is an idiot as we hate purses in general. Same for your expensive jewelry. It's just baubles that you purchased and it doesn't do anything to heighten your status anymore than the car I drove up in, or the watch I'm wearing does for me.Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:You're looking for a male perspective? Men don't care about your jewelry and most of us don't know a $20 handbag from a $1,000 designer purse. We do notice your clothes, heels, figure, face, eyes and attitude. Wear that crap to impress, or piss off your women friends. We don't care.
Actually we do all kinds of things all day that aren’t about trying to get you to want to f$& us! It’s amazing to think about.
This is OP. This thread jumped the shark long ago, but thanks for adding a male perspective.
Anonymous
12/31/2024 14:39
Subject: S/O - Why does DCUM hate this kind of woman so much?
Anonymous wrote:Why are you attacking me? The OP posted this asking for a Male's perspective. So of course almost all the replies are from women. I'll say it again. As a man, we think that any women who pays thousands of $ for purse is an idiot as we hate purses in general. Same for your expensive jewelry. It's just baubles that you purchased and it doesn't do anything to heighten your status anymore than the car I drove up in, or the watch I'm wearing does for me.Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:You're looking for a male perspective? Men don't care about your jewelry and most of us don't know a $20 handbag from a $1,000 designer purse. We do notice your clothes, heels, figure, face, eyes and attitude. Wear that crap to impress, or piss off your women friends. We don't care.
Actually we do all kinds of things all day that aren’t about trying to get you to want to f$& us! It’s amazing to think about.
You would hate purses in general? What a weird comment.
Anonymous
12/31/2024 14:33
Subject: S/O - Why does DCUM hate this kind of woman so much?
Why are you attacking me? The OP posted this asking for a Male's perspective. So of course almost all the replies are from women. I'll say it again. As a man, we think that any women who pays thousands of $ for purse is an idiot as we hate purses in general. Same for your expensive jewelry. It's just baubles that you purchased and it doesn't do anything to heighten your status anymore than the car I drove up in, or the watch I'm wearing does for me.Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:You're looking for a male perspective? Men don't care about your jewelry and most of us don't know a $20 handbag from a $1,000 designer purse. We do notice your clothes, heels, figure, face, eyes and attitude. Wear that crap to impress, or piss off your women friends. We don't care.
Actually we do all kinds of things all day that aren’t about trying to get you to want to f$& us! It’s amazing to think about.
Anonymous
12/31/2024 14:30
Subject: S/O - Why does DCUM hate this kind of woman so much?
Anonymous wrote:our looking for a male perspective? Men don't care about your jewelry and most of us don't know a $20 handbag from a $1,000 designer purse. We do notice your clothes, heels, figure, face, eyes and attitude. Wear that crap to impress, or piss off your women friends. We don't care.
Ant that's exactly the point -- women don't dress for men or hell even for themselves. They dress to send a message to other women, whether they acknowledge it or not. They wear trendy items to tell them that she pays attention to trends. She bucks trends to say that too. She wears designer pieces to show she has a certain level of wealth and status to be accepted or try to fit in to that crowd. That's the entire point.
Anonymous
12/31/2024 13:04
Subject: S/O - Why does DCUM hate this kind of woman so much?
Anonymous wrote:our looking for a male perspective? Men don't care about your jewelry and most of us don't know a $20 handbag from a $1,000 designer purse. We do notice your clothes, heels, figure, face, eyes and attitude. Wear that crap to impress, or piss off your women friends. We don't care.
No.